Best way to support my Wife?

Hubby said:

Holding it together
We got through the lumpectamy and sentinal node removal (negative biopsy)this week; this is rough; trying to hold her together, saying the right thing, holding myself together. This is all new territory; what my wife really wants is to have not been diagnosed with breast cancer, and I can't fix that. She keeps saying she's sorry, and I keep telling her to stop saying she's sorry; she didn't do anything wrong. I'm just doing what I can; dishes,laundry, getting the kids off to school... but, I do need a copy of the revised rule book; not the one that was revised three weeks ago, or two weeks ago, or Tuesday; but the one that was revised this morning before I left for work; and I could also use the suppliment so I know what to expect when I get home. Thank God it's Friday!

LynnPlatt said:

Support
ScottyR you are getting great advice from all the people here. My husband has been my rock through out my journey. When I was first diagnosed he was more scared than I was. He had already walked this journey with a previous partner that lost the battle. He did not let me know just how scared until we had all the info the doctors could give us. He went to all my appointments, my 3 surgeries and takes me to all my chemo appts. He doesn't show his fear to me, but does share it with others. To me he always shows a kind, comforting, gentle person. At times he just puts me on his lap and holds me without saying anything. At night he will just reach out in bed and hold my hand in his sleep. He has picked up all the extra household chores, cooking and laundry, and my beloved yard work. We have a special bond that nothing can undo. I feel like this has brought us closer instead of driving us apart. All the little things he does, reassures me and gives me strength to keep fighting. Sometimes we just cry together. It is wonderful that you are asking for support. Many men would not do this. Sometimes it is just the most simple things as a kiss or hug, a little smile or gentle brush of his hand that reassures me that I am the woman he loves no matter what the cancer and treatments do.
I remember when he talked about his other partner loosing her hair and how helpless he felt because he couldn't change it or take away her pain. We sat and talked about this, and he helped me decide to shave my head before the hair loss. Get both of you a support system and use them. When the time comes, and she is better you can return the support to another. Keep up the good work. Take care of yourself emotional and physically for you both. May God walk with you on this journey and keep both of you close. Take each day as it comes, enjoy the good times and push through the rough ones.
Lynn