Does anyone else just get teary for no reason....

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  • Shayenne
    Shayenne Member Posts: 2,342
    #22
    msccolon said:

    all this talk about crying makes me want to cry ;)
    You know, so many people have said that they hardly ever cried before cancer, but now are much more emotional. That reminds me of the day I returned home after my initial resection and had a bad reaction to the oxycodone. There my mother and I were crying and she was another lady who rarely cried, but I have a sister who was the "family cryer". Mother made a comment about how maybe Sue (my sister) had it right all along and we should allow ourselves to cry more often. Makes me wonder if the years of holding in the emotions just added to the whole cancer scene.
    mary

    I've Always
    Been very emotional! I cry when I'm happy, I cry when I'm sad, I cry when I'm mad, hell, sometimes I even cry at commercials! LOL! I'm not afraid to cry, I feel better when I do, there's nothing wrong with it. I try not to do it in front of the kids, but sometimes they catch me, and then they all start hugging and crying with me, that we all end up somehow just laughing about it haha...cancer sucks, but what are you going to do? just keep living, and don't let it change you too much! it may have changed me physically with my battle scars and colostomy, and hair thinning, but it will never kill my spirit, or who I was before!

    Hugsss!
    ~Donna
  • lcarper2
    lcarper2 Member Posts: 635 Member
    #23
    Shayenne said:

    I've Always
    Been very emotional! I cry when I'm happy, I cry when I'm sad, I cry when I'm mad, hell, sometimes I even cry at commercials! LOL! I'm not afraid to cry, I feel better when I do, there's nothing wrong with it. I try not to do it in front of the kids, but sometimes they catch me, and then they all start hugging and crying with me, that we all end up somehow just laughing about it haha...cancer sucks, but what are you going to do? just keep living, and don't let it change you too much! it may have changed me physically with my battle scars and colostomy, and hair thinning, but it will never kill my spirit, or who I was before!

    Hugsss!
    ~Donna

    crying
    I have cried more this week than I have in along time when I 1st had surgery I cired all the time and than it got better but this week just the thoughts of having another cancer just makes me cry. I am so tired of cancer and chemo and the hole mess I just cry...
  • Doug_B
    Doug_B Member Posts: 27
    #24
    Those tears
    Hi Holly,

    About a third way into chemo I noticed my eyes would start to well frequently. The cold and wind seemed to agitate this condition. I assumed it was a reaction to the drugs. One evening I was talking to my employer about a relative of his who had an advanced stage of cancer and my eyes opened up and the tears poured. It looked as if I was crying. I may have been. This was 6 months after treatment ended. It was a very emotional conversation. Cancer is an emotional disease. If you need to cry, cry. No one will hold it against you.

    Godspeed and good health to you Holly,

    Doug
  • sfmarie
    sfmarie Member Posts: 602
    #25
    geotina said:

    Holly
    Sometimes you just get sick and tired of being sick and tired. I know I get sick and tired of George being sick and tired and I am the caregiver. Go have yourself a good cry, get it out, heck, go have a screaming freak out. Sometimes you just have to get it out. I won't do it in front of George, don't want him feeling bad for getting sick, but sometimes on the car ride home from work I do find myself crying, it is just sadness, and it will pass. Take care - Tina

    Like Tina
    I am sick and tired of my sister being sick and tired and in pain. Cancer sucks the life out of the patient and those around them. At least, that has been my experience.
    I too cry all the time. Even watching some sad thing on tv. Marie
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
    #26
    Doug_B said:

    Those tears
    Hi Holly,

    About a third way into chemo I noticed my eyes would start to well frequently. The cold and wind seemed to agitate this condition. I assumed it was a reaction to the drugs. One evening I was talking to my employer about a relative of his who had an advanced stage of cancer and my eyes opened up and the tears poured. It looked as if I was crying. I may have been. This was 6 months after treatment ended. It was a very emotional conversation. Cancer is an emotional disease. If you need to cry, cry. No one will hold it against you.

    Godspeed and good health to you Holly,

    Doug

    Holly.............
    you deserve to be able to cry when you want ....its a simple anxiety the disease presents you when you least expect it. It is something to be on guard for but never ashamed of. Only we can know what it takes us through and if I want to cry then I have earned the right to do so and I am not ashamed of it, nor will I apologize for it. This opens us up to the real aspect of the mortality issue we never think we'll face. Now, we do, and its a brain wrecker. But as said in another post once I got ok with the fact that someday death will take me as it will everyone, I got over a lot of my emotional issues, and Prozac helps too !!!...Its fine to be emotional with yourself, it shows emotion, in which shows heart, graciousness, and caring....Love and Hope to you sweetie............Buzz
  • Julie 44
    Julie 44 Member Posts: 476 Member
    #27
    Buzzard said:

    Holly.............
    you deserve to be able to cry when you want ....its a simple anxiety the disease presents you when you least expect it. It is something to be on guard for but never ashamed of. Only we can know what it takes us through and if I want to cry then I have earned the right to do so and I am not ashamed of it, nor will I apologize for it. This opens us up to the real aspect of the mortality issue we never think we'll face. Now, we do, and its a brain wrecker. But as said in another post once I got ok with the fact that someday death will take me as it will everyone, I got over a lot of my emotional issues, and Prozac helps too !!!...Its fine to be emotional with yourself, it shows emotion, in which shows heart, graciousness, and caring....Love and Hope to you sweetie............Buzz

