Newbie- how do I cope?

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  • karlee
    karlee Member Posts: 2
    #22
    Thanks everyone
    Hi everybody,

    Thanks for all the lovely supportive posts! I am feeling a little better this week, thankfully. I went to see my therapist today for the first time in 3 months and will now see her weekly until I feel better.

    Thanks again!

    Karlee xoxo
  • CR1954
    CR1954 Member Posts: 1,390 Member
    #23
    karlee said:

    Thanks everyone
    Hi everybody,

    Thanks for all the lovely supportive posts! I am feeling a little better this week, thankfully. I went to see my therapist today for the first time in 3 months and will now see her weekly until I feel better.

    Thanks again!

    Karlee xoxo

    Hi Karlee...
    I'm glad that you are feeling a bit better. I'm sure that your therapist will be of great help to you as you maneuver through all that you have to face.

    I am keeping you in my prayers and sending strength and calm your way...

    With love and hugs,
    CR
  • dmdudra
    dmdudra Member Posts: 50
    #24
    It is only 7more weeks
    I am sorry you got this at such a young age. I am 46yrs old and was diagnosis in January of this year. I was told four treatments of the AC. well I thought four treatments and I was done wrong.. I am doing Taxol 12 treatments and I am down to 6 more. then surgery then radiation treatment. My thought are with you, you have come this far stick it out sweetie. I know it is hard but you have family that love you. My boyfriend has been great if not for him I do not know what I would have done and I have said it myself that I am tired and want this over. But he tells me 6 months of this and to be cancer free for the rest of my life is worth it. I have three children 23, 13, 8 and a grandson on the way all of which I want to watch grow up. You have a lot to live for so after this you can live it.. Take care and I will keep you in my thoughts.. Hang in there it is only 7 more weeks..
  • catchat33
    catchat33 Member Posts: 2
    #25
    From An Oldie..........But Hope Some Goodies For You!
    Hi Karlee,

    Just joined this network today and now I know why! You really touched my heart. I am a 17 year breast cancer survivor diagnosed at Stage IIIB at the age of 42 which was considered young. Have had a double mastectomy, extensive chemo, radiation. Lost my mother to breast cancer in 1983. My daughter had just turned three when I was diagnosed and now she is twenty.

    All I could think of when I was going through the treatments was that I had to make it for her and something had to be done to find out how breast cancer could be prevented so she would not have to follow in her grandmother and mother's steps. I'm so sorry that the answers haven't been found yet, but if there's one thing we don't want to lose is the word, HOPE.

    Have you heard of the Young Survivors Coalition (http://www.youngsurvival.org/) or the Young Survivors Network (http://www.youngsurvivorsnetwork.org/)? These organizations are for young breast cancer survivors like you. Please contact them. I think it might help you to find young women who have gone through what you are experiencing.

    Joining the National Breast Cancer Coalition and helping to found the NC Breast Cancer Coalition played a part in saving me. I have met the most wonderful women from all over the U.S. who are survivors. There is a very strong bond with them.

    I know it hurts to lose a boyfriend, friends, breasts and hair, but you will find you've actually gained so much more in time. You are stronger and the real you will begin to appear. You will make better, new friends and some of the old ones will come back. They don't know what to say to you right now and are actually a little afraid of you. But, learn to forgive them because you are a better person. If they can't cope or don't fit into your new life then let them go to make room for your new ones.

    Make a list of all the things you've always wanted to do and begin to do them. Dream big and make your dreams come true. You'll be surprised at what you can do. Lastly, laugh as much as you can and cry whenever you want. Live it up!

    Well, hope these were some goodies and remember you've got a lot of people out here who want to see you succeed and make your dreams come true!

    The Oldie
  • Christmas Girl
    Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
    #26
    catchat33 said:

    From An Oldie..........But Hope Some Goodies For You!
    Hi Karlee,

    Just joined this network today and now I know why! You really touched my heart. I am a 17 year breast cancer survivor diagnosed at Stage IIIB at the age of 42 which was considered young. Have had a double mastectomy, extensive chemo, radiation. Lost my mother to breast cancer in 1983. My daughter had just turned three when I was diagnosed and now she is twenty.

    All I could think of when I was going through the treatments was that I had to make it for her and something had to be done to find out how breast cancer could be prevented so she would not have to follow in her grandmother and mother's steps. I'm so sorry that the answers haven't been found yet, but if there's one thing we don't want to lose is the word, HOPE.

    Have you heard of the Young Survivors Coalition (http://www.youngsurvival.org/) or the Young Survivors Network (http://www.youngsurvivorsnetwork.org/)? These organizations are for young breast cancer survivors like you. Please contact them. I think it might help you to find young women who have gone through what you are experiencing.

    Joining the National Breast Cancer Coalition and helping to found the NC Breast Cancer Coalition played a part in saving me. I have met the most wonderful women from all over the U.S. who are survivors. There is a very strong bond with them.

    I know it hurts to lose a boyfriend, friends, breasts and hair, but you will find you've actually gained so much more in time. You are stronger and the real you will begin to appear. You will make better, new friends and some of the old ones will come back. They don't know what to say to you right now and are actually a little afraid of you. But, learn to forgive them because you are a better person. If they can't cope or don't fit into your new life then let them go to make room for your new ones.

    Make a list of all the things you've always wanted to do and begin to do them. Dream big and make your dreams come true. You'll be surprised at what you can do. Lastly, laugh as much as you can and cry whenever you want. Live it up!

