Fighting! How?

kiley40
kiley40 Member Posts: 17
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
I told my sister that I did not feel like I was fighting. She told me when I go to the doctors and fallow through I am fighting.

Tell me how to fight!!

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  • Jeanne D
    Jeanne D Member Posts: 1,867
    #2
    Well, I have had bc twice
    Well, I have had bc twice and fought both times to overcome it and to live, and, I have won! So, I consider doing the treatments and taking care of myself is fighting..we all fight! Not for sure what your sister means by her statement. But, I fought it and overcame it! Jeanne
  • RE
    RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
    #3
    fighting the beast
    Well for me fighting the nasty C means taking the treatments that will keep it at bay or maybe even destroy it. It means keeping as positive as I can and planning for a future I am determined to have. It means not giving up and not giving in to this ugly illness. If you are in treatment to fight back cancer than you are fighting and you are a survivor.

    Hugs,

    RE
  • CR1954
    CR1954 Member Posts: 1,390 Member
    #4
    Fighting........
    Fighting to me, means going through the countless appts. and testing. Fighting means enduring surgery and pain and drains and scars. Fighting means going on with chemo, even though you lose your hair, you are nauseous, you develop neuropathy which leaves hands and fingers numb, you lose fingernails, you can't eat because of mouth sores, you can't leave your house because you need the bathroom constantly. Fighting means driving an hour each way during the harshest winter months, day after day, for six weeks to complete your rads. Fighting means coming through all of it.....a tired, sore and bald woman, who lacks physical strength and bursts into tears easily. Fighting is finally having your hair start to grow back and even though it's only a half inch long and you look like a boobless man, you smile and think "yeah, but it's STILL hair!
    Every day that you wake up and go on with your life is fighting as far as I'm concerned.

    Winning the fight means knowing that you are forever drastically changed from the "old you" and realizing that the "new you" is really pretty darn good!

    CR
  • taleena
    taleena Member Posts: 1,612 Member
    #5
    Fighting to me is kind of
    Fighting to me is kind of like Claudia has said rather frequently lately.....

    We do what we have to do, to do what we want to do.

    Facing and following through all of the treatments that our doctors and we put together for ourselves, even though each of us has a different plan...

    It means as was said earlier, making plans for the future..

    Not allowing the "beast" to take a way some of the little joys that come our way day to day... if we look close enough even during the darkest part of the storm, there are still little joys, mine happens to be my grandson...

    Fighting means taking steps and whatever actions I can to make sure it goes awawy!

    It means being here with all of you, voicing whatever feelings I have at the time, and not allowing it to build up inside me.... or totaly knock me down!

    Here's to you.. and fighting!

    Hugs

    ~T
  • Jadie
    Jadie Member Posts: 723
    #6
    Fighting
    We use our weapons -mamogram, dr. appointments, chemo, rads, tamoxifen, arimidex, aromasin, zofran, scans, xrays, fish test, HER2 test, and surgery just to mention a few. These are our weapons we fight with. You have begun your fight with the mamo. (Don't remember if you have had surgery or not) Now you choose your weapons carefully and fight. The fight is for your life so do everything you can to win.

    Hugs
    Jadie<3
  • Derbygirl
    Derbygirl Member Posts: 198
    #7
    Fighting means not giving up
    Fighting means not giving up when you heard the "cancer" word.
  • sunnygirl
    sunnygirl Member Posts: 57 Member
    #8
    CR1954 said:

    Fighting........
    Fighting to me, means going through the countless appts. and testing. Fighting means enduring surgery and pain and drains and scars. Fighting means going on with chemo, even though you lose your hair, you are nauseous, you develop neuropathy which leaves hands and fingers numb, you lose fingernails, you can't eat because of mouth sores, you can't leave your house because you need the bathroom constantly. Fighting means driving an hour each way during the harshest winter months, day after day, for six weeks to complete your rads. Fighting means coming through all of it.....a tired, sore and bald woman, who lacks physical strength and bursts into tears easily. Fighting is finally having your hair start to grow back and even though it's only a half inch long and you look like a boobless man, you smile and think "yeah, but it's STILL hair!
    Every day that you wake up and go on with your life is fighting as far as I'm concerned.

    Winning the fight means knowing that you are forever drastically changed from the "old you" and realizing that the "new you" is really pretty darn good!

    CR

    Beautifully put, CR
    I totally agree with what you've said. Thank you for "nailing" it. Cheryl
  • mimivac
    mimivac Member Posts: 2,143 Member
    #9
    What they said
    Fighting is doing what you can to survive this illness. Your sister is right. Going to your appointments and following through are fighting. You may not always feel strong, but you are always carrying on. You may not always feel like fighting. We all break down sometimes. None of this is easy, and you certainly didn't choose to fight this thing. But you are doing something about it nonetheless. That's fighting.

