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stayingcalm said:

You have several hundred friends here, Marcie
Marcie7,

I don't think there is a one of us who hasn't felt that way at one time or another - that's one of the reasons for this site, so that we can discuss and read posts and share experiences, and realize how much we have in common and have to share. I don't actually have any close personal friends, just the people from my job (library) who have stood by me (and my kids and their dad), so sometimes when I come here I'm feeling pretty lonely, too, and I look around the forums for other people I might be able to connect with or assist with info or my own experiences: that helps tremendously!

Your previous post mentions your friend - I would think that rather than being a sad reminder, you would be a comfort - you are still here, and you could share thoughts about her grandmother with your friend, and maybe be an example that cancer doesn't always mean the end of life. (I'm not sure I phrased that the way I wanted to)

Deb

You're not alone...
Stayingcalm is so right, you will never be alone especially now that you have found this site. Everyone here cares and will be here for you, whether you have questions or you just need to vent. We are here!!

I think I can understand how you feel when you mentioned your friends grandmother, you feel like "why did she die and I'm still here", which seems like a normal reaction under the circumstances. I'm sure your friend and her family are very happy that you are still with them, embrace them and give them your love and support as I am sure they will need it now more than ever. I don't believe that your presence will sadden them, I believe they are grateful to have a friend like you who is there for them.

Take care,
Glenna

nanaof7 said:

this is a great place to share
When I got diagnosed, I waited to tell people, then when I did I only told them the facts and sometimes I minimized the situation, I felt I couldn't tell them the truth or how I really felt because they would not want to talk to me, who wants to talk to a depressing person.And I couldn't tell my family how I really feel because I didn't want to upset them. I have found this is the place that everyone understands what it is like to have cancer. I dont't feel foolish or judged for my feelings, so any problems you have there will always be someone here to help or understand good luck, and keep in touch. pat

When I was first dx, I
When I was first dx, I wanted to talk to my friends about it. But I felt like it made them uncomfortable. Or I ended up consoling them, by saying I'm okay. But on this web site everyone has basically the same worries, fears and thoughts.

Marcie7 said:

Thats excacally how I feel.
Thats excacally how I feel. THANK YOU and thank GOD 4 this site.

The Right Place
You've come to the right place, this is a wonderful site for support, information, and a helping hand, without being judge on any level. I have found so much info and support on this site, and yet they acept me for who I am. Most of our friends seem to step back like I was contagious, and I dont want to stress my wife or kids.
But there is always a hand here to help explain soemthing, share something, or just answer some of my lame questions, or set me straight on some problem. We can agree to disagree without judgement.

Our Prayers and Best Wishes to You and Your Family,
Dan (cobra1122) and Margi Harmon

Marcie7 said:

Hi everyone i havent been on
Hi everyone i havent been on line in awhile i finished 6 chemo treatments i ngo 4 a pet scan on 3-16 and i get the results on 3-30. i want to be positive but it seems i cant i dont understand why but i have been crying 4 three days im in a bad way i cant seem to shack this feeling of doom . i thank uall 4 ur prayer and im praying to but i cant quit cring

I've been there
I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time getting rid of this feeling of doom.

It is completely understandable that you have been upset and crying. When I finished my treatments I (like many others) felt lost, I felt as if I was doing something and fighting the cancer while I was in treatment but once that stopped I felt as though I was no longer in control. Then when I had to wait for 3 months for my first scan I started imagining the worst. I had no reason to, I just did. My worrying was all for nothing, I am in remission now and doing fine ;-)

Please try not to worry needlessly and keep a positive attitude, it will help you through this.

Take care and stay strong,
Glenna

you are not alone
Goodness, I feel your pain. I can't stop crying either. I haven't even started any therapy (chemo or radiation). I have an appt this afternoon to get that plan together. It seems like it isn't happening fast enough.
This is a horrible situation for all of us, we all know the feeling. I am too new to all this to be of any comfort, but I do get it.
Two things I have always believed in 1) Everything happens for a reason. We may not understand that reason or even see it for quite some time, but its there. 2) God doesn't give us more than we can handle. I too question where He thinks my strength is coming from. I am far from a religious person, but I do believe and I can only hope I can pass this challenge He laid before me.
This site and these discussions give me more hope than anything anyone in my life can say to me. As someone said to me on here, it's ok to have the pity party, just don't let it consume you. Staying positive is key. Look for laughter, embrace hope and accept the challenge. You are loved and you can get through this.
I know the feelings well
Nat