Feeling rejected
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Both of my girls 15 and 18 have been where your daughter is now. My youngest daughter's friends father was diagnosed when they were 8 and just passed away this year. It was very hard to explain to her why her friend sometimes just didn't want to talk or play but like you we just kept conveying that it was a difficult for her and she just needed to be there when she needed her.
My 18 yr old was 15 when her friend's father was diagnosed with terminal cancer. It was very difficult on my daughter because her friend would go back and forth between her boyfriend and my daughter. I tried to explain to her that it was a difficult time for her with what she was going through with her Dad plus both their hormones were changing and her friend was dealing with being interested in her boyfriend too. On top of everything else I was friends with her Mom and helped her take care of him and was with her when he passed away.
Now my girls are dealing with their Dad having Stage 3 cancer and some of their friends are pulling away which has been hurtful. Especially since they stuck by their friends when their Dad's were sick. It's just a long lonely road and you being supportive of your daughter will help more than you will ever know.
God Bless
Hope0 -
advice - thankslongingforhope said:Advice
Both of my girls 15 and 18 have been where your daughter is now. My youngest daughter's friends father was diagnosed when they were 8 and just passed away this year. It was very hard to explain to her why her friend sometimes just didn't want to talk or play but like you we just kept conveying that it was a difficult for her and she just needed to be there when she needed her.
My 18 yr old was 15 when her friend's father was diagnosed with terminal cancer. It was very difficult on my daughter because her friend would go back and forth between her boyfriend and my daughter. I tried to explain to her that it was a difficult time for her with what she was going through with her Dad plus both their hormones were changing and her friend was dealing with being interested in her boyfriend too. On top of everything else I was friends with her Mom and helped her take care of him and was with her when he passed away.
Now my girls are dealing with their Dad having Stage 3 cancer and some of their friends are pulling away which has been hurtful. Especially since they stuck by their friends when their Dad's were sick. It's just a long lonely road and you being supportive of your daughter will help more than you will ever know.
God Bless
Hope
Thank you so much for giving me the information on what your daughters have gone through. I was crying before I was finished reading. This has helped me tremendously. It made me realize this is not an isolated case.
My heart goes out to you and your family right now dealing with their dad having cancer. I can't even imagine. I will pray for your daughters, you and their dad.
God bless you and your family
Melanie0 -
The rejection may be more because of adolescence than cancer.
Melanie,
As a teacher working in a middle school, I can attest to numerous examples of teen girls neglecting their "BBFs" for new boyfriends. The girl may be seeking a diversion from her home situation amply provided by an exciting new "romance". It is hard for the friend who feels abandoned, but may be the inspiration to explore new outlets of her own. At 15, boyfriends come and go, but a true best friend will endure forever, or at least until college.
Love and Courage!
Rick0 -
Thank you for your advice.terato said:The rejection may be more because of adolescence than cancer.
Melanie,
As a teacher working in a middle school, I can attest to numerous examples of teen girls neglecting their "BBFs" for new boyfriends. The girl may be seeking a diversion from her home situation amply provided by an exciting new "romance". It is hard for the friend who feels abandoned, but may be the inspiration to explore new outlets of her own. At 15, boyfriends come and go, but a true best friend will endure forever, or at least until college.
Love and Courage!
Rick
Thank you for your advice. I really do appreciate it.
Melanie0
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