husband sent home to die

Hope never ends Kelly
I am so sorry to hear about your husband's new prognosis. Have the doctors nothing more that they can try, clinical trials he might qualitfy for? Anything?

I am an 18 year survivor of NHL and I am sure many people thought I wasn't going to make it many times but I did. I am not trying to give you false hope, only letting you know that hope never ends completely and you have to keep on praying and hoping. If you know of any prayer groups in churches let them put your husband's name on their prayer request lists - the power of group prayer is powerful indeed - from my experiences. You may also need to contact respite to see if they can offer you any suggestions on how to proceed from here on. I don't know if you can find a good grief counsellor through them or through your GP but they can really help you understand the processes your husband is going through and how best you can help him and yourself. Of course keep blogging on this site, anything you want to discuss about your sitatuion and I know many will respond as many have been there too.

I am glad you came to this site at a time like this, you will find much validation and support here. You talked about wanting to know what you can do for your husband and while the grief consellors can give you more detailed help with that I want to say that just you being there and loving your husband will be what he needs the most. I will say a prayer for you and your family tonight. Blessings, Bluerose

Kelly, I am so very sorry
Kelly, I am so very sorry about your husband's pronosis. I too would ask about clinical trials. My heart breaks for you both and you will be in my prayers. Eileen

Hi Kelly:

Very sorry to hear about your husband's situation. I have stage IV colon cancer with extensive involvement in both lobes of my liver. I have undergone lots of chemotherapy over the past two and a half years and two chemoembolization procedures within the past year. Have they mentioned chemoembolization or rfa radio frequency ablation? You might ask about these procedures. I have not had RFA done but am looking into it. You could also check into Cancer Treatment Centers of America. Right now my doc thinks I need to do a trial somewhere. There are trials happening all over the place. I would ask about those too - some of them I think you can self-refer - not sure though. Don't give up. Wishing the best for you and your husband. Roy

kelly, don't know how long
kelly, don't know how long you and your husband have been battling this cancer. first, i will tell you that i hope you are going to a teaching hospital. it is your best chance for survival. if a liver transplant is your last chance what have you got to lose? look at what they are saying, that they can do nothing but the liver transplant or he will die, what is your choice? on the other hand, my husband was told nearly 10 yrs ago that they couldn't do anything for his brain tumor and we went to the nearest teaching hospital and he is still with us. we also had chemos that didn't work and finally went on a clinical trial which shrunk his tumor and gave him time until another approved chemo was available. i do not want to give you false hope but, check out these suggestions if they are applicable to you situation. as far as comforting him just hug, kiss and tell him what a great provider he has been, men seem to like to hear that. every day i tell my husband i love him and he thanks me for my care of him. that is all we can do and isn't it something everyone should learn before they get into these sorry situations, to thank each other for being our spouse, lover, partner, child or parent? my motto is never regret, do what you can today don't put it off until tomorrow because that may not come.