To Chemo OR NOT to Chemo

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  • sbmly53
    sbmly53 Member Posts: 1,522
    I, too, waffled about chemo.
    I, too, waffled about chemo. I did not want it. Especially the port. But, I knew in my heart that I would do it. However, my Oncotype dx number was 4, and I opted out of chemo. I'm 56 yrs old and I worry almost every day that I made the right choice, but it was my decision.

    Take care,

    Sue
  • Angie2U
    Angie2U Member Posts: 2,991
    waffle8 said:

    chemo or not
    I am in the process of trying to decide about my treatment...My doctor told me because I am in the "grey" area that those percentages were not available..... She did tell me that if I chose to have chemo it would be same type and length as yours....My head is spinning from reading all these blogs..It is so over whelming....Hope you are feeling well after your first treament....

    Good luck in whatever you
    Good luck in whatever you decide!

    Hugs, Angie
  • waffle8
    waffle8 Member Posts: 234
    sbmly53 said:

    I, too, waffled about chemo.
    I, too, waffled about chemo. I did not want it. Especially the port. But, I knew in my heart that I would do it. However, my Oncotype dx number was 4, and I opted out of chemo. I'm 56 yrs old and I worry almost every day that I made the right choice, but it was my decision.

    Take care,

    Sue

    chemo or not
    My onco dx score is 20...I have decided not to decide and see another oncologist.. Basically just putting it off...There are so many factors with bc it seems like every story is diff. but basically I hear a lot of just be comfortable with your own personal decision...Thanks

    Babette
  • Kiantae
    Kiantae Member Posts: 29
    No chemo for me, comfortable with my decision.
    I had a small tumor with 2 sentinal nodes positive which historically has been a definite for chemo. My oncologist wanted me to do the oncotype test because newer research has shown that the oncotype results still indicate whether chemo is necessary if the tumor is smaller and 1-3 nodes were positive. Since that way of thinking is pretty new, I asked the various doctors I was seeing what their opinion was. I could tell my surgeon was skeptical and I asked him to present my case to the tumor board and he agreed. He called me after they met and said the panel was comfortable with the recommendation of no chemo if my Oncotype test came back in the low category. The next day I got my Onco score and it was 14. I do have to do radiation, as further review of my tumor by the group showed a need there. When I met with the radiology oncologist, he mentioned my case was also reviewed by a visiting oncologist from UCLA and he agreed he would not recommend chemo either. He was conducting a training session and they used my case for discussion with the class. That being said, 2 other oncologists in the same practice as my doctor would still have recommended chemo. One of the nurses said they are older and had not even read the current studies, they were going with what they were comfortable with. She also said she knows my surgeon and if he was not on board, he would have no trouble telling me to run, not walk to the next city over to be treated. I feel that I have had done my due diligence and I am comfortable with my decision. I start radiation this next Thursday for 33 treatments.
  • ealong1
    ealong1 Member Posts: 7
    I just want to say that I am
    I just want to say that I am very impressed with you. You seem to be taking charge of your outcome. Whatever you decide, I can tell that YOU will know you did the right thing for YOU! What did the second opinion onc say?
  • DebbyM
    DebbyM Member Posts: 3,289 Member
    waffle8 said:

    chemo or not
    My onco dx score is 20...I have decided not to decide and see another oncologist.. Basically just putting it off...There are so many factors with bc it seems like every story is diff. but basically I hear a lot of just be comfortable with your own personal decision...Thanks

    Babette

    What you wrote Babette is so
    What you wrote Babette is so true. Be comfortable with what you decide. After all, it is your decision only. Good luck to you!
  • Gabbie99
    Gabbie99 Member Posts: 17
    ealong1 said:

    I just want to say that I am
    I just want to say that I am very impressed with you. You seem to be taking charge of your outcome. Whatever you decide, I can tell that YOU will know you did the right thing for YOU! What did the second opinion onc say?

