FOUR deaths here in less than one month

dianetavegia
dianetavegia Member Posts: 1,942 Member
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Brant, Michael and Mike49. Also, Fringetree's Daddy. This is just heartbreaking to me. I'm overwhelmed.

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  • SandyL
    SandyL Member Posts: 218
    Horribly sad...
    Just makes us feel the need to fight this beast even more and harder yet. We will overcome! We will win! For those that have lost the battle we need to work harder at this. Sometimes I am so saddened by all the publicity that breast cancer receives and barely a nod for those suffering with colorectal cancer. I realize they are all bad, but what can we do to bring more awareness to the need for earlier screenings?
    Sandy
  • thready
    thready Member Posts: 474
    SandyL said:

    Horribly sad...
    Just makes us feel the need to fight this beast even more and harder yet. We will overcome! We will win! For those that have lost the battle we need to work harder at this. Sometimes I am so saddened by all the publicity that breast cancer receives and barely a nod for those suffering with colorectal cancer. I realize they are all bad, but what can we do to bring more awareness to the need for earlier screenings?
    Sandy

    Share your thoughts
    This past few months have been very hard here. These loses are very profound and does leave me as well as others saddened, and asking so many questions. I aggree that we all need to fight harder, we need to be groundbreakers if possible and we need to help others who cross to the world of cancer.

    When ever I see ads for breast cancer I would often thing what about CRC's. But I think if there can be a cure for other cancers it might flow over to us. I do feel CRC's are ignored because it is not a "sexy" cancer, it is by they colon cancer, but it does have the 2nd to 3rd highest death rates for cancer patients.

    We must fight on
    jan
  • Fb489
    Fb489 Member Posts: 69
    SAD
    Unbelievable how quickly cancer took beloved BRANT, MICHAEL and MIKE49.
    They have all left a wife and small children behind.
    May god give us and all of them the strength to take it one day at a time
    and be thankful for every good day.
    A HUGE hug to all of you.
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    A Time to Grieve
    Yes, Diane

    It has been a very difficult time on the board...we've lost really good people and their familie's lives have been hurt and changed forever. There are no words to adequately express the profound feelings that we have when we are trying to comfort one another and the family that is involved.

    It's another sad reminder that we may not all win our individual battles with cancer, but it is the fight within each one of us and the legacy that we leave behind that makes up the person and what their lives were to everyone they knew.

    I echo your sentiments, Diane...this has all been very difficult, but as a family we will stick together and pick up the pieces and continue to support those that are gone and those that are with us.

    I'm sure that Brant, Michael, and Mike would all want us to keep going on and keep fighting - and we must even though we are grieving, to honor their memory.

    Respectfully,
    -Craig
  • John23
    John23 Member Posts: 2,122 Member
    Beyond saddening
    Awareness is OK, but present medical practices needs change, and:

    1. Learn why our immune systems don't always see cancer as an "enemy".

    2. Learn how to get our own body to fight cancer using it's own resources.

    Chemo and radiation severely damages our immune system, leaving us
    only with hopes that the treatments to kill cancer cells works.

    I can't tell you how much the daily losses bother me. It's more
    than saddening, it's sickening.
  • luv3jay
    luv3jay Member Posts: 533 Member
    Sigh...Words can't express
    Sigh...Words can't express the sadness...

    -Sheri
  • coloCan
    coloCan Member Posts: 1,944 Member
    luv3jay said:

    Sigh...Words can't express
    Sigh...Words can't express the sadness...