    Mimi
  • outdoorgirl
    outdoorgirl Member Posts: 1,565
    #10
    Fighting means
    taking it one step at a time. Finding a great team of doctors and nurses who you can put your trust in.
    Getting on here was a good step-we can encourage you and walk you through. We have all fought,are fighting,and will continue to fight-because we all love life and aren't "through" yet!
    So,as other ladies on here have said before "time to put on your big girl panties" and face this demon we call cancer!
  • Kat11
    Kat11 Member Posts: 1,931 Member
    #11
    mimivac said:

    What they said
    Fighting is doing what you can to survive this illness. Your sister is right. Going to your appointments and following through are fighting. You may not always feel strong, but you are always carrying on. You may not always feel like fighting. We all break down sometimes. None of this is easy, and you certainly didn't choose to fight this thing. But you are doing something about it nonetheless. That's fighting.

    Mimi

    To me just being told you
    To me just being told you have cancer, and your still here,is fighting.
  • dbs1673
    dbs1673 Member Posts: 203
    #12
    Kat11 said:

    To me just being told you
    To me just being told you have cancer, and your still here,is fighting.

    fighting
    Fighting is having the courage to face today to do what we must and to face tomorrow with all its unknowns. Fighting is pushing aside all the "what ifs" and dealing with "what I know for sure". Fighting is our passion to be and get to what we want. go warriors!!
  • outdoorgirl
    outdoorgirl Member Posts: 1,565
    #13
    Kat11 said:

    To me just being told you
    To me just being told you have cancer, and your still here,is fighting.

    So
    true,Katt!
  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member
    #14
    how to fight...
    you get up in the morning, and decide you will live.

    =^..^=
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    #15
    cats_toy said:

    how to fight...
    you get up in the morning, and decide you will live.

    =^..^=

    I Dunno......
    But to me 'Fighting' was saying........."OK, I'll go through this".. Rather than giving up and saying "What the hell.........."
    Jxxxxxxxxxx
  • zahalene
    zahalene Member Posts: 670
    #16
    tasha_111 said:

    I Dunno......
    But to me 'Fighting' was saying........."OK, I'll go through this".. Rather than giving up and saying "What the hell.........."
    Jxxxxxxxxxx

    exactly, tasha
    I pretty much told my onco, "Ok, I am broke, fix me, but don't bother me with the details". He did. But my job was to do what he told me I needed to do whether I liked it or not (I didn't!).
    23 year survivor. Thanks to God and onco, because I was clueless (by choice).
  • ritazimm
    ritazimm Member Posts: 171
    #17
    Fighting??
    I can relate kiley40. I am a reader of the obituaries and have many times see notices saying that someone passed after a 'long and courageous battle' with ......(many illnesses). When I was going through my treatments, I told my bubby a few times that if the cancer took my life, he could feel free to write that I passed after a 'weak and wussy battle against breast cancer'.

    In our minds we think of a fighter as someone strong and courageous. I did NOT feel neither strong not corageous. But now........looking back........I realize that I was a fighter. Even though I did not want to accept my circumstances, I did not want to continue on, I did not want to be strong, I made it through it all. Even though my fight was one teeny, tiny baby step at a time, I fought my way to the other side. Maybe not the fight of a strong courageous lion, but more like the fight of ant carrying that speck of sand to build his home. One is a much more obvious fighter than the other but both are 'fighters' just the same.

    Just keep going......each day......each step............each moment!
    You will come out of it as a courageous fighter too!

    God bless,
    Rita
  • Akiss4me
    Akiss4me Member Posts: 2,188
    #18
    Fighting...
    Fighting to me is taking one breath at a time telling myself "yes I can!!" while doing all I can to not only help myself but to help my fellow sisters (and brothers). :) Pammy
  • mmontero38
    mmontero38 Member Posts: 1,510
    #19
    Everyday you get up and
    Everyday you get up and smile and say I will not let this beast get me you are fighting. Fighting is not only the chemo, rads and surgery, but a state of mind in which you are not letting this disease get you down. We are all fighters and survivors. Hugs, Lili
  • Christmas Girl
    Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
    #20
    Yes, you are fighting the battle...
    Whether you realize it, or not. Your sister is correct. By keeping your medical appointments, and following whatever recommendations and/or instructions are provided - you ARE fighting. And, you'll continue to do so.

    Best wishes to you.

    Kind regards, Susan
  • survivorbc09
    survivorbc09 Member Posts: 4,374 Member
    #21
    Christmas Girl said:

    Yes, you are fighting the battle...
    Whether you realize it, or not. Your sister is correct. By keeping your medical appointments, and following whatever recommendations and/or instructions are provided - you ARE fighting. And, you'll continue to do so.

    Best wishes to you.

    Kind regards, Susan

    Fighting means doing exactly
    Fighting means doing exactly what you and all of the rest of us are doing. We have our surgery, have chemo, rads, hormone therapy, whatever is required to fight the beast and to be cancer free!

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