Pregancy after Breast Cencer for a 31 year old
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I'm so sorry Mrs. G
Unfortunately I can not help you but I am sure someone will be along to give their experience. Utimately you need to make the finale decision, but if you trust your Doctor's, I would listen to them as they have delt with this situation before. I believe there is another board on here for young survivors that may have more people that have been through this situation. Good luck on whatever you decide. Pammy0 -
I can't speak for you, but,
I can't speak for you, but, I am very young and I have bc. I had a lumpectomy, followed by radiation. My oncologist said that he can't tell me what to do, but, if I were to get pregnant, that it would probably bring back the bc because of the estrogen. I am ER and PR positive. So, to my husband and I, it isn't worth that risk. We would love to have a child, but, it isn't worth my getting breast cancer again and for it to be possibly much more aggressive. But, this is just my situation.
I wish you good luck with your decision.
Talk it over with your spouse and your oncologist.
Let us know!
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I was also very young theDianeBC said:I can't speak for you, but,
I can't speak for you, but, I am very young and I have bc. I had a lumpectomy, followed by radiation. My oncologist said that he can't tell me what to do, but, if I were to get pregnant, that it would probably bring back the bc because of the estrogen. I am ER and PR positive. So, to my husband and I, it isn't worth that risk. We would love to have a child, but, it isn't worth my getting breast cancer again and for it to be possibly much more aggressive. But, this is just my situation.
I wish you good luck with your decision.
Talk it over with your spouse and your oncologist.
Let us know!
Diane
I was also very young the first time I got breast cancer and I was also told to not get pregnant. My oncologist told me that the cancer would come back very aggressively and I could lose my life, so, needless to day, I never got pregnant.
Just want to wish you good luck though. It is your life, your decision!
Love, Jeanne0 -
Tough one, Mrs. G
I'm wondering - is your oncologist a Breast Cancer specialist? As you can see from the other posts already here...
For those of us with a similar diagnosis (including me) - pregnancy has been strongly advised against, due to the potential for vastly increasing risk of recurrence. Also, and I'm simply sharing info from my own personal experience, my onc strongly warned that not only might pregnancy greatly increase my chances of a second bout with breast cancer - but that my body would probably not generate enough estrogen to carry a baby to full term (i.e., miscarriage). Therefore, potential loss of not one - two lives.
Your desire to have children is understandable. I'd advise you seek more information from medical professionals - specialists - before making this extremely important decision. There are also many other options available in order to form a family with children.
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Mrs. G... I'm so sorry that
Mrs. G... I'm so sorry that you had to endure this so young... but I agree with what has already been said... do make sure that you are speaking with experts in the field of bc... and know that there are many options available... my best wishes to you...
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Hi, I agree with what
Hi, I agree with what everyone else has written. When I was dx at 35 (older than you, but didn't have children yet), I was ER+ and PR+ and Her2Neu+, my oncologist told met that I would be on Tamoxifen for 5 years after chemo/rads and that pregnancy wasn't possbile. I explained how hard that was for me, actually harder than the dx but his job is to make sure my cancer doesn't come back. He told me that if I chose to get pregnant I would have to go off the Tamoxifen and that becoming pregnant would increase the risk of the cancer coming back. I followed "Dr's orders" and chose not to risk it for myself or for my "baby". I am 7 years out and still on meds (now on Aromasin) and will probably be on meds forever. Sorry that you are faced with this, it is so very difficult. We truly know how hard this is on you.0 -
Sorry that you have to facekaren0423 said:Hi, I agree with what
Hi, I agree with what everyone else has written. When I was dx at 35 (older than you, but didn't have children yet), I was ER+ and PR+ and Her2Neu+, my oncologist told met that I would be on Tamoxifen for 5 years after chemo/rads and that pregnancy wasn't possbile. I explained how hard that was for me, actually harder than the dx but his job is to make sure my cancer doesn't come back. He told me that if I chose to get pregnant I would have to go off the Tamoxifen and that becoming pregnant would increase the risk of the cancer coming back. I followed "Dr's orders" and chose not to risk it for myself or for my "baby". I am 7 years out and still on meds (now on Aromasin) and will probably be on meds forever. Sorry that you are faced with this, it is so very difficult. We truly know how hard this is on you.
Sorry that you have to face this. Even though you want a child, I don't think getting pregnant is worth the risk. You can always try to adopt if you still want a child. Getting bc again, and possibly very aggressive bc, would not be worth the risk. I wouldn't trust any doctor that said it was ok.
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It is hard being young andtaleena said:Mrs. G... I'm so sorry that
Mrs. G... I'm so sorry that you had to endure this so young... but I agree with what has already been said... do make sure that you are speaking with experts in the field of bc... and know that there are many options available... my best wishes to you...
