Husband passed away this morning

aunti_m
aunti_m Member Posts: 41
edited March 2014 in Esophageal Cancer #1
After a very long hard battle, my husband died early this morning in our bed with me by his side. He tried so hard to be here for as long as possible but unfortunatly it wasn't up to him. The children are doing good. Hasn't quite sunk in yet but will slowly. I'm just going on auto pilot now, getting things done that need to be done. The hard grieving will come soon I imagine. He was a wonderful husband, great father, son, uncle and friend. He will be greatly missed. We had one of those marriages that was just easy, no hard work we just always wanted to make the other happy, plain and simple. We were truly blessed to have found each other and able to spend 14 wonderful years together. Thanks to everyone on this site for the love and support and I keep praying for all who are still in the fight. Keep fighting!

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  • Lylesmyprince
    Lylesmyprince Member Posts: 130
    #2
    I'm sorry...
    It sounds like you guys had a relationship similar to Lyle and mine. What a blessing!! Lyle and I are just at the start of this journey...thank you for sharing your heart and your experience.

    Susie
  • JaneE2366
    JaneE2366 Member Posts: 289 Member
    #3
    So Sorry
    I am so sorry to hear your news....you both fought this battle as best you could. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.
    Jane
  • MOE58
    MOE58 Member Posts: 589 Member
    #4
    IM SORRY
    I am sorry to hear of your husband's passing, he fought a good battle, just know that MUMPHY has just recently walked your shoes. I am sure she will guide you if you need it.

    Just know all your CSN friends are here, just keep in touch once a member always a member

    GOD BLESS
    Lori
  • unclaw2002
    unclaw2002 Member Posts: 599
    #5
    MOE58 said:

    IM SORRY
    I am sorry to hear of your husband's passing, he fought a good battle, just know that MUMPHY has just recently walked your shoes. I am sure she will guide you if you need it.

    Just know all your CSN friends are here, just keep in touch once a member always a member

    GOD BLESS
    Lori

    I am so sorry for your loss.
    I am so sorry for your loss. I was wonderful to hear you tell your story about your wonderful husband and life. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    God Bless You,
    Cindy
  • K_ann1015
    K_ann1015 Member Posts: 500
    #6
    you are such a great wife & mom...
    AuntiM
    so so sorry to hear of the passing of your husband....
    I have been so moved by your positive attitude through all of this--for many months. I have really respected how your spoke to your children about this and supported your husband so consistently and lovingly. I love how you acknowledged God's divine plan (in this painful journey)---that even though often we don't understand---it is him who is in charge.

    I am so sad for you & your children, but know that knowing your husband is no longer in pain is a relief for all of you. I sometimes can't reconcile the terrible shock and sadness of ones' loss---while at the same time we are taught of the wonderful journey our loved one is on with our Lord...

    Please stay in touch---I think we all can make a difference in the future in prevention, awareness & research funding for this disease. We at csn will be here---send private email if you wish--- so many "hugs" for you guys
    Kim
  • MAE66
    MAE66 Member Posts: 66
    #7
    I am at a loss for what to
    I am at a loss for what to say. Our stories are so much the same, I know how hard this is, and just so sad. I will be thinking of you and your kids, let us know how you are doing.

    Susan
  • emg09
    emg09 Member Posts: 228
    #8
    MAE66 said:

    I am at a loss for what to
    I am at a loss for what to say. Our stories are so much the same, I know how hard this is, and just so sad. I will be thinking of you and your kids, let us know how you are doing.

    Susan

    I'm so very sorry
    to hear the news of your husband passing. I just can't even imagine how this is for you. I will continue to keep you and your children in my prayers. You did a wonderful job with fighting this horrible cancer. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the kids.

    Hugs!!
    Erika
  • chrisk06
    chrisk06 Member Posts: 110
    #9
    I am so sorry
    I am so sorry for your loss. You both put up a great fight. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

    {{{BIG HUGS}}}
    Chris
  • Unknown
    Unknown
    #10
    emg09 said:

    I'm so very sorry
    to hear the news of your husband passing. I just can't even imagine how this is for you. I will continue to keep you and your children in my prayers. You did a wonderful job with fighting this horrible cancer. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the kids.

