Emotional

Mama G said:

WOW, you have all said some wonderful things!
Marilyn, I hope to have your faith one day.
I also want to reach out to others and give back some of the love and care that I've received through this endeavor.

Beth, thanks for sharing
Beth, thanks for sharing that wonderful story. I've witnessed so much compassion in my life since being dxed, with family, friends, drs., staff and yes strangers too. People have sent cards, emails, flowers, gifts, prayers and good wishes. One dear friend made me a beautiful lap quilt with my favorite scripture (Phil. 4:13) embroidered on it, another one knitted a beautiful white throw, made out of angel design. The ones that have touched me the most are the ones who simply write or say "I'm here for you, whenever you need me". One lady was trying to cheer me up and she was doing a good job. Then a large tear appeared in the corner of her eye and rolled down. She let me know that she is "here for me" in that one simple act. The ladies and men here on this board tho are the most amazing caring compassionate people you could ever want. This is where I come when I'm down, when I need something whether its information, support, love, prayers, compassion and HUGS. And yes, this is where I come when I'm up, to celebrate, be happy and supportive to others, sending you all love, prayers, best wishes and lots and lots of HUGS. If there is a good side to breast cancer (or any cancer), I think it brings out the best in us, helps make us better people and it teaches us how to be loving, caring and compassionate for others. Please continue to share any acts of compassion here, it's such a joy to read them.

One Positive to Breast Cancer
Beth,

Having breast cancer has made me even more responsive and emotional to ALL PEOPLE. Whatever their health issue, it brings out a compassion and desire for me to talk to them and hug them. I always ask first, "Can I give you a hug." So far, I have not been refused. Recently at a major food store, I saw an older woman in a specialized, high-powered wheelchair who was having some difficulties in trying to reach a bag and open it up. Her fingers were misshapen from the MS - multiple sclerosis. I immediately approached her and asked her if I could help her. She said, "Yes." I then engaged in a conversation with her and before I left her, I asked her if I could give her a hug. Again she said, "Yes." I don't know who got the "bigger high" from my hug. I was so happy that I talked to her and hugged her. I am sure that I also made her day.

I think that so many people do not know how to approach and engage in a conversation with a person who has obvious health problems. Many people are afraid or not confident in what to say to that person.

My response is, "Smile, be warm, be pleasant, be yourself, and engage in a conversation. Say what is in your heart. Don't hesitate to make another person's day." (After writing this one, I am fighting the tears that are welling up. I guess today I am somewhat more emotional.)

Lots of Hugs and Lots of Love,
Janelle

natly15 said:

Thank you for sharing this.
Thank you for sharing this. There is so much compassion out there and I do think we become wounded healers.

Thank you for sharing your
Thank you for sharing your experience, Beth. I think we are all so emotionally tied to each stage of treatment and survival, and this makes us a more demonstrative person. Last night we were having dinner, and a group next to us was celebrating (quite loudly) the completion of the last chemo treatment for the grandmother of the group. Balloons, whistles, flowers, pink attire, were all around. After we finished our meal, I went by the table, reached down, and hugged the elderly lady who was obviously the center of all of this attention. No words were exchanged, but we knew...linked forever by the same beast. My heart always goes out to those who are so easily spotted in a crowd; i.e. a bandana, a bald head, a cancer survivor pin, and there is always an exchange. Not always verbal, sometimes just a nod, a wink, or a smile. We are sisters, and sometimes we don't have to exchange words. Thank you for sharing your experience. Hugs. Judy

That is a Great Story
That is a great story. I don't want to lose my compassion for anyone especially my pink sisters. I know how hard it is and how a shoulder is needed at times. I find I don't hold back anymore because what if there is no tomorrow.

P