My mom's results.

BrittanyC
BrittanyC Member Posts: 100
edited March 2014 in Ovarian Cancer #1
My mom's appointment was today at 8 am.

I am taking some of the information from the papers that I received.

Multiple sclerotic lesions throughout the clavicle, sternum, spine, and pelvic bones. There are osseous lesions in the bony thorax.

The doctor had mention there is a significant amount in the bone. My mom has had no pain at all. The doctor also stated that it is rare for ovarian cancer to spread to the bone. Is it really? I read up that it is also common that is spreads to the lungs.

My mom's CA125 is 88. The tumor has shrunk to 6.8x8.6. The tumor is in the pelvis, and invades the adjacent sigmoid colon. The uterus and ovary (my mom had one taken out) cannot be seen on the scan.

The doctor recommended more chemotheraphy. He said that the surgery is the second option. But the cancer in the bones is the main concern at the moment. He said that the cancer in the bones will not completely go away.. Is that true, ladies? Does cancer in the bones not fully go away?

So my mom's 7th chemo will be next Thursday.

My mom cried when the doctor told her that there was cancer in her bones.. She asked the doctor how much longer she has to live and he said "I don't know. I am always wrong." Women always defy odds.

I am scared right now. I just don't know what to do. I have not cried, but I feel like screaming at the top of the world "WHY? WHY MY MOM?! WHY DID THIS HAVE TO HAPPEN TO HER?!"

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  • nancy591
    nancy591 Member Posts: 1,027 Member
    #2
    sorry
    Brittany I feel your pain and I cry with you. I try not to ask 'why me'. I have two young children 6 and 4 and, by God, I want to raise them!! I believe doctors will only answer questions when you ask and not really volunteer too much information. I've heard of ovarian going to the bone and lung. I try not to read to much information because it scares me. Reading stories worse then mine scare me for I fear I may be heading down that same road eventually. I hear that bone cancer is painful so it's a good thing she is pain free. Good luck to you and your mom. Hopefully she will remain as comfortable as possible. Thank goodness she has you by her side!
  • Lisa13Q
    Lisa13Q Member Posts: 677
    #3
    Wow
    HI Brittany,

    Very sorry to hear about this news. I am not an md so cannot say whether cancer in the bones can go away. I do have a friend who had breast cancer that came back in the bones and she has managed it with a hormone pill once a month. I think it may depend on what type of cancer cells they are. Either way, I totally understand your apprehension and upsetedness. This disease sucks. I also know what it is like to watch your mother cry when a doctor delivers news. It's the most helpless feeling. Some people say, that when they became parents they would do anything to take away the hurt of their child. I think the opposite happens in this situation. I would do anything to take away my Mom's pain, and fear. Anything. There isn't anything I can say right now I know, except please know that I think about you often and pray for you. One step at a time on this journey with out mothers. One step. Side by side. All of us on this board are walking with you too. Fondly, Lisa
  • arbor3
    arbor3 Member Posts: 103
    #4
    SORRY
    Hi Brittany

    I am so sorry that the cancer has spread to your moms bones. I do not know about ovarian cancer spreading to the bones, but I have ovarian cancer spots in one lung. My heart goes out to you I know how hard it is. The time you spend with your mom is the most important time, and you are a good daughter. I also asked my surgeon after my surgery in 2006 how long I had and he said, "You want me to tell you what the books say", nobody knows. I am glad the tumor has shrunk and her ca125 is not that high.
    Take care my thoughts are with you and your mom.

    HUGS!!!!!Dinora
  • saundra
    saundra Member Posts: 1,370 Member
    #5
    Sad for you
    Dear Brittany, I am so sad that the bones are full of it too. I knew in my heart when my mother split her femur after having just recovering from the broken hip surgery and refused to get out of bed again that she had made her decision the 89 years was enough. I thought that was the signal to start talking honestly with her and doing all I could to make the last 5 weeks comfortable and as fun as we could. It did help me to remind myself that from the moment we are born, we are starting the journey toward the end of life as we know it on Earth. It gets so much easier if you are a believer in "eternal life" and can accept the comfort given by God. Can't answer why bad things happen to good people, but I personally know a loving God that has my best interest in His hands. I am willing to walk that walk with Him. I hope this helps lead you to the peace that I have. Saundra
  • BrittanyC
    BrittanyC Member Posts: 100
    #6
    saundra said:

    Sad for you
    Dear Brittany, I am so sad that the bones are full of it too. I knew in my heart when my mother split her femur after having just recovering from the broken hip surgery and refused to get out of bed again that she had made her decision the 89 years was enough. I thought that was the signal to start talking honestly with her and doing all I could to make the last 5 weeks comfortable and as fun as we could. It did help me to remind myself that from the moment we are born, we are starting the journey toward the end of life as we know it on Earth. It gets so much easier if you are a believer in "eternal life" and can accept the comfort given by God. Can't answer why bad things happen to good people, but I personally know a loving God that has my best interest in His hands. I am willing to walk that walk with Him. I hope this helps lead you to the peace that I have. Saundra

    This has been the hardest
    This has been the hardest thing of my entire life. It is difficult to remain optimistic.

