I'm a new breast cancer statistic & new to support groups

kick-ca-ass
kick-ca-ass Member Posts: 10
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
I've read and enjoyed your comments but I'm new at this and not used to sharing but here goes. I had bilateral masectomy may 11, 2009 with reconstruction. I have been readmitted to the hospital for various complications. These complications have delayed my chemo however we are "hopeful" I can start chemo July 22. I emphasize "hopeful" because it seems to be the favorite catch word used throughout this journey by many in the medical field: We're hopeful your MRI will be negative, hopeful your biopsy is negative, hopeful no lymph nodes will be involved, hopeful the drains will be out, hopeful for no infection ... yada yada yada. I'm scheduled for 4 months of chemo on many of the same medication to kill the beast. my path report states I'm T1BN1. only the sentinel lymph node testing positive. I've been told that after chemo I have only a 3% chance of recurrence. Only? is that similar to "hopeful"? I'm a nurse however my specialty is not oncology so this is all new to me. I have never been a patient and as I'm sure you can tell, I think this cancer thing really SUCKS! Ok, with that said time to move on and get through this. I am glad to hear the nausea meds work and I'm not concerned about hair loss. I am looking for some Groucho Marx eye brows that I think would add a nice touch. I really am upbeat and ready to once again embrace life after this little inconvenience. Oh, did I say I'm turning 50 this year. I laugh a lot these days. When some one asks me to do something I really don't want to do, I through in this phrase in a winy voice, "I caaan't I have caaancer". It gets a good laugh and helps those around me feel more comfortable. My sis bought me a t-shirt that says F*&^ Cancer. I can't wait to wear it once my drains are out but I don't want to offend anyone. By the was F*&^ is really spelled out. What do you think? I want to wear it to chemo.
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  • rjjj
    rjjj Member Posts: 1,822 Member
    #2
    Hi Kick-ca-****
    I like your screen name. and want to welcome you although the reason does suck. I have a pin i wear that says **** cancer also. but the print is so small they have to come right up to look at it and i find this amusing to watch reactions. I have got a lot of laughs..and nobody has said anything neg. yet LOL!
    I am wishing you the best of luck. and keep us posted to what is going on. You will find the most supportive and courageous sisters here.
    Hugs,
    jackie
  • dyaneb123
    dyaneb123 Member Posts: 950
    #3
    Welcome to the group Kick
    I
    Welcome to the group Kick
    I totally relate to the cancer sucks mode of thought. I'm soooooooo ready to be through with the whole chemo thing, and I'm only into the 3rd treatment next week. Anyway, you'll definitely get some laughs if you wear the t shirt. As for the one's who'll be offended...
    f*** 'em if they an't take a joke!lol
  • bfbear
    bfbear Member Posts: 380
    #4
    rjjj said:

    Hi Kick-ca-****
    I like your screen name. and want to welcome you although the reason does suck. I have a pin i wear that says **** cancer also. but the print is so small they have to come right up to look at it and i find this amusing to watch reactions. I have got a lot of laughs..and nobody has said anything neg. yet LOL!
    I am wishing you the best of luck. and keep us posted to what is going on. You will find the most supportive and courageous sisters here.
    Hugs,
    jackie

    Welcome
    Hi Kick-ca-****,

    Obviously you have a great sense of humor. I've found that being able to laugh at yourself and at the craziness of this disease is one of the best ways not to let it kick YOUR ****!

    I think I'd wear Jackie's pin before I wore the T-shirt (which I have seen advertised). But that's just me. When you really think about it, how can you not approve of those two words together in that order??? Around here, though, there are an awful lot of people who would still find it offensive, especially parents of younger children.

    Welcome to the board. You'll find lots of support, love, laughs, and gentle hugs (I had a bilateral mst. w/reconstruction on May 6th, but I was blessed not to have any real complications...I am still in a sports bra, 'cause anything else is still too painful). There's nothing you can't say, and no way you'll ever feel alone again!

    Take care,
    Debi
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    #5
    dyaneb123 said:

    Welcome to the group Kick
    I
    Welcome to the group Kick
    I totally relate to the cancer sucks mode of thought. I'm soooooooo ready to be through with the whole chemo thing, and I'm only into the 3rd treatment next week. Anyway, you'll definitely get some laughs if you wear the t shirt. As for the one's who'll be offended...
    f*** 'em if they an't take a joke!lol

    Kich ****
    You are already one of us........Welcome to the Gang, Sista!

    Treatments are soon over and not forgotten, good luck to you Hun......Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member
    #6
    welcome kick
    we all here feel the same about cancer, and most do have a great sense of humor. What else can we do? You swound like you have a great attitude, and I believe that helps the healing process more than anything. Keep us up to date on when you will be starting the chemo

    Cat
  • Akiss4me
    Akiss4me Member Posts: 2,188
    #7
    cats_toy said:

    welcome kick
    we all here feel the same about cancer, and most do have a great sense of humor. What else can we do? You swound like you have a great attitude, and I believe that helps the healing process more than anything. Keep us up to date on when you will be starting the chemo

    Cat

    Welcome Kick...
    We welcome the fresh energy and you will find a huge mix of personalities to mingle with!! Glad you found us. I should warn you, however, that you are entering at your own risk as some people here will have you in stitches.....LOL :) Pammy
  • CR1954
    CR1954 Member Posts: 1,390 Member
    #8
    Kick.....
    Hello and welcome! Very happy that you found us, but sorry about your f*** cancer! LOL!!

    Hang with us and you will find support and love. Also lots of laughs! And you will be able to give support to others who are just starting this journey.

    Watch out for Tasha...she is British and she uses words that...well frankly, we aren't quite sure if they mean that she loves us or she is calling us all idiots. But we smile and ASSUME she is being kind. LOL!!

