I'm new here. Husband having surgery tomorrow. Please pray for us.

Trish_from_Pittsburgh said:

Extra prayers please!!!!
Just talked to nurse at hospital.....She said hubby was so aggitated last night they had to sedate him again. He spiked a fever, too (102.6), most likely from pneumonia. Today's plan is to try to wean him from the ventilator again and control the pneumonia.

I don't know quite what the "Big Girl Panties" thing is about (if someone can explain that to me), but right now I think mine are slipping........

ITS OKAY TRISH
Trish,

I read your post last night but was giving it some thought, my husband was on a ventialator too, don't get to alamred yet, Jeff did the same thing, he spiked a fever as he had the worse sinus infection a doctor had ever seen, Jeff was very agitated also every day and and every night it comes with the surgery and the infection, Jeff was sedated also, for 12 days in ICU, Its hard not to worry I did every single day, he would breate 40% on his own and the rest the ventilator did it for him, if you have a good doctor which I know you do big time, then he will do okay, its because of his lungs, trust me thats why Jeff had all the problems he did, lungs play a big source in this, even though he stopped smoking he still has the bad lungs, plus when they deflated one thats another set back thats what happened to jeff, even though your husband didn't have the OPEN surgery sounds like he has alot of Jeff's symptoms, you just have to be strong, and go in there all the time and talk to him, tell him you are there and he has to get better cause you need him his family needs him etc etc, that what i always did to Jeff, then one day the nurse called me and said he was awake and asking for me that was 12 days after surgery it was like a miracle he woke up i will say my husband was knocking on heavens door, cause his blood pressure dropped to 50/30 he spiked a fever and he couldn't breathe so he was very very critical. I certainly know how you feel, and just keep up the strong will and if I can help on anything let me know I will check this periodically.

Now for the BIG GIRL PANTIES, well while I was sitting in the hospital while Jeff was sick one day he wasn't doing good, and I had to sign alot of papers for them to do different things on him, I was scared and knew I had to do something, and when my mother was so ILL and i had to make alot of choices i told myself OKAY LORI YOU NEED TO PULL UP YOUR BIG GIRL PANTIES, and get on with the show, so when I posted this on this site one day about i need to pull up my BIG GIRL PANTIES, and move on, it has just been an awesome joke, and keeps everyone laughing so that is just our saying on this site.

If yours are slipping than maybe we need to ship you a different size, (this is just something we talk about) so with that being said just pull up your big girl panties and go take care of your hubby.

Give us a report when you can

Love and hugs
Lori

Trish_from_Pittsburgh said:

My BIG GIRL PANTIES just aren't fitting right today.......
Lori,

Thank you so much for your help. I seem to be crying a bucket of tears today again....I thought I have been so strong through all of this but today I seem very frail. It's so hard when you see your husband like this....He shook his head yesterday that he wasn't in any pain (which is a good thing) but I'm just so nervous. I'm praying to God for strength.

You just can't believe what a help this site has been to me. I feel like each and every one of you are standing right beside me and walking me right through every step. I can feel all the support, love and encouragement everyone is giving me.

He sailed right through his chemo and radiation, no problems, even continued to work every day. So this has been our first "bump" in the road. Is there a rainbow at the end of the road? I'm praying there is...

Again, thank you, Lori. I guess I need to tell myself "Crying time is over, now make your plan to handle this and get on with things". It's just hard...

I'll be waiting for some new BIG GIRL PANTIES. lol

Off to see my hubby, I'll let you know how he's doing tonight.

Love,
Trish

WE ALL HAVE BUMPS IN THE ROAD
Trish,

I know you are having it difficult but just hang in there, each minute, each hour and each day will be different, I hate to say this but the first 72 hours is the hardest, I saw Jeff for 14 days with 14 tubes hanging out him, I would go in at night and bath him, talk to him, hold his hand, and make him squeeze my hand, his daughter that lives in texas came up and she did alot for him, you could see tears coming down his face, I know this isn't easy but he is alive, but remember no matter how long they have quit smoking those lungs are going to hurt them, and with them deflating one in surgery is not helping.

When you go back up there as the nurse how much he is breathing on his own? That will tell you something? Then ask the nurse is he better today than last night in your opinion? Alway always let him know you are there, even if you don't think he knows you he does.

I know exactly what you are going through and if you will go back on posts to July 23 you will see everything I went through with Jeff. Of course Jeff had the open surgery so count your blessings that your husband didn't cause the OPEN is a harder recovery period but he could not have the MIE surgery.

I know you think will I ever have him home, and I told Bill Marshall I would never fuss with him again after seeing what he went through, i never thought I would have to wipe my husband butt, or help him open things, bath him walk with him etc etc, but I have, he was a very independent man and still is to some point.

I have faith that you are doing all the things right, and you have every opportunity to cry but doing all now before he gets home or out of ICU, stay strong no matter how hard it is.

Now for those BIG GIRL PANTIES, you must not have them on right, just make sure you have your feet in the right holes, and if they are too loose than maybe i need to put new elastic in them, i know they are slipping down a bit, but I know tomorrow they will be back where they belong, sometimes those BGP have a tendency to slip down when we are down, but you are a strong person or you wouldn't be helping your husband.

Stay strong and keep me posted.

Love and Hugs
Lori