    second opinion
    My second opinion at a University hospital was last Friday and after speaking with that oncologist I have decided to take chemotherapy treatment. He said two things that stuck out to me..."your cancer behavior concerns me, even tho your tumor was small- 1.5 centimeter-and it is has been removed it had already thrown cells out to a lymph node, and although your cells do not appear aggressive I am bothered by that behavior" He also said that if I were his sister he would be jumping up and down telling me that I have to do chemotherapy at age 50. It really helped that this guy was awesome! Easy to talk to, spent lots of time with my husband and I, our age bracket and pretty good looking. Of course there were tears in the parking lot, (always do that after any dr appointment), but pretty much had decided when he used that word "behavior". Don't know why that has such an impact, maybe I was just looking for a reason to say yes all along. Still I am scared to death. Just keep telling myself all you wonderful people have done this and more and I will be fine. My goal is to get it all over with before my B-Day on June 20.
  • natly15
    natly15 Member Posts: 1,941
    Gabbie99 said:

    second opinion
    My second opinion at a University hospital was last Friday and after speaking with that oncologist I have decided to take chemotherapy treatment. He said two things that stuck out to me..."your cancer behavior concerns me, even tho your tumor was small- 1.5 centimeter-and it is has been removed it had already thrown cells out to a lymph node, and although your cells do not appear aggressive I am bothered by that behavior" He also said that if I were his sister he would be jumping up and down telling me that I have to do chemotherapy at age 50. It really helped that this guy was awesome! Easy to talk to, spent lots of time with my husband and I, our age bracket and pretty good looking. Of course there were tears in the parking lot, (always do that after any dr appointment), but pretty much had decided when he used that word "behavior". Don't know why that has such an impact, maybe I was just looking for a reason to say yes all along. Still I am scared to death. Just keep telling myself all you wonderful people have done this and more and I will be fine. My goal is to get it all over with before my B-Day on June 20.

    Gabbie I opted for 8 rounds
    Gabbie I opted for 8 rounds of chemo. My tumor was smaller than yours but had already invaded the sentinel lymph node. The other lymph nodes were clean. My onc felt this was the best way to treat it. I will finish my 8th and final round of chemo next Tuesday. My chemo began last October. You can do this. Chemo is not a walk in the park, but is doable as so many pink sisters will tell you. My body will get a rest for approx a month and then I'll go on to 5 weeks of radiation. I'm 67 and looking forward to many more wonderful years just as you will.

    This is scary but as barbaric as it may seem, medical technology has come a long way to help us walk this path of treatment. There is a wealth of knowledge and support here on these boards. I hope you keep posting. Hugs to you.
  • MyTurnNow
    MyTurnNow Member Posts: 2,686 Member
    Gabbie99 said:

    second opinion
    My second opinion at a University hospital was last Friday and after speaking with that oncologist I have decided to take chemotherapy treatment. He said two things that stuck out to me..."your cancer behavior concerns me, even tho your tumor was small- 1.5 centimeter-and it is has been removed it had already thrown cells out to a lymph node, and although your cells do not appear aggressive I am bothered by that behavior" He also said that if I were his sister he would be jumping up and down telling me that I have to do chemotherapy at age 50. It really helped that this guy was awesome! Easy to talk to, spent lots of time with my husband and I, our age bracket and pretty good looking. Of course there were tears in the parking lot, (always do that after any dr appointment), but pretty much had decided when he used that word "behavior". Don't know why that has such an impact, maybe I was just looking for a reason to say yes all along. Still I am scared to death. Just keep telling myself all you wonderful people have done this and more and I will be fine. My goal is to get it all over with before my B-Day on June 20.

    Gabbie, I'm glad you have
    Gabbie, I'm glad you have finally made your decision and it's one you can live with. I am 55 and I had chemo last summer. They have truly come a long way. I never had one day of sickness although I did have some fatigue. Not really much of that either though. I continued to work 40 hours a week and exercised 4-5 times a week. You can do this and you'll be doing it for the right reason. The fear of the unknown is felt by every one of us but know that it is all very do-able. Good luck and let us know your "cocktail" and treatment plan. We'll be with you every step of the way. Take care!!
  • CarrWilson
    CarrWilson Member Posts: 111
    Gabbie99 said:

    second opinion
    My second opinion at a University hospital was last Friday and after speaking with that oncologist I have decided to take chemotherapy treatment. He said two things that stuck out to me..."your cancer behavior concerns me, even tho your tumor was small- 1.5 centimeter-and it is has been removed it had already thrown cells out to a lymph node, and although your cells do not appear aggressive I am bothered by that behavior" He also said that if I were his sister he would be jumping up and down telling me that I have to do chemotherapy at age 50. It really helped that this guy was awesome! Easy to talk to, spent lots of time with my husband and I, our age bracket and pretty good looking. Of course there were tears in the parking lot, (always do that after any dr appointment), but pretty much had decided when he used that word "behavior". Don't know why that has such an impact, maybe I was just looking for a reason to say yes all along. Still I am scared to death. Just keep telling myself all you wonderful people have done this and more and I will be fine. My goal is to get it all over with before my B-Day on June 20.

    I'm not crazy
    My OncotypeDX score was 16, and the recurrence score was 10%, with Tamoxifin my score would drop to 8%. He recommended no chemo, and thought I was kind of crazy for wanting it. (He is a young punk doctor, but very smart). The next time I saw him, he said that he ran my case by another female oncologist that was my age (49) and she said she would do it in a heartbeat. He was much more positive and upbeat after that. Two percent is good enough benefit for me. If I walk into a room of 100 people and I am one of the people missing, I would definately notice, and so would my family. (I asked about the OncotypeDX clinical trial and 11-25 score is still somewhat a gray area)

    I plan to live into my 90's and do not want to let a little thing like breast cancer get in the way. I know I am on the downhill slide, but I have a long time before I hit the dirt. You have to do what you think is in your best interests and follow your gut and heart. I had my first treatment today T/C. So far so good.

    Best of Luck in your treatment and hopefully you will be done before your birthday!

    - Carrie
  • ppurdin
    ppurdin Member Posts: 1,181 Member
    Chemo
    You need to do what you feel in your heart is best for you.It needs to be a decision you can live with.i did do Chemo,I wanted to fight Cancer in any way I could.Good Luck. pat.
  • ppurdin
    ppurdin Member Posts: 1,181 Member
    Chemo
    You need to do what you feel in your heart is best for you.It needs to be a decision you can live with.i did do Chemo,I wanted to fight Cancer in any way I could.Good Luck. pat.
  • ppurdin
    ppurdin Member Posts: 1,181 Member
    Chemo
    You need to do what you feel in your heart is best for you.It needs to be a decision you can live with.i did do Chemo,I wanted to fight Cancer in any way I could.Good Luck. pat.
  • waffle8
    waffle8 Member Posts: 234

    I'm not crazy
    My OncotypeDX score was 16, and the recurrence score was 10%, with Tamoxifin my score would drop to 8%. He recommended no chemo, and thought I was kind of crazy for wanting it. (He is a young punk doctor, but very smart). The next time I saw him, he said that he ran my case by another female oncologist that was my age (49) and she said she would do it in a heartbeat. He was much more positive and upbeat after that. Two percent is good enough benefit for me. If I walk into a room of 100 people and I am one of the people missing, I would definately notice, and so would my family. (I asked about the OncotypeDX clinical trial and 11-25 score is still somewhat a gray area)

    I plan to live into my 90's and do not want to let a little thing like breast cancer get in the way. I know I am on the downhill slide, but I have a long time before I hit the dirt. You have to do what you think is in your best interests and follow your gut and heart. I had my first treatment today T/C. So far so good.

    Best of Luck in your treatment and hopefully you will be done before your birthday!

    - Carrie

    second opinion about chemo
    Finally got an appt. for my second opinion about chemo treatments..I had to practically beg but I refuse to apologize this is my health and I have to look out for me...It was not easy I had to actually say to the nurse that I was stressed out enough did not need more stress from her.....Hoping to get more direction from this new doc.......My dx is IDC [lumpectomy]3 lymph nodes neg. Grade 2 Est/Prog post. Herc neg. oncoscore 20. My age is 45...Did I leave anything out? Anyone have any thoughts.. This site has been an answer to my prayers..Much love and healing to you all..!!!