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It is hard being young and knowing you can't have children. Well, not if you don't want bc back soon. I was told not to, well ordered actually and I value my life, so, I won't get pregnant ever. Actually, it really isn't that important to my husband and I. We love each other dearly and don't really care. Look at the money we will save! lol
Good luck to you!
Lex0 -
I am in the same position as
I am in the same position as you. My cancer was estrogen progestrone positive. I just saw my oncologist. She thought it would be ok if I tried to conceive. I'm not sure. This is my last chance to have a biological baby. I have a good friend that had a baby after BC. The baby is now 3 and my friend is totaly happy and healthy. She had her ovaries removed last year. She just turned 43 so it was instant menopause but she was a BRCA carrier and did not want to risk ovarian cancer and the continued estrogen levels in her blood stream.0 -
What does "ok" mean?TrishyG said:I am in the same position as
I am in the same position as you. My cancer was estrogen progestrone positive. I just saw my oncologist. She thought it would be ok if I tried to conceive. I'm not sure. This is my last chance to have a biological baby. I have a good friend that had a baby after BC. The baby is now 3 and my friend is totaly happy and healthy. She had her ovaries removed last year. She just turned 43 so it was instant menopause but she was a BRCA carrier and did not want to risk ovarian cancer and the continued estrogen levels in her blood stream.
I think I would get a second opinion Trishy. You said your oncologist said it would be "ok". What does "ok" mean? That maybe bc won't come back or that it probably won't? I would be asking a lot of questions. That there is proof that it won't? I know it is difficult, I know, but, be sure before you would ever risk bc coming back aggressively.
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Mrs.G
I think this is a decision you and your hubby need to make for yourselves.You got the go ahead from your onc and other doctor. Yes,there's risk there-but there's risk in everyday life. Nobody knows what's going to happen from one day to another.0 -
Just be smart about youroutdoorgirl said:Mrs.G
I think this is a decision you and your hubby need to make for yourselves.You got the go ahead from your onc and other doctor. Yes,there's risk there-but there's risk in everyday life. Nobody knows what's going to happen from one day to another.
Just be smart about your decision. Get all of the facts and any percentages or outcomes that you possibly can. Your oncologist should help you with all of these. There may be a risk with just breathing, but, if it is proven that bc will come back aggressively if you get pregnant, I don't think that is a risk anyone would take. I, personally, don't know what the percentages are, but, your doctor will. If your cancer would come back aggressively, and, possibly be fatal, I don't think getting pregnant would be a good choice. I think your husband would agree.
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Heart
You asked:
"I would love to have a child with my husband, but is it really worth the rist."
My response:
I would risk anything for the benefit of my children.
That said, you are referring to your unborn child.
I know before my children, I had no idea how much I would love them or how important they would be in my life. If I had never had children, I would have been fine without them, as I wouldn't have known better.
If you spend your life regretting not taking the risk and somehow feeling incomplete, does it out weigh the risk of BC recurrence? Only you can answer that.
This is a matter of what YOUR heart tells you.
Despite predictions and statistics, none of us can ever know what the future holds.
Keep faith.
Peace in your decision.
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Thanks Susiesusie09 said:Just be smart about your
Just be smart about your decision. Get all of the facts and any percentages or outcomes that you possibly can. Your oncologist should help you with all of these. There may be a risk with just breathing, but, if it is proven that bc will come back aggressively if you get pregnant, I don't think that is a risk anyone would take. I, personally, don't know what the percentages are, but, your doctor will. If your cancer would come back aggressively, and, possibly be fatal, I don't think getting pregnant would be a good choice. I think your husband would agree.
Good luck again!
I didn't mean to sound so lax about it.
Yes,I would find out about the percentages also.
I do want to add though...Chemo put me into early menopause and I'm still in menopause after about a year later-so I'll never have a circumstance like that. I'd have to say for myself,I don't know if my desire to have kids would be stronger than the fear of getting bc back again. But really now,yes I will do whatever I can to prevent bc from coming back(short of totally kicking junk food from my diet-I wouldn't go that far!!),but life is unpredictable and I'm not about to tell someone else what decision she should make. I do try to persuade others to get their mammograms and paps.
I guess if this decision was up to me,I would use my head and my heart...0 -
i saw what you wrote and
i saw what you wrote and this is the 1st time i have ever done this so bear with me. i was diagnosed with breast cancer in june 2007, had mastectomy, chemo, radio, etc and started taking tamoxifen. i had already had fertility treatment to have my elest daughter and my cancer was hormone receptive positive so i couldn't have more fertility treatment. i fell pregnant during my radiotherapy and while taking tamoxifen. i had a beautiful healthy baby girl 8 months ago and we are both fine!! i hope my story can give you some reassurance in making a decision.0
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