    Today was my day too
    hey everyone,
    Sorry I have not been on in awhile...Been through alot of depression and physcial and emontional pain..
    Today I was fine on the way to treatment. The minuet I got to the building I started to sweel up..Over nothing but the rest of the day was just that way...I gues we are all just sick and tired of it all...working full time, dealing with family obligations,being sick all the time and just totatlly being fed up with dealing with cancer..I guess we just keep plugging along and crying along the way and we all shall get through it one way or another...Good luck to all..JULIE
  • HollyID
    HollyID Member Posts: 946 Member
    #28
    Julie 44 said:

    Today was my day too
    hey everyone,
    Sorry I have not been on in awhile...Been through alot of depression and physcial and emontional pain..
    Today I was fine on the way to treatment. The minuet I got to the building I started to sweel up..Over nothing but the rest of the day was just that way...I gues we are all just sick and tired of it all...working full time, dealing with family obligations,being sick all the time and just totatlly being fed up with dealing with cancer..I guess we just keep plugging along and crying along the way and we all shall get through it one way or another...Good luck to all..JULIE

    Julie...
    I know exactly how you feel. I'm still working, doing things at home, although, I have to admit that Dave does most things like cooking and laundry.

    I think I got so emotional because #1) I worked the night before and didn't get enough sleep to be a reasonable human being. #2) I felt great. I felt great only to go in and get another dose of "Satan in a bag" and have to deal with the fatigue, bowel problems, tongue and mouth problems, neuropathy, and family issues that I need to deal with all over again. I don't feel sick, I don't feel like I have cancer. So when the two weeks are up and I have to go back in, I'm like a little girl being told to go to her room. I hate the oxi. I'll take it, but I hate it.

    Buzzard said it well, too. It's facing mortality. I was reading a little pamphlet in the onc's office that talked about "What's gonna happen when we're done with chemo?" It's like our security blanket is taken away and that kinda got to me, too. More than it should have.

    Cancer is an emotional disease, isn't it? I don't often cry, but Tuesday and Wednesday was just almost too much to bear.
  • HollyID
    HollyID Member Posts: 946 Member
    #29
    Thanks everyone....
    I'm not teary today, or even close to it.

    I love you all, more than you'll ever know. Your words have meant more to me than you realize. :)

    You're all angels.
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
    #30
    HollyID said:

    Thanks everyone....
    I'm not teary today, or even close to it.

    I love you all, more than you'll ever know. Your words have meant more to me than you realize. :)

    You're all angels.

    We know............... :)
    and so are you love.........hang in there sweetie....someday soon it will all be a memory...Love Hope and dry eyes.....Buzz
  • abrub
    abrub Member Posts: 2,174 Member
    #31
    I'm almost 2 years out of
    I'm almost 2 years out of chemo and doing great,but still have what I call "cancer days" when I'll cry easily, and just feel crappy about the "why me's" and other cancer stuff.

    Tears before/during chemo - of course. We finally feel decent again, and then we are slammed.

    Never feel bad about crying - we're human, it's part of who we are.

    Chemo - a lousy year of our lives to give us back the rest.
  • dorookie
    dorookie Member Posts: 1,731 Member
    #32
    msccolon said:

    all this talk about crying makes me want to cry ;)
    You know, so many people have said that they hardly ever cried before cancer, but now are much more emotional. That reminds me of the day I returned home after my initial resection and had a bad reaction to the oxycodone. There my mother and I were crying and she was another lady who rarely cried, but I have a sister who was the "family cryer". Mother made a comment about how maybe Sue (my sister) had it right all along and we should allow ourselves to cry more often. Makes me wonder if the years of holding in the emotions just added to the whole cancer scene.
    mary

    I wonder too
    I have always been one to hold everything in, rarely crying, and I wonder if the stress of that didnt somehow have some impact on the cancer. Now I am more emotional, cant seem to control it like I used to, I dont cry alot but I do still hold it back some, maybe I shouldnt. But if I didnt I would be a babbling fool all the time...

    Beth
  • Idamama
    Idamama Member Posts: 6
    #33
    Seems like everyday I cry at
    Seems like everyday I cry at least once. I get frustrated at not being able to control the pain and then when it is, I am in bed because I am so tired. I get angry because I can't do the things I would normally do with my daughters. I cry because I don't want to be alone and I am. Cancer does suck! I want to be able to help people when I am well. I really had no idea what suffering was until now. I reach out now and try to be inspirational but I really want to be doing meaningful things. Love to you. It's such a journey. Crying means that you know the true meaning of life I believe. You can feel. I never cried too much before this. It's also such a good release.
  • Crow71
    Crow71 Member Posts: 679 Member
    #34
    Idamama said:

    Seems like everyday I cry at
    Seems like everyday I cry at least once. I get frustrated at not being able to control the pain and then when it is, I am in bed because I am so tired. I get angry because I can't do the things I would normally do with my daughters. I cry because I don't want to be alone and I am. Cancer does suck! I want to be able to help people when I am well. I really had no idea what suffering was until now. I reach out now and try to be inspirational but I really want to be doing meaningful things. Love to you. It's such a journey. Crying means that you know the true meaning of life I believe. You can feel. I never cried too much before this. It's also such a good release.

    Hey mama in Idaho. I hope
    Hey mama in Idaho. I hope your are doing well. Sounds like it's been rough lately.
    "Crying means that you know the true meaning of life." Thank you for that thought. It really means a lot to me.
    Roger

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