To "William Marshall" a big thank you from me!!!!

Thanks Mr. Marshall for responding to my question about Eddie and the bike situation. I cannot thank you enough for taking the time to write to me about this. I totally agree with you on all accounts, my daughter and I do need a break and we are going to plan one very soon, just for a day or so and get out of here. I could not agree with you more that buying a bike for him would be a suicide mission, nevertheless to say it would be a huge dangerous situation for him to be on the road. I do not know where this came from, he seems so resentful towards me, it really started back when he was first diagnosed last october. I do not think he is talking himself, I believe it is the cancer and the chemo, but honestly William, Eddie has not dealt with this cancer at all. He was diagnosed on October 7, 2009 and on October 8th, the day after, he told me he wanted a recliner in his bedroom because this is where he would be spending alot of his time so I believe from that day on, he made up his mind that he would be in his bedroom, whether or not he was in pain from the cancer, which he says he is not, but believe me, he has spent most of his hours in his bed watching tv or napping. I believe he is depressed and cannot blame him but he will not up his paxill from 10 mgs., which his doctor has asked him to do on several occasions. I cannot seem to get him out of his room, he stays in there constantly except to go to the doctors, etc. Tomorrow is chemo day again and he will then get up and go, very very mad face, but go.
I believe that some people handle cancer differently, and I am so sad that these months, days are gone forever, and that we do nothing together as a family. My marriage for 24 years was, I thought, a good marriage, we have one child age 22, and we did alot together., so therefore, she is very sad and confused as to what is going on now. Not only is she losing her dad to this terrible cancer, but I am sure she cannot figure out why he is in his room so much and I just don't have the answers for her.

I am somewhat concerned as time goes on, how am I going to handle things around here., like when I need hospice or help to come in, he is so adamant about people in the house, he made me get rid of the visiting nurse in one day, what will I do when I do need these people?
I believe that Eddie is just so mad that he got this horrible cancer and that his life is going to be cut short, he cannot deal with it. How do I help him? He does see a social worker once a month, he will not go more often.

Thanks Mr. Marshall very much for your words of wisdom, I read your posts all the time.

Linda