new to all this with a twist

webozo
webozo Member Posts: 82 Member
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
my daughter is a new hodgkins patient. it all started three weeks ago her husband noticed something on her neck. today she had bone marrow test don. she is in kanass i am in michigan i can not go there untill april she has help as she starts chemo but i am mom and i should be there, i should make it all better just like i have done all of her life. she is not just my daughter she is my friend

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  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #2
    Mothers
    As mothers we always want to kiss it and make things better. We learn, though, that that is not always possible. Being physically away from your daughter doesn't mean you can't be there for her. Ask her if there is anything you can do like research treatments or other resources. Let her know that you will always be willing to talk or email. At the same time, remember that she may not feel up to that at times. Support her and her family as you always have. I know that this is very hard. Although she is an adult, she is still your baby. You do need to know that even if you were there, you really couldn't change the diagnosis. Also, it's important to remember that she is an adult. She and her husband get to decide on treatment options, etc.
  • webozo
    webozo Member Posts: 82 Member
    #3
    grandmafay said:

    Mothers
    As mothers we always want to kiss it and make things better. We learn, though, that that is not always possible. Being physically away from your daughter doesn't mean you can't be there for her. Ask her if there is anything you can do like research treatments or other resources. Let her know that you will always be willing to talk or email. At the same time, remember that she may not feel up to that at times. Support her and her family as you always have. I know that this is very hard. Although she is an adult, she is still your baby. You do need to know that even if you were there, you really couldn't change the diagnosis. Also, it's important to remember that she is an adult. She and her husband get to decide on treatment options, etc.

    mothers
    thank you for your words just a little thing like a few words means alot to me. i do talk to my daughter everyday and this is nothing new. i am very glad that we have a faith that we share. it helps as we talk to know that even when we do feel alone we are not. thank you again
  • webozo
    webozo Member Posts: 82 Member
    #4
    grandmafay said:

    Mothers
    As mothers we always want to kiss it and make things better. We learn, though, that that is not always possible. Being physically away from your daughter doesn't mean you can't be there for her. Ask her if there is anything you can do like research treatments or other resources. Let her know that you will always be willing to talk or email. At the same time, remember that she may not feel up to that at times. Support her and her family as you always have. I know that this is very hard. Although she is an adult, she is still your baby. You do need to know that even if you were there, you really couldn't change the diagnosis. Also, it's important to remember that she is an adult. She and her husband get to decide on treatment options, etc.

    mothers
    thank you for your words just a little thing like a few words means alot to me. i do talk to my daughter everyday and this is nothing new. i am very glad that we have a faith that we share. it helps as we talk to know that even when we do feel alone we are not. thank you again
  • webozo
    webozo Member Posts: 82 Member
    #5
    grandmafay said:

    Mothers
    As mothers we always want to kiss it and make things better. We learn, though, that that is not always possible. Being physically away from your daughter doesn't mean you can't be there for her. Ask her if there is anything you can do like research treatments or other resources. Let her know that you will always be willing to talk or email. At the same time, remember that she may not feel up to that at times. Support her and her family as you always have. I know that this is very hard. Although she is an adult, she is still your baby. You do need to know that even if you were there, you really couldn't change the diagnosis. Also, it's important to remember that she is an adult. She and her husband get to decide on treatment options, etc.

    mothers
    thank you for your words just a little thing like a few words means alot to me. i do talk to my daughter everyday and this is nothing new. i am very glad that we have a faith that we share. it helps as we talk to know that even when we do feel alone we are not. thank you again
  • webozo
    webozo Member Posts: 82 Member
    #6
    grandmafay said:

    Mothers
    As mothers we always want to kiss it and make things better. We learn, though, that that is not always possible. Being physically away from your daughter doesn't mean you can't be there for her. Ask her if there is anything you can do like research treatments or other resources. Let her know that you will always be willing to talk or email. At the same time, remember that she may not feel up to that at times. Support her and her family as you always have. I know that this is very hard. Although she is an adult, she is still your baby. You do need to know that even if you were there, you really couldn't change the diagnosis. Also, it's important to remember that she is an adult. She and her husband get to decide on treatment options, etc.

    mothers
    thank you for your words just a little thing like a few words means alot to me. i do talk to my daughter everyday and this is nothing new. i am very glad that we have a faith that we share. it helps as we talk to know that even when we do feel alone we are not. thank you again
  • webozo
    webozo Member Posts: 82 Member
    #7
    grandmafay said:

    Mothers
    As mothers we always want to kiss it and make things better. We learn, though, that that is not always possible. Being physically away from your daughter doesn't mean you can't be there for her. Ask her if there is anything you can do like research treatments or other resources. Let her know that you will always be willing to talk or email. At the same time, remember that she may not feel up to that at times. Support her and her family as you always have. I know that this is very hard. Although she is an adult, she is still your baby. You do need to know that even if you were there, you really couldn't change the diagnosis. Also, it's important to remember that she is an adult. She and her husband get to decide on treatment options, etc.

    mothers
    thank you for your words just a little thing like a few words means alot to me. i do talk to my daughter everyday and this is nothing new. i am very glad that we have a faith that we share. it helps as we talk to know that even when we do feel alone we are not. thank you again
  • webozo
    webozo Member Posts: 82 Member
    #8
    grandmafay said:

    Mothers
    As mothers we always want to kiss it and make things better. We learn, though, that that is not always possible. Being physically away from your daughter doesn't mean you can't be there for her. Ask her if there is anything you can do like research treatments or other resources. Let her know that you will always be willing to talk or email. At the same time, remember that she may not feel up to that at times. Support her and her family as you always have. I know that this is very hard. Although she is an adult, she is still your baby. You do need to know that even if you were there, you really couldn't change the diagnosis. Also, it's important to remember that she is an adult. She and her husband get to decide on treatment options, etc.

    mothers
    thank you for your words just a little thing like a few words means alot to me. i do talk to my daughter everyday and this is nothing new. i am very glad that we have a faith that we share. it helps as we talk to know that even when we do feel alone we are not. thank you again
  • webozo
    webozo Member Posts: 82 Member
    #9
    grandmafay said:

    Mothers
    As mothers we always want to kiss it and make things better. We learn, though, that that is not always possible. Being physically away from your daughter doesn't mean you can't be there for her. Ask her if there is anything you can do like research treatments or other resources. Let her know that you will always be willing to talk or email. At the same time, remember that she may not feel up to that at times. Support her and her family as you always have. I know that this is very hard. Although she is an adult, she is still your baby. You do need to know that even if you were there, you really couldn't change the diagnosis. Also, it's important to remember that she is an adult. She and her husband get to decide on treatment options, etc.

    mothers
    thank you for your words just a little thing like a few words means alot to me. i do talk to my daughter everyday and this is nothing new. i am very glad that we have a faith that we share. it helps as we talk to know that even when we do feel alone we are not. thank you again

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