DMC - EMMY * Sending you positive thoughts and hugs *

Jeanne D
Jeanne D Member Posts: 1,867
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
I just want to say that I am praying for good results for you! I am

sorry that you have so much on your plate at this time. It is sad that people, outside of

having bc, just don't understand what we have gone thru and still are going thru. Please

know that I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!

Lots of hugs,

Jeanne

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  • outdoorgirl
    outdoorgirl Member Posts: 1,565
    #2
    Yes,
    DMC! I too am hoping for good results for you! Keep us posted and know that we are thinking of you!
  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member
    #3
    me too!
    Sorry DMC, read your post on the other thread. This has to be so tough for you. Going through all of this, and trying to keep it from your family. I understand wanting to protect them, but now that it is in the open, they may be a little more understanding of your issues.
    Take care and please don't feel guilty
    Cat
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    #4
    cats_toy said:

    me too!
    Sorry DMC, read your post on the other thread. This has to be so tough for you. Going through all of this, and trying to keep it from your family. I understand wanting to protect them, but now that it is in the open, they may be a little more understanding of your issues.
    Take care and please don't feel guilty
    Cat

    DMC.......
    Sorry for all you are having to endure. Your Father sounds a tad unreasonable to me. Hope you can get together with your Mum...Can't she come to you on her own?..Just thinking.

    Hugs to you luv.....Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  • dmc_emmy
    dmc_emmy Member Posts: 549
    #5
    tasha_111 said:

    DMC.......
    Sorry for all you are having to endure. Your Father sounds a tad unreasonable to me. Hope you can get together with your Mum...Can't she come to you on her own?..Just thinking.

    Hugs to you luv.....Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Thanks everyone...
    I really appreciated your kind thoughts that where sent my way. I suppose I shouldn't have kept things from my mom, but that's what I did. Tasha, I wish my mom could come to MI, but she will not travel without my father. I have offered to pay for her to fly here in the past, but it's always been, "No."

    My day has been filled with feelings of guilt and thoughts that I have been selfish. Pretty dumb, eh? I always feel this way when my mom gets hurt, it's been the story of my life. I guess I'm rather screwed up, but thought I was being honorable by not involving my mom totally in my dx and handling this by putting all my attention into my 4-legged friend. Crazy me.

    I told my daugther I hadn't even shared with my dear friends here what I was really feeling, but she told me I needed to share. I prefer being on the other end, though, giving others words of encouragement rather than receiving it. That is something this place has taught me.

    My father, is set in his ways; he always has been, and now he's nearly 90. I respect my father, but I'm not sure if I can honestly say if I love him. That's sad, isn't it? I've tried, but something always happens and I pull away.

    It may sound stupid, but Emmy really has been my saving grace. She was in a foster home when I found her on the Net, who knows where she might have ended up. Before that, she was in two different high-kill shelters. She needed me and I convinced myself that she needed me more than I needed her. Who was I kidding?

    Even if she was not a licensed therapy dog, she fills that role for me, every minute that I am with her. When I brought her home it took awhile for her to trust me and I've spent countless hours with her-we are inseparable. I really didn't want to leave her behind when I went to TN. Is it selfish of me to say that I feel guilty leaving her behind after all she has done for me?

    You are all my dearest of frinds, thank you for being here for me. We are here for each other, on this roller-coaster ride called, "Life After the Cancer Dx." What greater blessing can one ask of other?
    dmc
  • Moopy23
    Moopy23 Member Posts: 1,751 Member
    #6
    dmc_emmy said:

    Thanks everyone...
    I really appreciated your kind thoughts that where sent my way. I suppose I shouldn't have kept things from my mom, but that's what I did. Tasha, I wish my mom could come to MI, but she will not travel without my father. I have offered to pay for her to fly here in the past, but it's always been, "No."

    My day has been filled with feelings of guilt and thoughts that I have been selfish. Pretty dumb, eh? I always feel this way when my mom gets hurt, it's been the story of my life. I guess I'm rather screwed up, but thought I was being honorable by not involving my mom totally in my dx and handling this by putting all my attention into my 4-legged friend. Crazy me.

    I told my daugther I hadn't even shared with my dear friends here what I was really feeling, but she told me I needed to share. I prefer being on the other end, though, giving others words of encouragement rather than receiving it. That is something this place has taught me.

    My father, is set in his ways; he always has been, and now he's nearly 90. I respect my father, but I'm not sure if I can honestly say if I love him. That's sad, isn't it? I've tried, but something always happens and I pull away.

    It may sound stupid, but Emmy really has been my saving grace. She was in a foster home when I found her on the Net, who knows where she might have ended up. Before that, she was in two different high-kill shelters. She needed me and I convinced myself that she needed me more than I needed her. Who was I kidding?

    Even if she was not a licensed therapy dog, she fills that role for me, every minute that I am with her. When I brought her home it took awhile for her to trust me and I've spent countless hours with her-we are inseparable. I really didn't want to leave her behind when I went to TN. Is it selfish of me to say that I feel guilty leaving her behind after all she has done for me?