    Hugs!

    CR
  • dmc_emmy
    dmc_emmy Member Posts: 549
    #9
    "This little inconvenience" ??
    Now, that's the right attitude.

    When you do start chemo, you'll probably have everyone cracking up. Have ever considered leaving nursing and pursuing stand-up comedy? I think you would be a hit...we have a few on the boards who keep us laughing. You will soon find out who they are, they are not the quiet ones :).

    Yeah, I think we all hear "hopeful" probably more than we would like from our med'l team. But, here on the boards, we talk about "hope" in different way-we hope for a cure so that others will never have to go through cancer...it's one lousy journey that I hope (we hope) that one day no one will have to take.

    Welcome to the boards.
    dmc
  • survivorbc09
    survivorbc09 Member Posts: 4,374 Member
    #10
    I have a tshirt that says
    I have a tshirt that says that. The U after the F is a pink ribbon. I love it!

    Good luck to you!
  • Noel
    Noel Member Posts: 3,095 Member
    #11
    Just wanted to wish you good
    Just wanted to wish you good luck with chemo. I like your sense of humor too. :)
  • Christmas Girl
    Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
    #12
    Welcome, kick-ca-****!
    We're all here to support and encourage each other. Again, welcome.

    Yeah, for sure, wear that shirt to CHEMO! I'm positive the staff will LOVE IT!
  • DianeBC
    DianeBC Member Posts: 3,881 Member
    #13
    Christmas Girl said:

    Welcome, kick-ca-****!
    We're all here to support and encourage each other. Again, welcome.

    Yeah, for sure, wear that shirt to CHEMO! I'm positive the staff will LOVE IT!

    Just want to welcome you!
    Just want to welcome you! Love your name! I would wear the shirt! Why not?
  • SoftBallMom2
    SoftBallMom2 Member Posts: 56 Member
    #14
    I'm new here also. These
    I'm new here also. These girls have already helped me so much. I had a masectomy with tram flap reconstruction on June 11. I begin my chemo on July 23. Getting my port on 22. Hope all goes well with u. I will be glad when first treatment is over. I figured at least I would kinda know what to expect after the first one. I would wear the shirt. My sister-in-laws bought all of us a shirt that says I fight breast cancer like a girl. We usually go to all the walks for cancer. Now I am a survivor too. let me know how u r doing after and good luck.
  • mimivac
    mimivac Member Posts: 2,143 Member
    #15
    Welcome, Kick
    It sounds like you have the right attitude, girl. Humor is a much-needed commodity on this journey. I know that it would be ideal to have a 0% recurrence rate, but 3% ain't too bad. Mine was 30% before treatments and I was even OK with that. You will get through this.

    PS. Love the shirt. I definitely think you should wear it.

    Mimi
  • jikaras
    jikaras Member Posts: 58
    #16
    shirts
    Love the shirt! My sister bought me a t-shirt for Christmas last year that says "Cancer, you picked the wrong broad". I wore it to work the day before my surgery. Everybody loved it.

    I am also turning 50 this year - I was diagnosed on my birthday last year - great present, hey?! But a positive attitude certainly helps. Keep laughing!
  • elm3544
    elm3544 Member Posts: 748
    #17
    I haven't been on here very
    I haven't been on here very long- but long enough to find that this is the greatest group of women! I have received so much support and answers to questions I have had! You came to the right place!
  • SOSsupportoursisters
    SOSsupportoursisters Member Posts: 1
    #18
    Am I lucky or what?
    Kick-ca-**** is my sister, and I am so glad she found and shared this site with me. Try as I may, I can't offer the kind of support and reassurance for my sister that a women who actually has experienced breast cancer first-hand can offer. Besides, I love to read all the compliments directed to her -- obviously, she really is special. I am so thankful for such a community, and I am sure the "relatives of survivors" are going to be a great help to me too! Love, love, love you KCA!
  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member
    #19
    SOSsupportoursisters said:

    Am I lucky or what?
    Kick-ca-**** is my sister, and I am so glad she found and shared this site with me. Try as I may, I can't offer the kind of support and reassurance for my sister that a women who actually has experienced breast cancer first-hand can offer. Besides, I love to read all the compliments directed to her -- obviously, she really is special. I am so thankful for such a community, and I am sure the "relatives of survivors" are going to be a great help to me too! Love, love, love you KCA!

    Aww
    that is so sweet, what a great sister
    Welcome to you too SOS

    Cat
  • aurora2009
    aurora2009 Member Posts: 544 Member
    #20
    SOSsupportoursisters said:

    Am I lucky or what?
    Kick-ca-**** is my sister, and I am so glad she found and shared this site with me. Try as I may, I can't offer the kind of support and reassurance for my sister that a women who actually has experienced breast cancer first-hand can offer. Besides, I love to read all the compliments directed to her -- obviously, she really is special. I am so thankful for such a community, and I am sure the "relatives of survivors" are going to be a great help to me too! Love, love, love you KCA!

    Wow
    That really touched my heart, we'll doing everything we can to support and walk with your sister, this is a great site, with many great people. God Bless you both and Welcome

    Aurora
  • Akiss4me
    Akiss4me Member Posts: 2,188
    #21
    SOSsupportoursisters said:

    Am I lucky or what?
    Kick-ca-**** is my sister, and I am so glad she found and shared this site with me. Try as I may, I can't offer the kind of support and reassurance for my sister that a women who actually has experienced breast cancer first-hand can offer. Besides, I love to read all the compliments directed to her -- obviously, she really is special. I am so thankful for such a community, and I am sure the "relatives of survivors" are going to be a great help to me too! Love, love, love you KCA!

    SOS...
    Your truly amazing to cheer your sister on like that!! How wonderful to have you by her side. She will be in great hands here! :) Pammy

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