    I don't understand why the doctor said that it is difficult to get cancer out of the bone. I heard that it is quite possible to.. but I'm not so sure. There are not many answers on the world wide web.

    The doctor had explained that the cancer in the bones are contained. I guess, stationed in an area? O_o I looked up online where the places the cancer are in my mom's bone. 2 places on her spine.. and sternum. Clavicle. It is hard to believe that I can see my mom's clavicles now and think that there is cancer in those much needed bones.

    My mom said that we will get through this. That is what she has always told me, because she does not want me to worry, and she wants me to be strong. It is hard, but I am trying my best.

    I went to a grocery store with my dad this morning (my parents are divorced) and I heard the song "The wind beneath my wings," and I began to bawl. I called my mom and I spoke to her. She calmed me down. Life is just so scary. Its scary to not know what tomorrow will bring.
    There needs to be more awareness about this disease!
  • BrittanyC
    BrittanyC Member Posts: 100
    #7
    saundra said:

    Sad for you
    Dear Brittany, I am so sad that the bones are full of it too. I knew in my heart when my mother split her femur after having just recovering from the broken hip surgery and refused to get out of bed again that she had made her decision the 89 years was enough. I thought that was the signal to start talking honestly with her and doing all I could to make the last 5 weeks comfortable and as fun as we could. It did help me to remind myself that from the moment we are born, we are starting the journey toward the end of life as we know it on Earth. It gets so much easier if you are a believer in "eternal life" and can accept the comfort given by God. Can't answer why bad things happen to good people, but I personally know a loving God that has my best interest in His hands. I am willing to walk that walk with Him. I hope this helps lead you to the peace that I have. Saundra

    This has been the hardest
    This has been the hardest thing of my entire life. It is difficult to remain optimistic.

    I don't understand why the doctor said that it is difficult to get cancer out of the bone. I heard that it is quite possible to.. but I'm not so sure. There are not many answers on the world wide web.

    The doctor had explained that the cancer in the bones are contained. I guess, stationed in an area? O_o I looked up online where the places the cancer are in my mom's bone. 2 places on her spine.. and sternum. Clavicle. It is hard to believe that I can see my mom's clavicles now and think that there is cancer in those much needed bones.

    My mom said that we will get through this. That is what she has always told me, because she does not want me to worry, and she wants me to be strong. It is hard, but I am trying my best.

    I went to a grocery store with my dad this morning (my parents are divorced) and I heard the song "The wind beneath my wings," and I began to bawl. I called my mom and I spoke to her. She calmed me down. Life is just so scary. Its scary to not know what tomorrow will bring.
    There needs to be more awareness about this disease!
  • Hissy_Fitz
    Hissy_Fitz Member Posts: 1,834
    #8
    BrittanyC said:

    This has been the hardest
    This has been the hardest thing of my entire life. It is difficult to remain optimistic.

    I don't understand why the doctor said that it is difficult to get cancer out of the bone. I heard that it is quite possible to.. but I'm not so sure. There are not many answers on the world wide web.

    The doctor had explained that the cancer in the bones are contained. I guess, stationed in an area? O_o I looked up online where the places the cancer are in my mom's bone. 2 places on her spine.. and sternum. Clavicle. It is hard to believe that I can see my mom's clavicles now and think that there is cancer in those much needed bones.

    My mom said that we will get through this. That is what she has always told me, because she does not want me to worry, and she wants me to be strong. It is hard, but I am trying my best.

    I went to a grocery store with my dad this morning (my parents are divorced) and I heard the song "The wind beneath my wings," and I began to bawl. I called my mom and I spoke to her. She calmed me down. Life is just so scary. Its scary to not know what tomorrow will bring.
    There needs to be more awareness about this disease!

    I have a daughter, too......
    I know this is hard for you. I have three sons and a daughter. She is taking it so very, very hard. She is divorced and her dad is deceased, so she has no one but me and her brothers, but they have families and lives of their own.

    Your message really got to me because Christa has always signed her notes and cards to me, "you are the wind beneath my wings".

    I was much older than you when my mom died, and she was sick for a long time with Parkinson's. But no matter what your age, you are never ready to lose your mother.

    I am so sorry that my kids have to go thru this again. Their dad died of cancer in 1998.

    I hope you and your mom have lots of quality time together and make as many memories as you possibly can. They count for so much afterward.

    I will pray for you and your mom, Brittany. It is the only tool I have, but I believe it is a powerful one.

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