Not bc related.... just looking for some input

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  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member
    #22
    a little late chiming in here...
    but T, if you can hire her, and you know she is a good worker, I don't see a problem. Just let her know that she is going to be treated like any employee regarding her work ethic.
    We have always hired from within, my sister was hired while she still lived in Sacramento, that was 20+ years ago, we moved her in with us for a year to get on her feet and all has worked out. My niece also works with us.
    If you can help your daughter get going on a career, why not?
    Hope all works out well for you all.
    Cat
  • xskeetshooter
    xskeetshooter Member Posts: 169
    #23
    taleena said:

    CR.. he works as a janitor
    CR.. he works as a janitor at a shopping center... I think he makes like $9.60 an hour... not nearly enough to support a family on when rent alone is $550.00

    $9.60 a hour
    i make 15 cents more a hour and i live alone. And i pay rent,cable,hydro with that. so i dont understand why they cant make it. they have no children. they want to play house . (well welcome to the real world ) they have to get their priorties in order.if you keep taking them back, they will never be able to survive in this world on their own. i think you will regret giving her that job, let her find herself one, time for them to grow up
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
    #24
    xskeetshooter said:

    $9.60 a hour
    i make 15 cents more a hour and i live alone. And i pay rent,cable,hydro with that. so i dont understand why they cant make it. they have no children. they want to play house . (well welcome to the real world ) they have to get their priorties in order.if you keep taking them back, they will never be able to survive in this world on their own. i think you will regret giving her that job, let her find herself one, time for them to grow up

    Xskeetshooter,
    Taleena did
    Xskeetshooter,
    Taleena did ask for opinions and you have shared yours. I don't agree with it but you are entitled to it. But you have some of the facts wrong. They do have a child so that is 3 people to feed (2 more than you have if you are living alone). Another fact is that rents vary from state to state and city to city so how can you compare you being able to pay your rent etc. without knowing if there are apartments in your price range where they live. We all know that the job market sucks big right now. Both I and my husband have lost our jobs (after many, many years) because of the economy. We are not having any luck in getting new ones even with our experience and job backgrounds so telling her to just get her own job may be more difficult than you realize. I am all for us sharing opinions but your post is unnecessarily harsh. If you had just stated that you make only a little more than them and that you make ends meet and that you think giving her a job is a bad idea, fine. But the, why can't they make it, they have no children, playing house, welcome to the real world, let her find her own job, statements are mean spirited. If you feel that helping them is enabling that is a legitimate opinion but the sarcasism doesn't help Taleena. In fact it comes off as a criticism of her. This is just my opinion and I probably shouldn't be jumping in but I have a daughter and we gave her and her hubby and son a hand when they needed it and it didn't hurt them or make them less adult. They now have a lovely home, 2 children and are completely independent. They just had a rocky patch and we helped. That is what families do. If T gives her daughter a job she is not supporting her, just helping her to independence and if she lets them move into the basement to save some money on rent she will also be helping them and eventually they will gain independence (although my opinion is for the job not the basement). Just my two cents.
    Stef
  • taleena
    taleena Member Posts: 1,612 Member
    #25
    xskeetshooter said:

    $9.60 a hour
    i make 15 cents more a hour and i live alone. And i pay rent,cable,hydro with that. so i dont understand why they cant make it. they have no children. they want to play house . (well welcome to the real world ) they have to get their priorties in order.if you keep taking them back, they will never be able to survive in this world on their own. i think you will regret giving her that job, let her find herself one, time for them to grow up

    xskeetshooter.... it isn't
    xskeetshooter.... it isn't just the two of them, it is also my grandson that is just 11 months old... and though you disagree with my decision, I understand what you are trying to say, however as much as I appreciate everyones input, I have taken several weeks to consider all of this and have made the decision to hire her. She started today and I must say did a great job... I think this is in the best interest for all of us at this point. And believe that she will be a great addition to the team.

    Thank you for your thoughts.

    ♥ & hugs,
    ~T
  • jk1952
    jk1952 Member Posts: 613
    #26
    cats_toy said:

    a little late chiming in here...
    but T, if you can hire her, and you know she is a good worker, I don't see a problem. Just let her know that she is going to be treated like any employee regarding her work ethic.
    We have always hired from within, my sister was hired while she still lived in Sacramento, that was 20+ years ago, we moved her in with us for a year to get on her feet and all has worked out. My niece also works with us.
    If you can help your daughter get going on a career, why not?
    Hope all works out well for you all.
    Cat

    T, I'm sure everything will
    T, I'm sure everything will work out well. Sounds like you are at peace with your decision, and that's what's important.

    Joyce
  • xskeetshooter
    xskeetshooter Member Posts: 169
    #27
    fauxma said:

    Xskeetshooter,
    Taleena did
    Xskeetshooter,
    Taleena did ask for opinions and you have shared yours. I don't agree with it but you are entitled to it. But you have some of the facts wrong. They do have a child so that is 3 people to feed (2 more than you have if you are living alone). Another fact is that rents vary from state to state and city to city so how can you compare you being able to pay your rent etc. without knowing if there are apartments in your price range where they live. We all know that the job market sucks big right now. Both I and my husband have lost our jobs (after many, many years) because of the economy. We are not having any luck in getting new ones even with our experience and job backgrounds so telling her to just get her own job may be more difficult than you realize. I am all for us sharing opinions but your post is unnecessarily harsh. If you had just stated that you make only a little more than them and that you make ends meet and that you think giving her a job is a bad idea, fine. But the, why can't they make it, they have no children, playing house, welcome to the real world, let her find her own job, statements are mean spirited. If you feel that helping them is enabling that is a legitimate opinion but the sarcasism doesn't help Taleena. In fact it comes off as a criticism of her. This is just my opinion and I probably shouldn't be jumping in but I have a daughter and we gave her and her hubby and son a hand when they needed it and it didn't hurt them or make them less adult. They now have a lovely home, 2 children and are completely independent. They just had a rocky patch and we helped. That is what families do. If T gives her daughter a job she is not supporting her, just helping her to independence and if she lets them move into the basement to save some money on rent she will also be helping them and eventually they will gain independence (although my opinion is for the job not the basement). Just my two cents.
    Stef

    its called tough love
    if you give your children everthing, when you die they will be lost. its a hard world out there honey..not saying throw them to the wolfs, just saying they need to stand on their 2 feet now. just my two cents worth
  • xskeetshooter
    xskeetshooter Member Posts: 169
    #28
    taleena said:

    xskeetshooter.... it isn't
    xskeetshooter.... it isn't just the two of them, it is also my grandson that is just 11 months old... and though you disagree with my decision, I understand what you are trying to say, however as much as I appreciate everyones input, I have taken several weeks to consider all of this and have made the decision to hire her. She started today and I must say did a great job... I think this is in the best interest for all of us at this point. And believe that she will be a great addition to the team.

    Thank you for your thoughts.

    ♥ & hugs,
    ~T

    thats great
    just hope it doesnt back fire on you,
  • xskeetshooter
    xskeetshooter Member Posts: 169
    #29
    meena1 said:

    Oh dear, sounds like my
    Oh dear, sounds like my daughter. I am in no position to offer advise, but i would hire her, as long as you feel she could do the job. Maybe she could go to school at night. My daughter causes me so much grief, she will be 20, and between paying for college, her car insurance, cell phone, books, food. etc on top of my cancer and the economy, i am starting to have anxiety attacks. Good luck on whatever you choose.

    thats what i am talking about, meena
    you give all the time. makes are kids lazy..oh well mom will pay for it. and god help them when your not here no more.then what

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