    Hugs!!
    Erika

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  • Donna70
    Donna70 Member Posts: 852 Member
    #11
    chrisk06 said:

    I am so sorry
    I am so sorry for your loss. You both put up a great fight. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

    {{{BIG HUGS}}}
    Chris

    So sorry
    So sorry about your husband's passing, you both tried so hard and you have been a wonderful caregiver. There are no words I could say that could help but my heart has been with you praying and I will keep the prayers up for you and your family and your marriage sounds like a wonderful gift given to each of you, God bless you for sharing with us at this time. love and prayers always,
    Donna70
  • Tina Blondek
    Tina Blondek Member Posts: 1,500 Member
    #12
    Donna70 said:

    So sorry
    So sorry about your husband's passing, you both tried so hard and you have been a wonderful caregiver. There are no words I could say that could help but my heart has been with you praying and I will keep the prayers up for you and your family and your marriage sounds like a wonderful gift given to each of you, God bless you for sharing with us at this time. love and prayers always,
    Donna70

    My sympathies go out to you and your family
    Hi Auntie M,
    So sorry for your loss. My dad also passed away this week, March 9th. We are in the same grieving boat. Please know that your husband is now at peace. He no longer has to put up this fight. He is no longer in the horrible pain. He and my dad will meet now and compare stories of their long hard battle. We did all we could for them as their caregivers. We did a great job. They did too. They were both great strong fighters. We can never say that we never tried, because we all did. God Bless you your children and your family at this time.
    Tina
  • mumphy
    mumphy Member Posts: 440
    #13
    Tina Blondek said:

    My sympathies go out to you and your family
    Hi Auntie M,
    So sorry for your loss. My dad also passed away this week, March 9th. We are in the same grieving boat. Please know that your husband is now at peace. He no longer has to put up this fight. He is no longer in the horrible pain. He and my dad will meet now and compare stories of their long hard battle. We did all we could for them as their caregivers. We did a great job. They did too. They were both great strong fighters. We can never say that we never tried, because we all did. God Bless you your children and your family at this time.
    Tina

    M
    Hi,

    I just read your post and I am deeply saddened by the loss of your husband! My heart goes out to you.

    I just recently had to call the Dr.s office to ask a stupid question about the night that Al passed away. My question was did I do enough, was there something else that I could have done differently. I WAS TOLD THAT AFTER THE INITAL SCHOCK WEARS OFF YOU START TO OVER THINK THINGS. DO NOT DO THIS TO YOURSELF!!

    You are a wonderful wife and mother,caregiver. Give youself time. Let yourself feel all of the emotions. I know it is difficult with the children they also need to know that it is o.k.
    to feel what they are feeling.

    I am just starting to get my feet wet and going out and seeing people. The hurt doesn't go away in a day, a week, or even a month and do not let anyone tell you anything different.

    With deepest Sympathies,

    Kathy
  • mmr19
    mmr19 Member Posts: 75
    #14
    So sorry
    I am so sorry for your loss. Your husband fought a courageous battle. You have been a good wife, mother and caretaker and have been right there for him through his fight. You and your family are in my prayers.

    Marta
  • oriontj
    oriontj Member Posts: 375
    #15
    It was so hard to read of
    It was so hard to read of your husband's passing...I'm so very sorry and am keeping you and your children in my thoughts and prayers. You were one of the people on the board that was kind to me when I posted even thought my attitude might not have been the best at the time.. I thank you for that.
  • Ellie_E
    Ellie_E Member Posts: 50
    #16
    I'm so sorry to hear about
    I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. You and your children will be in my prayers.

    Ellie
  • dragonflymom
    dragonflymom Member Posts: 46
    #17
    So Sorry
    I am so sorry for your loss. I am new here but any death to any cancer is hard. My thoughts are with you during this time.
  • Pghmomma
    Pghmomma Member Posts: 141
    #18
    dragonflymom said:

    So Sorry
    I am so sorry for your loss. I am new here but any death to any cancer is hard. My thoughts are with you during this time.

    I am very sorry
    for you loss. It just saddens my family and I. Please know that we are thinking about all of you and prayers for you guys during this time of need


    Tina
  • survivorfam
    survivorfam Member Posts: 41
    #19
    So sorry for your loss
    I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. It is easy to see what a special person your husband was and how much you loved him.

    Jane

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