How much do you want to know?

YandY
YandY Member Posts: 6
edited March 2014 in Ovarian Cancer #1
My sister diagnosed with PPC on 8/10 and had surgery on 8/13. Since then, she had complication after complication and hospitalized still as of today. She hasn’t got any chance to read anything about her disease herself. So my question is, as family member, how much should I tell her? Do you want to know everything?
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  • lindachris
    lindachris Member Posts: 173
    #2
    How much to say
    Speculation does not do much good. But real information can really help. I would post more information about your sister's experience and condition here, wait for response (which is almost always informative) and then just talk with her. Find out what her fears are concerns are. Then be the point person with her doctor if there is no one else to perform that role. Having someone to discuss and process what you hear is helpful in a number of ways. First: you're not alone. Second: you don't always hear the same things. Third: it can help to have someone to "lead the discussion" and take the pressure off the patient.

    Hope that helps.

    Chris
  • arbor3
    arbor3 Member Posts: 103
    #3
    INFORMATION
    Hi

    After I had my surgery and was on chemo I did not want to know everything. I would ask only the questions that I wanted answered. My daughters did alot of research on the Ovarian cancer subject. But at the time which was 3 years ago I did not want to know much. Now I do my own research. So what I am saying is let her ask you questions because maybe she is not ready to know everything. Also I always had a family member go with me to the Dr because I would never remember what he said.

    My thoughts and prayers are with your sister. And this is the best site for feedback

    Hugs Dinora
  • Lisa13Q
    Lisa13Q Member Posts: 677
    #4
    Ask them.....
    I was in the room when my mother met her oncologist who opened with, "how much do you want to know?" My mother clearly replied, "only what I need to know". The oncologist complied. I learned a valuable approach, ask what they want to know and they will tell you. I wanted to read the CT scan and she let me. I wanted to know statistics and survival rates and my sister didn't. People will absolutely tell you what and how much they want to know and they cope differenty. Follow her lead..I promise she will tell you if you ask..Good Luck.,

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