Two Months

grandmafay
grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
edited March 2014 in Emotional Support #1
Today is a tough day. My husband died two months ago today. The children's Christmas program and the Christmas music at church really got to me. During prayer time I asked for prayers for those still fighting cancer and for those working to find a cure. I got lots of hugs afterward. The tears just kept coming. I was ok, but I just kept leaking. I went to lunch with a friend who lost her 20 year old son to cancer a few years ago and her husband to a heart attack this year. She is amazing. We had a good talk. Friends, especially those who understand where you are, are so important. One older widow told me she was doing ok until two months after her husband died. Then she cried for a month. Another said she wasn't able to go to church during Christmas for about 5 years. Hearing others' experiences makes me feel normal. Take care everyone. You're in my prayers. Fay

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  • cwcad
    cwcad Member Posts: 117
    #2
    As you will be in mine
    As you will be in mine tonite as well. God Bless you and the words that you have shared. My heart goes out to you.
  • lisaonthenet
    lisaonthenet Member Posts: 69
    #3
    tough day
    grandmafay,

    Sounds like a tough day...but...you held on and grabbed hold of others' who share your experience, pain and strength. I'm glad you have friends to talk to. There's nothing wrong with crying.

    You take care too,
    Lisa
  • marywest
    marywest Member Posts: 132
    #4
    your a beautiful woman
    The comments you leave for others bless me so much. With such a great loss of your husband, your interest is in giving and comforting others. I am sorry for those days that bring tears to your eyes. I thank God for tenderly loving you and comforting you. I keep you in my prayers. Your an amazing beautiful woman.
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #5
    Thanks
    Thanks to all for your kind words. Today is a new day! I'm still feeling a little(?) down, but I'm doing better. I know there will continue to be bad days. I've been warned by many to expect those. I really appreciate these boards, and I appreciate that I go to a warm and caring church where it's ok to cry. Not a single person told me to be strong. Instead, I had others sharing my tears and offering me hugs. A daughter-in-law called in the afternoon just to check in. Once again, I found out how blessed I am to have such a great support system. Take care everyone. I know Christmas is hard. I have been told that by many, too. Fay
  • pattynonews
    pattynonews Member Posts: 176
    #6
    two months
    I hear you Fay, I am having a hard time, I seen couples and I think that should be Jack and I, It is hard going to mass, because I seen the stain glass window that is pink and purple swirls and it just reminds me of Jack and I was sitting in church and I felt a warm feeling come over me and I knew it was Jack, We are going to Christmas Mass they are dedicating it to Jack so that is going to be hard, I like to talk to the people on this site because they know exactly how we feel, I know my other friends say I know how you feel, but how could they ,they never took care of anyone with cancer and watch them die and loved them so much and now they are gone, And on Jan 4th it will be 2 month since Jack left, I hope I do not go backwards,Because right now going to churh is onw of the things that get me through the week, I miss him so much
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #7
    pattynonews said:

    two months
    I hear you Fay, I am having a hard time, I seen couples and I think that should be Jack and I, It is hard going to mass, because I seen the stain glass window that is pink and purple swirls and it just reminds me of Jack and I was sitting in church and I felt a warm feeling come over me and I knew it was Jack, We are going to Christmas Mass they are dedicating it to Jack so that is going to be hard, I like to talk to the people on this site because they know exactly how we feel, I know my other friends say I know how you feel, but how could they ,they never took care of anyone with cancer and watch them die and loved them so much and now they are gone, And on Jan 4th it will be 2 month since Jack left, I hope I do not go backwards,Because right now going to churh is onw of the things that get me through the week, I miss him so much

    Church
    I continue to go to church. It really helps me, too. I also appreciate that I don't feel uncomfortable crying there. In fact, others cry with me. As I think I've said before, many members of our church are elderly. Many have lost their partners. I get a lot of support and love. Most of them don't tell me they know how I feel. Instead, they tell me their stories, and it helps.

    Your books should be delivered today. I hope you find them helpful. Fay
  • pattynonews
    pattynonews Member Posts: 176
    #8
    grandmafay said:

    Church
    I continue to go to church. It really helps me, too. I also appreciate that I don't feel uncomfortable crying there. In fact, others cry with me. As I think I've said before, many members of our church are elderly. Many have lost their partners. I get a lot of support and love. Most of them don't tell me they know how I feel. Instead, they tell me their stories, and it helps.

    Your books should be delivered today. I hope you find them helpful. Fay

    books
    Thank you so much I started ready the THE LORD IS MY SHEPARD, Thank you again so much

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