    -Sheri

    Too sad to write about
    off to a lousy year so far it seems; too much pain......
  • lcarper2
    lcarper2 Member Posts: 635 Member
    coloCan said:

    Too sad to write about
    off to a lousy year so far it seems; too much pain......

    sad and mad
    I to am sad but I am also mad as hell when ever some one learns about my cancer they ask BREAST CANCER I laugh and say no as bad as breast cancer is people don't understand that colon cancer is much worse please don't get me wrong I know how bad bc is but there needs to be more attention paid to cc we are here suffering with it taking the chemo we have lived it and saddly watched people who had alot of living left to do pass away and It makes me very angry that so much attention is paid to other cancers but little to the cure of cc I think we need to start writting letters to congress and senators asking them why is there not more being done to find out what causes this cancer in the 1st place and second why is there not more being done to fight it. I know that alot of people are fighting with this cancer and are not covered with medical insurance and if they pass the medical bill by the president ( use that term lightly ) it will only get worse for us who have insurance but may make it impossible for the ones with out it fighting this monster unable to get ins. at all pre existing condition will play a roll in them being covered and for many it will be to litle to late we need to stand up and fight now...

    Louann
  • AceSFO
    AceSFO Member Posts: 229
    yes it is sad
    but for me, I think the best way to honor Brant, Michael and Mike is to fully embrace and enjoy the life we have and the people we love. A good time to tell the people in our lives how much we love them and how much they mean to us.

    I've also been coming back to this piece by William Penn, and quoting bits and pieces of it, so here's the whole thing (or most of it anyway):

    And this is the comfort of the Good,
    that the Grave cannot hold them,
    and that they live as soon as they die.
    For Death is no more
    than a turning of us over from time to eternity,
    Death, then, being the way and condition of Life,
    we cannot love to live,
    if we cannot bear to die.

    They that love beyond the World, cannot be separated by it.
    Death cannot kill what never dies.
    Nor can Spirits ever be divided
    that love and live in the same Divine Principle,
    the Root and Record of their Friendship,
    if Absence be not Death, neither is theirs.

    Death is but Crossing the World, as Friends do the Seas;
    they live in one another still.
    For they must needs be present,
    that love and live in the omnipresent.
    In this Divine Glass, they see Face to Face;
    and their Converse is Free, as well as Pure.

    William Penn (1693)
  • 2bhealed
    2bhealed Member Posts: 2,064 Member
    Too much to bear
    oh Diane, isn't that just the truth.

    Multiply these losses by 8 years on this board and it gives you an idea of the losses over the years. For me, Mark's (limey) death was the last one i could bear and then I had to back off here. That, and I got pretty despondent over what many admitted to eating on a regular basis. I mean c'mon people, we're dealing with intestinal cancers. What we eat affects our health or lack there of.

    If you stay on here as long as I have, the loss of friends and "family" may absolutely overwhelm you one day to the breaking point as it has me.....

    peace, emily
  • robinvan
    robinvan Member Posts: 1,012
    Thanks Diane
    These three deaths have hit me particularly hard too. It is such a painful reminder of what we live with every day. The cumulative effect of so many losses can be overwhelming!

    Thanks Adrian for sharing the wise words of William Penn. In them we are reminded that we are not alone and that love is indeed stronger than death.

    Peace and blessings... Rob; in Vancouver

    “Life is short,and we do not have much time to gladden the hearts of those who travel the way with us. So let us be swift to love, and let us make haste to show kindness.”
    Henri Amiel
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    robinvan said:

    Thanks Diane
    These three deaths have hit me particularly hard too. It is such a painful reminder of what we live with every day. The cumulative effect of so many losses can be overwhelming!

    Thanks Adrian for sharing the wise words of William Penn. In them we are reminded that we are not alone and that love is indeed stronger than death.

    Peace and blessings... Rob; in Vancouver

    “Life is short,and we do not have much time to gladden the hearts of those who travel the way with us. So let us be swift to love, and let us make haste to show kindness.”
    Henri Amiel

    There has
    been way to many, we need to find a cure.

    michelle
  • angelsbaby
    angelsbaby Member Posts: 1,165 Member
    robinvan said:

    Thanks Diane
    These three deaths have hit me particularly hard too. It is such a painful reminder of what we live with every day. The cumulative effect of so many losses can be overwhelming!

    Thanks Adrian for sharing the wise words of William Penn. In them we are reminded that we are not alone and that love is indeed stronger than death.

