Terrified

Moopy23 said:

Nadca
I am sorry this is happening to you, Nadca, especially just when you and your husband were trying to start a family. More will be known after your surgery. Whether you need chemo, or radiation, and whether hormones are involved in your type of cancer will be discovered then. Now is the worst time, the waiting. Every one of us felt scared and lost during that time, I think.

Ativan, Zanaz, those are commonly prescribed during this time. If the instructions are not clear, do call your pharmacist. As far as Paxil goes, I was on it awhile back only because my insurance didn't cover zoloft. I took only the amount prescribed for anxiety. I don't recommend it.

First, if you miss the dose even by a few hours, you can get dizzy. I did,anyway. Also, I craved carbs. I ate at least one chocolate bar every day. Finally asked the dr. to switch me to Zoloft, which I had taken before when my insurance paid for it.

You have come to the right place for support and understanding. And, by the way, don't give up on the possibility of having a family. It is early days yet, and your doctors will be able to tell you more soon after the surgery.

Nadca, you've come to the right place...
you will hear this said again and again. It's true. We may not have the medical credentials, but we sure have learned more than we ever hoped to learn about this unrelentless disease. But, as others have said, not much will be known until after surgery. You will get a pathology report read to you (it may not be a bad idea to get a copy) and you will be given far more info than one person can absorb-so take your husband with you and ask him to take copious notes. Go on the ACS site and look for good questions to ask before going to see you onc.

I made a nuisance out of myself when I first diagnosed, I probably am, to a certain degree, still doing that, by calling my team of drs with questions I thought of after I returned home. If they are a good team, and are there for you, they will not mind.

I can understand scared. When my surgeon carried into my room a little pink pamphlet and told I had bc, I thought my surgeon had gotten me confused with another patient. I, like many of us here, had no history of bc in my family. I, like many of us, had a healthy lifestyle and were careful about what we ate. The thing is, bc is not selective-it will take on anyone. One day, I strongly believe that we will have a cure and our children may not have to experience what we have had to experience.

If it's any reassurance, I knew of a woman who was diagnosed with bc while carrying her child. She waited to have treatment and she was still around years later taking her baby, now a toddler, for a stroller ride.

BC is life changing, no one will argue with you about that one, but it doesn't mean that you have to change your life's plans. You may have to put them on hold for a little while, but this phase of your life (the treatment phase) will be over before you know it and you will be able to continue where you left off.

Here on the boards, we have learned, or are still learning, that bc doesn't have to control your life. It doesn't define who you are as a person. Stand up and fight this, Nadca, we will fight with you. Your husband will fight alongside you, too.

Keep us posted, we will walk with you every step of the way.
dmc

Welcome, nadca
We're all here to support and encourage each other. Of course you're scared - a cancer diagnosis is terribly frightening! Know that when you're amongst us, you are surrounded by survivors. Try to focus on one step at a time, the next one - at this point for you, surgery. Visit often, whenever you'd like or need to. We'll be here for you, each step of the way.