sedated

pattynonews
pattynonews Member Posts: 176
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
Well we had to sedate Jack heavyly so most likely he will not wake up again he woke up in the worst pain and fear in his eyes and I never want to see that again, so they have him on hydromorphone pump that runs all the time, the patches, and methodone, he is only taking 1-2 breaths a minute but his heart is so strong so it is making up for everything, They say at the end the cancer pain gets so bad and he has so much swelling in his head so we decided to let him go peacefully it was the hardest thing I ever had to do, but I never want to see that fear and pain and holpelessness in Jacks eyes We are not sure how long is body will stay like this , but he needs to go home and be at peace, it is breaking my heart I go in there every hours hold his hand and tell him I love that is all I can do for him now,

Patty

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  • abmb
    abmb Member Posts: 311
    #2
    God Bless you
    I am sorry that I never logged in to this part of the site. I want to say I am so sorry to hear about Jack and I pray your prayers are answered. You must be a very strong and supportive caregiver. I will pray for you to help you get through this very difficult time for you and pray that Jack is not suffering. God Bless and take care. Margaret
  • sue Siwek
    sue Siwek Member Posts: 279
    #3
    peace is the most important
    peace is the most important thing. i only hope should my husband come to this that he will go peacefully. be thankful for that. a broken heart will take time. know that you have done all that anyone can do and he will somehow know you were there till the end.
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  • grandmafay
    grandmafay Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #5
    Patty, I am so sorry. One of
    Patty, I am so sorry. One of the hardest things I did was pray for a quick peaceful passing and tell him that it was ok to let go and go toward the light. These end of life decisions are so painful for us caregivers. My prayers and thoughts are with you. Fay
  • pipwe1
    pipwe1 Member Posts: 53
    #6
    Patty and Jack
    My thoughts are with you both, I know where you are right now Patty and I send you my love

    Wendy
  • trish07
    trish07 Member Posts: 138
    #7
    Patty...your heart must be
    Patty...your heart must be breaking...I'm so very sorry for the sadness you are enduring.

    You are such a loving and caring angel to Jack.

    I will pray that Jack be free of all his pain and find peacefulness of Spirit.

    Jack will forever live in your heart,

    Trish
  • SonSon
    SonSon Member Posts: 174
    #8
    trish07 said:

    Patty...your heart must be
    Patty...your heart must be breaking...I'm so very sorry for the sadness you are enduring.

    You are such a loving and caring angel to Jack.

    I will pray that Jack be free of all his pain and find peacefulness of Spirit.

    Jack will forever live in your heart,

    Trish

    Long last moments...
    Patty,
    I am really sorry to hear about the end... it brings back memories.
    I wish that we could all be there for you - but I will light a candle and incense for you here...
    Those last days, hours, moments seem to drag on forever, like nails on a chalkboard.
    We are here for you. Thanks for opening the window to your life to us...
    Fatima
  • mrsgeb
    mrsgeb Member Posts: 32
    #9
    Patti,
    I'm so proud of your
    Patti,

    I'm so proud of your strength in making such a diffucult decision to sedate Jack. What a truely unselfish, loving decision you made. I am praying for both of you and for Jack's peaceful passage home.

    Sherry
  • mr steve
    mr steve Member Posts: 285
    #10
    Patty
    Patty,

    Thank you for being so strong. I hope I can learn from you and be half as strong. You and Jack are both in our prayers.

    Steve
  • HAWVET
    HAWVET Member Posts: 318
    #11
    mr steve said:

    Patty
    Patty,

    Thank you for being so strong. I hope I can learn from you and be half as strong. You and Jack are both in our prayers.

    Steve

    Prayers and time
    Patty,

    Please do not take my comments to be negative. I have experienced the lost of close relatives to cancer and was there at the time that the man had taken them away. My thoughts are that individuals will endure the pain to hang around for their loved ones. It is difficult for the immediate family. This work both ways. The immediate family does not want to let go. I believe now is the time for you to have some deep thoughts. Maybe your husband is waiting for your final thoughts of love, that you will eventually meet him up there and that you understand and that the time has come to let go. I believe that in those final moments, the person can hear and when hearing from their loved one(s), they will go and rest in peace. God bless and my prayers are with you.
  • allackey
    allackey Member Posts: 19
    #12
    His peace now
    I listen to the songs below sometimes and hold them at bay until the time when it is time for my wife to pass. The words are dear to me as I know we have victory over all that this world sends our way; yes, even cancer. We have victory over this that tries to rob us of our loved ones.

    Please cut and paste each clip below and listen. Just a bit of hope still and perhaps comfort and thought for you.

    Your husband will be in a glorious place and he will be fortunate. I pray for you and him; I pray for your strength to continue; I pray for Jack's peace and rejoice with him, for his passing will make the angels rejoice as he is received with open arms and in God's comfort.


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDNeABuwlQ0

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B0nUmrj2-A0
  • Beckymarie
    Beckymarie Member Posts: 357
    #13
    sedated
    Patty,

    I am so sorry for what you are going through. You have given Jack a true gift...to have a loving person with him to the end. We should all be fortunate enough to have someone like you when our time comes. God bless you.
  • heatherstar70
    heatherstar70 Member Posts: 39
    #14
    my heart goes out to you
    surrounded by your glory
    what will my heart feel
    will i dance for you jesus
    or in aww of you be still
    will i stand in your presence
    or to my knees will i fall
    will i sing hallelujah
    will i be able to speak at all
    i can only imagine

    i can only imagine when that day comes
    and i find myself
    standing in the sun
    i can only imagine
    what all i would do
    is forever forever worship you

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