    Peace and blessings... Rob; in Vancouver

    “Life is short,and we do not have much time to gladden the hearts of those who travel the way with us. So let us be swift to love, and let us make haste to show kindness.”
    Henri Amiel


  • Joy1216
    Joy1216 Member Posts: 290 Member
    Also overwhelmed
    I'm overwhelmed, too. Cancer stinks! All three fought such hard battles. My heart goes out to their families. Apparently God wanted them in heaven because their work on earth was done. I know that isn't much consolation for their wives and children.
    Joy
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    It's hard
    Yeah, it's really hard to come here and read these posts, but I would feel terrible if I didn't find out until months later. It's been on my mind a lot, too, and I put all of us on the prayer list tonight when I went to my Bible study.

    *hugs*
    Gail
  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 Member Posts: 2,342 Member
    Thinking of the families
    I took a different route to work today, around the Eastside of our island. I stopped at a beautiful lookout and remembered those we have lost and prayed for their families. As I looked out over the beautiful ocean I held everyone here in my heart and prayed for peace for all of you. You are all precious.

    Aloha,
    Kathleen
  • mamalala
    mamalala Member Posts: 25
    lcarper2 said:

    sad and mad
    I to am sad but I am also mad as hell when ever some one learns about my cancer they ask BREAST CANCER I laugh and say no as bad as breast cancer is people don't understand that colon cancer is much worse please don't get me wrong I know how bad bc is but there needs to be more attention paid to cc we are here suffering with it taking the chemo we have lived it and saddly watched people who had alot of living left to do pass away and It makes me very angry that so much attention is paid to other cancers but little to the cure of cc I think we need to start writting letters to congress and senators asking them why is there not more being done to find out what causes this cancer in the 1st place and second why is there not more being done to fight it. I know that alot of people are fighting with this cancer and are not covered with medical insurance and if they pass the medical bill by the president ( use that term lightly ) it will only get worse for us who have insurance but may make it impossible for the ones with out it fighting this monster unable to get ins. at all pre existing condition will play a roll in them being covered and for many it will be to litle to late we need to stand up and fight now...

    Louann

    where is the research?
    Louann, I get upset too that I don't 1)read more about research regarding our cancer; 2)only see/hear of fundraising for breast cancer research and not cc. Have I had my head in the sand? Where is the research? The last I read was something about asprin as a preventative for reoccurence of cc. I think it is important for us to question our oncs, our healthcare institutions as to what research they are doing regarding cc. I'm new here on the board; didn't know those who have died recently. I AM sad and mad. I think my fight for my own survival now will include questioning about research.
    Lynn
  • GOOFYLADIE
    GOOFYLADIE Member Posts: 232 Member
    May I
    May I lift your spirts abit I HOPE by sharing with you this.
    In 1998 I was given only 2 bits of information regarding colon cancer.
    1. A female my age (31) should not get cancer.
    2. Upon completing my 2nd year of NED they came up with if I stayed 5 years cancer free, statistics state the chances of cancer returning was just as much as anyone walking the streets who had not had cancer.


    Please take time to reflect the old timers have been around to see so much change in colon cancer treatment, NED, and information. You are all fighting one hell of battle, and riding one helacious roller coaster.
    But if you slow down and enjoy and accept some of the great things going on around you, it helps build your soul to fight the miserable monster and thru to pot of gold at the end of the rainbow!! I am not saying its easy, not trying to push anyone away in anyform, just try always seeing 3 sides of the story. I used myself, my husband and my kids. What would they do if I!!! The rest is history.
    Love you all
    Goofyladie (Cass)
  • JDuke
    JDuke Member Posts: 438

    Thinking of the families
    I took a different route to work today, around the Eastside of our island. I stopped at a beautiful lookout and remembered those we have lost and prayed for their families. As I looked out over the beautiful ocean I held everyone here in my heart and prayed for peace for all of you. You are all precious.

    Aloha,
    Kathleen

    Kathleen,
    That was lovely, thank you.
    Blessings,
    Joanne