    You are all my dearest of frinds, thank you for being here for me. We are here for each other, on this roller-coaster ride called, "Life After the Cancer Dx." What greater blessing can one ask of other?
    dmc

    Love
    DMC, please don't feel badly because you didn't tell your mother and daughter everything. You were trying to save them pain and worry; it was a selfless act because you denied yourself the comfort of their support. You suffered more, trying to protect the people you love most. They will realize that. Their knowing relieves you of a burden, and frees you to accept their support. You wanted especially to protect your daughter, but no mother can protect her child from all of life's pain. And now she can give back to you in ways she couldn't before, when she didn't know.

    As for Emmy, who can measure the comfort a beloved animal gives? Emmy loves you, and you love her. She is your family, too. Of course you could not leave her for that long a time.

    Our 3 dogs are with us now, despite the expense and trouble. They are our family and give us so much more than we give them. They love me the same--see me the same--even if I'm bald and scarred and crisscrossed with lines and tape and tattoos. They don't know that they may outlive me; they just know I am here for them now. So, don't feel guilty for one minute about loving and needing Emmy. And don't let anyone pressure you into leaving her. Trust your feelings on that.

    I will be praying for you and for benign test results. Cysts or scar tissue, are common at the surgery site, I believe. And, worst case scenario, a local recurrence is preferable to distant.

    As someone, most likely our 50-Foot Woman wrote, we are all on that roller coaster, hanging on for dear life. But, we're on there together, and hanging on to each other as well. We are, at least, not alone. Please remember that.
  • CR1954
    CR1954 Member Posts: 1,390 Member
    #7
    dmc.....
    I'm sorry that I am so late in chiming in here.

    Sending you big hugs, dear girl. I will of course, keep you in my prayers....

    CR
  • rjjj
    rjjj Member Posts: 1,822 Member
    #8
    CR1954 said:

    dmc.....
    I'm sorry that I am so late in chiming in here.

    Sending you big hugs, dear girl. I will of course, keep you in my prayers....

    CR

    DMC
    Wow, you are so strong. It is time to place yourself first, and let others support you. You are such a sweetheart for thinking of everyone else first, but do what you need to do right now. And be with who you need to be with. Your Emmy is such a comfort to you I think she should remain with you while you visit your mom.
    You bet you are in my prayers and i am wishing positive results and understanding and compassion from your family. Keep us posted. We will be here anytime for you dear.
    Love and prayers,
    jackie
  • taleena
    taleena Member Posts: 1,612 Member
    #9
    dmc_emmy said:

    Thanks everyone...
    I really appreciated your kind thoughts that where sent my way. I suppose I shouldn't have kept things from my mom, but that's what I did. Tasha, I wish my mom could come to MI, but she will not travel without my father. I have offered to pay for her to fly here in the past, but it's always been, "No."

    My day has been filled with feelings of guilt and thoughts that I have been selfish. Pretty dumb, eh? I always feel this way when my mom gets hurt, it's been the story of my life. I guess I'm rather screwed up, but thought I was being honorable by not involving my mom totally in my dx and handling this by putting all my attention into my 4-legged friend. Crazy me.

    I told my daugther I hadn't even shared with my dear friends here what I was really feeling, but she told me I needed to share. I prefer being on the other end, though, giving others words of encouragement rather than receiving it. That is something this place has taught me.

    My father, is set in his ways; he always has been, and now he's nearly 90. I respect my father, but I'm not sure if I can honestly say if I love him. That's sad, isn't it? I've tried, but something always happens and I pull away.

    It may sound stupid, but Emmy really has been my saving grace. She was in a foster home when I found her on the Net, who knows where she might have ended up. Before that, she was in two different high-kill shelters. She needed me and I convinced myself that she needed me more than I needed her. Who was I kidding?

    Even if she was not a licensed therapy dog, she fills that role for me, every minute that I am with her. When I brought her home it took awhile for her to trust me and I've spent countless hours with her-we are inseparable. I really didn't want to leave her behind when I went to TN. Is it selfish of me to say that I feel guilty leaving her behind after all she has done for me?

    You are all my dearest of frinds, thank you for being here for me. We are here for each other, on this roller-coaster ride called, "Life After the Cancer Dx." What greater blessing can one ask of other?
    dmc

    My dear friend... I am sorry
    My dear friend... I am sorry I'm posting late, as I lay here in bed, I read all the responses and found yours... My daughter turned 21 today, so we went to dinner and the "boat" for a few hours to celebrate.... I am sorry I wasn't here sooner...

    But know that you are in my thoughts and prayers... You do not get to feel guilty from trying to protect the ones you love from hurt... it is a natural instinct to want to do that... but I am sure that them having the knowledge now, helps eliviate some of the burden off your shoulders... at least I hope it is. It is too much of a burden for one to bare alone, and now you don't have to.

    Your daughter loves you very much... I'm glad she has the knowledge now, because one of the lessons this whole process has taught me is that every day is a precious g i f t, how fortunate we are that we have come to that realization so much sooner than so many others who have been unaffected by the beast... now she, out of her love for you, can allow herself to enjoy each moment that the two of you have together... creating precious memories..

    I am sorry your father is so stuborn...and I hope that you will be able to spend time with your mother... and Emmy... spoil her.. she is your companion... and your comfort... the love of an animal is so sweet... they trust, protect, and love us, just for the affection and care we give them...

    Hold on dear friend... look to those beautiful stars above you... they are too numerous to count... just as the blessings, and prayers that are extending out to you!

    Hugs, Love & Friendship

    ~T

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