    Babette
  • orangegirl
    orangegirl Member Posts: 3
    factors
    Gabbie
    I'm new to the site, too but I was diagnosed 14 years ago. I had very agressive chemo to combat a very agressive cancer and even then I was asking myself if it was the right choice. My kids were very young then, 10, 9 and 7. I asked my onc. what my prognosis was without chemo and she said I had a 10-20% chance of surviving 5 years and half that of surviving 10 years. I wanted to finish raising my kids, so I did it. Afterwards I said that if i ever had cancer again, I would not go through that a second time. We have just found a new mass and we don't know if it's cancer or not but I'm already asking myself if I can do it again or not. Now I have a precious grandson who is only 3 and I can't imagine not watching him grow up. As everyone else has said, it's an intensley personal decision and many factors will go into making it. I truly believe that the 13 years I have had since my treatment ended were made possible by the chemo and I think I made the right choice. My grandmother was 72 when she was diagnose with non-hodgkins lymphoma and the family pressured her to get chemo and she thought it was silly at her age. She agreed to try one treatment and she was terribly ill from it so she said "no more". At 72 I would agree that being sick from chemo doesn't seem like much of a trade off but I was only 27 and it made all the difference to me.
    Sending you prayers of comfort,
    E
  • Christine Louise
    Christine Louise Member Posts: 426 Member

    factors
    Gabbie
    I'm new to the site, too but I was diagnosed 14 years ago. I had very agressive chemo to combat a very agressive cancer and even then I was asking myself if it was the right choice. My kids were very young then, 10, 9 and 7. I asked my onc. what my prognosis was without chemo and she said I had a 10-20% chance of surviving 5 years and half that of surviving 10 years. I wanted to finish raising my kids, so I did it. Afterwards I said that if i ever had cancer again, I would not go through that a second time. We have just found a new mass and we don't know if it's cancer or not but I'm already asking myself if I can do it again or not. Now I have a precious grandson who is only 3 and I can't imagine not watching him grow up. As everyone else has said, it's an intensley personal decision and many factors will go into making it. I truly believe that the 13 years I have had since my treatment ended were made possible by the chemo and I think I made the right choice. My grandmother was 72 when she was diagnose with non-hodgkins lymphoma and the family pressured her to get chemo and she thought it was silly at her age. She agreed to try one treatment and she was terribly ill from it so she said "no more". At 72 I would agree that being sick from chemo doesn't seem like much of a trade off but I was only 27 and it made all the difference to me.
    Sending you prayers of comfort,
    E

    Chemo improvements
    I think chemo has improved since the time you had it 14 years ago. The meds for preventing nausea, pain and other complications help people get through it more smoothly than before.

    I hope everything goes well for you. Give that grandbaby a hug.
  • Angie2U
    Angie2U Member Posts: 2,991

    factors
    Gabbie
    I'm new to the site, too but I was diagnosed 14 years ago. I had very agressive chemo to combat a very agressive cancer and even then I was asking myself if it was the right choice. My kids were very young then, 10, 9 and 7. I asked my onc. what my prognosis was without chemo and she said I had a 10-20% chance of surviving 5 years and half that of surviving 10 years. I wanted to finish raising my kids, so I did it. Afterwards I said that if i ever had cancer again, I would not go through that a second time. We have just found a new mass and we don't know if it's cancer or not but I'm already asking myself if I can do it again or not. Now I have a precious grandson who is only 3 and I can't imagine not watching him grow up. As everyone else has said, it's an intensley personal decision and many factors will go into making it. I truly believe that the 13 years I have had since my treatment ended were made possible by the chemo and I think I made the right choice. My grandmother was 72 when she was diagnose with non-hodgkins lymphoma and the family pressured her to get chemo and she thought it was silly at her age. She agreed to try one treatment and she was terribly ill from it so she said "no more". At 72 I would agree that being sick from chemo doesn't seem like much of a trade off but I was only 27 and it made all the difference to me.
    Sending you prayers of comfort,
    E

    Wishing you good luck
    Wishing you good luck orangegirl! Offering you support and strength!

