thank you

pattynonews
pattynonews Member Posts: 176
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
I want to Thank all of you for your support this site has gotten me through alot of stuff, and I will continue to sty on becasue maybe I can help someone else, Im so use to getting up so early with Jack so here I am trying to figure out what to do, We are not having any services till Feb when the other family ( who was not here to help can attend ) we will bring his ashes home, Till his birthday on Feb 17th and take them to Waco for a service and bury them next to his mom, I am planning on making a special package up for his lose friends, with a drum stick , incent, a nice card just so they have something to remember him from and we are going to have a jam session in memory of him, Im going to do my best to stay busy, I want to go back to work soon just to get out of the house but I have his dad so I need to make sure he wil be ok , I miss Jack, Everyone who does not know what Im going through tells me thy they how I feel and just think Jack is your angel now,well honest I want Jack , I dont know how all this happen, how do I know he is with me,

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  • mr steve
    mr steve Member Posts: 285
    Jack
    Patty,

    I look forward to Jack looking out for Rhonda.

    (((HUGS)))

    Steve
  • pattynonews
    pattynonews Member Posts: 176
    mr steve said:

    Jack
    Patty,

    I look forward to Jack looking out for Rhonda.

    (((HUGS)))

    Steve

    how should I feel
    Im waiting for a sign that he is ok I miss him and I still have this feeling that Jack is going to walk through the door and tell me he's home and loves me, is this normal, I have moments that when I cry but I waiting for him, I am so at peace that he went peaceful because the last couple days I know he suffered, I just have this numb feeling and maybe I have the responsibility of his dad , I have no clue, I am having a problem with my friend come over, I want to be alone with cheyanne am I doing something wrong,
  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member

    how should I feel
    Im waiting for a sign that he is ok I miss him and I still have this feeling that Jack is going to walk through the door and tell me he's home and loves me, is this normal, I have moments that when I cry but I waiting for him, I am so at peace that he went peaceful because the last couple days I know he suffered, I just have this numb feeling and maybe I have the responsibility of his dad , I have no clue, I am having a problem with my friend come over, I want to be alone with cheyanne am I doing something wrong,

    No Right or Wrong
    There is no right or wrong to grieving. Thinking they will come through a door seems to be a common experience. I know I have felt it and almost everyone I know has felt it. I even had a friend of my husband's call the other night. He started to call my husband, remembered he wasn't here, so called me instead. I also have times when I just want to be alone. I'm sure that's common, too. Take care, Fay
  • B 1
    B 1 Member Posts: 19
    So Very Sorry
    Patty:

    Over the past month or so I have read your postings about you and Jack. Please accept my deepest condolences.

    Linda
    Live today because tomorrow is not promised..
  • slickwilly
    slickwilly Member Posts: 334 Member
    B 1 said:

    So Very Sorry
    Patty:

    Over the past month or so I have read your postings about you and Jack. Please accept my deepest condolences.

    Linda
    Live today because tomorrow is not promised..

    What is normal
    Hi Patty. I don't think there is a normal when it comes to grieving. And a delayed buriel tends to start the process over at times. In the last year I went through two delayed buriels with my uncle and aunt. They passed 10 months apart after 53 years of marriage.
    My grandmother was a deeply religious woman who attended church three times a week. She was devastated when my grandfather passed. One night she had just gone to bed when she watched my grandfather walk into their bedroom through the door. He sat on the edge of the bed and told her everything was going to be ok. Then he got up and walked out of the bedroom. My grandmother was perfectly fine after that. Blessings Slickwilly
  • Barbara53
    Barbara53 Member Posts: 652

    how should I feel
    Im waiting for a sign that he is ok I miss him and I still have this feeling that Jack is going to walk through the door and tell me he's home and loves me, is this normal, I have moments that when I cry but I waiting for him, I am so at peace that he went peaceful because the last couple days I know he suffered, I just have this numb feeling and maybe I have the responsibility of his dad , I have no clue, I am having a problem with my friend come over, I want to be alone with cheyanne am I doing something wrong,

    signs are small and fleeting
    A few days after my fabulous father passed away, he "spoke" to me from the clouds while I was waiting at a traffic light. I've heard from him a few times since then, always with a wash of feeling that he is doing great, and likes to see me happy. Actually, it's more a tickle than a voice, and it's always unexpected.

    PNNews, I hope you know how many people out here in webville have promoted you to angel status at this point. You are a very good woman who knows how to love. That's why it hurts so much.