    Well, hope these were some goodies and remember you've got a lot of people out here who want to see you succeed and make your dreams come true!

    The Oldie

    Welcome, catchat33!
    I joined this amazing group just a couple of weeks ago, as an almost 6 year survivor. My original intention was to "give back"... As a longer-term survivor, wanting to provide a living example of HOPE for others just starting their own journeys.

    Thank YOU, for providing me with inspiration & additional hope for the future!

    Kudos to you for helping to found the NC Breast Cancer Coalition.

    Kind regards, Susan

    P.S.: If this is your first post, above, it is buried within this thread. I suggest you begin your own post (discussion topic) of introduction so that others can "find" you more easily. I assure you that many will step forward to welcome you, as I have here.
  • rjjj
    rjjj Member Posts: 1,822 Member
    #27
    dear Karlee
    I am glad you came here, we will walk with you every step of the way. I know it is easy for others to tell you to stay positive etc. etc. You may not feel like it now..chemo can kick our butt and do lots of things to our emotions. They say this will get alot better after chemo is finished. 7 more weeks can seem like a eternity right now. But you have the rest of your life to live sweetie, and so very much to give. You will someday be a nurse with a very special gift, because you have been there. Please don't give up. It will get so much better.
    God Bless
    jackie
  • Lelana
    Lelana Member Posts: 32
    #28
    Boy friend !
    Hi there Karlee !
    This is Tom, Loni's husband.
    I waited 53 years to find my wife Loni, and she is the only wife I have ever had.
    I'm not about to walk out on her now or ever !
    Those that leave when things get tough would have left under other circumstances anyway, so I say goodby and have a nice life to them, they are not wanted here !
    I'm everyone's Uncle Tom, and I adopted a 39 year old girl that needed a dad, and I needed a daughter. The adoption is not real, but it works for the both of us ! We do it by email, she is in Boston, and I am in California. It fills a void we both had, and we talk about everything.
    If you need a boy friend, I'm the guy! Age does not matter to me, and Loni understands this is all in fun and helpfull.
    There is one thing that you should know, Breast cancer is not curable, but you can hope for remission. Loni is 68 and we are batteling this cancer thing for the third time, and are winning again ! It can be done, and will be done ! It is a tough road to travel, and if you need me to travel it with you,I will !
    Lots of love, Tom and Loni
  • catchat33
    catchat33 Member Posts: 2
    #29
    Christmas Girl said:

    Welcome, catchat33!
    I joined this amazing group just a couple of weeks ago, as an almost 6 year survivor. My original intention was to "give back"... As a longer-term survivor, wanting to provide a living example of HOPE for others just starting their own journeys.

    Thank YOU, for providing me with inspiration & additional hope for the future!

    Kudos to you for helping to found the NC Breast Cancer Coalition.

    Kind regards, Susan

    P.S.: If this is your first post, above, it is buried within this thread. I suggest you begin your own post (discussion topic) of introduction so that others can "find" you more easily. I assure you that many will step forward to welcome you, as I have here.

    Hi Christmas Girl!
    Sorry it has taken me so long to reply. Have been very busy with work and family. My first cousin who was diagnosed 4 years ago with breast cancer has had a recurrence and mets to her lung and liver. She is now coping with a triple negative diagnosis and hoping to get into M.D. Anderson Cancer Center soon.

    For the past 7 years I have been working as a recruiter for the Sister Study which is a national breast cancer study conducted by one of the National Institutes of Health. Our goal was to recruit 50,000 sisters of women who have been diagnosed with breast cancer. We've reached the goal! Good news is we have over 50,000 women in the study and researchers have already found evidence that the sisters in the study who haven't been diagnosed with breast cancer themselves have longer telomeres (found in DNA chromosomes). The women in the study that have been diagnosed have shorter telomeres. Conclusion: This provides the first epidemiologic evidence that multivitamin use is associated with longer telomere length among women. There will many more findings from this study, so please stay-tuned!

    My hope for this research is to show our daughters, granddaughters, and all women a way to prevent having breast cancer or at least slow it down.

    Blessings to you and all the other women out there!
    Cat (Still surviving and thriving after 17 years!)
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    #30
    Lelana said:

    Boy friend !
    Hi there Karlee !
    This is Tom, Loni's husband.
    I waited 53 years to find my wife Loni, and she is the only wife I have ever had.
    I'm not about to walk out on her now or ever !
    Those that leave when things get tough would have left under other circumstances anyway, so I say goodby and have a nice life to them, they are not wanted here !
    I'm everyone's Uncle Tom, and I adopted a 39 year old girl that needed a dad, and I needed a daughter. The adoption is not real, but it works for the both of us ! We do it by email, she is in Boston, and I am in California. It fills a void we both had, and we talk about everything.
    If you need a boy friend, I'm the guy! Age does not matter to me, and Loni understands this is all in fun and helpfull.
    There is one thing that you should know, Breast cancer is not curable, but you can hope for remission. Loni is 68 and we are batteling this cancer thing for the third time, and are winning again ! It can be done, and will be done ! It is a tough road to travel, and if you need me to travel it with you,I will !
    Lots of love, Tom and Loni

    WOW!....Look at all them Cats!
    Hi Tom and Loni!

    How Do I cope?......You are doing more than great! Hugs Jxxxxxxxxx

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