    Hugs, Angie
  • bah2
    bah2 Member Posts: 2
    mimivac said:

    Welcome
    And I'm sorry you had to find us. There are many reasons to pursue or not to pursue chemotherapy. Of course in the end it's a personal decision, but you want to be as informed as you can when you make that decision. That said, I would definitely go for a second opinion on your treatment. Factors to take into consideration would be tumor size, stage, node involvement, hormone receptor status, BRCA status, your age, physical condition, and probaly much more I'm forgetting now. Since your oncologist has recommended Tamoxifen, I'm assuming you are ER and/or PR positive. It's good you have that in your arsenal. Personally I think that one positive node is a good reason to do chemo. It means that the cancer has traveled a bit and the chemo is there to wipe out any microscopic cancer cells in your system. It's an insurance policy. No one will say that chemo is a party, but it is doable. Many, many women here have done Cytoxin and Taxotere. I did them both along with adrimycin. I had no positive nodes, but I was hormone receptor negative, which made my cancer very aggressive. I wish you luck in your decision. A second or even third opinion may help you achieve a comfort level with whatever you end up doing. Again, welcome. The ladies here will help you every step of the way. You're going to be fine.

    Mimi

    harmone receptor negative
    Hi Mimi. I just read your reply to someone else and saw that you are harmone recptor negative. I am too. I am what is called triple negative as my HER2 is also negative. I would love to chat with you or just share email. I have had a very hard time finding someone to talk to who is also hormone recptor negative. It is more rare and I think treated a little different than other breast cancers. Please respond if you would be willing to share with me. Thank you, Barb
  • Gabbie99
    Gabbie99 Member Posts: 17
    MyTurnNow said:

    Gabbie, I'm glad you have
    Gabbie, I'm glad you have finally made your decision and it's one you can live with. I am 55 and I had chemo last summer. They have truly come a long way. I never had one day of sickness although I did have some fatigue. Not really much of that either though. I continued to work 40 hours a week and exercised 4-5 times a week. You can do this and you'll be doing it for the right reason. The fear of the unknown is felt by every one of us but know that it is all very do-able. Good luck and let us know your "cocktail" and treatment plan. We'll be with you every step of the way. Take care!!

    taxotere and cytoxin X 4
    Tomorrow morning I will have a port put in. Told my surgeon that I felt creeped out about having a pop top on my body and we had quite a laugh about that. He said of all the things for you to worry about through this whole process, biopsies, lumpectomy, mastectomy, lymph node removal, and now chemo...I can't believe it's the port that's really bothering you! Well- what can I say..it is. Trying not to think about it at all and hoping the anxiety goes away before the surgery. It may just be the fact that it is one step closer to the chemo treatments. Going to the onc on Monday to set them up. Only 4 sessions- three weeks apart. By my calucaltions if we start by April 16th my last session will be two days before my birthday on June 20. It has definitley helped to hear stories on this website from women who have been there and done that. Thanks for all the info.
  • Gabbie99
    Gabbie99 Member Posts: 17
    natly15 said:

    Gabbie I opted for 8 rounds
    Gabbie I opted for 8 rounds of chemo. My tumor was smaller than yours but had already invaded the sentinel lymph node. The other lymph nodes were clean. My onc felt this was the best way to treat it. I will finish my 8th and final round of chemo next Tuesday. My chemo began last October. You can do this. Chemo is not a walk in the park, but is doable as so many pink sisters will tell you. My body will get a rest for approx a month and then I'll go on to 5 weeks of radiation. I'm 67 and looking forward to many more wonderful years just as you will.

    This is scary but as barbaric as it may seem, medical technology has come a long way to help us walk this path of treatment. There is a wealth of knowledge and support here on these boards. I hope you keep posting. Hugs to you.

    lymph node
    Thanks Natly. My surgery also discovered sentinal lymph node involvement- a 1mm tumor. I had one tumor that was only 1cm- but they found multi-focal disease..which I think means that there were suspicious cells every where. Did you have a mastectomy? I am only wondering - because there was no radiation treatment recommended for me and I wonder why. So glad for you that your chemo is over. When I am sitting there for my first treatment I am going to think of all of these people who have gone through so much more and be strong for them! My husband says that I have a public face and a private face....it's great to be able to confess fear and weakness and show my private face here...public face stays strong