"hormonal"crying

Ltalcott
Ltalcott Member Posts: 119
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
For all of my adult life, I have occasionally cried at "nothing" and I've always attributed it to my hormones.

Now I'm on Tamoxifen, and it will be stamping out my hormones to starve the cancer.

So when I cry for nothing now, or feel weepy--what do I blame it on?

I can't believe my crying jags are over.

Lisa

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  • cats_toy
    cats_toy Member Posts: 1,462 Member
    #2
    I think there is a song in there somewhere...
    Lisa, if crying is what gets you through the frustration, anger, happiness, worry, fright, etc. then, go ahead and let it out, reason or no. I never was good at crying, my eyes swelled up and looked like tomatoes (not a pretty sign). When I lost my dad, I would not cry, so on the way home from work, which seemed to be the time it hit me worst, I would scream. Feels good too! You do what you need to keep sane. Whatever you do, keep up the good fight.
    Cat
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    #3
    Wah! Wah! Wah!
    I blame it on Hallmark!

    And you will still have the capacity to cry at the drop of a dime~ I still do even after 5 years of Arimidex!

    Hugs,
    Claudia
  • peggy65
    peggy65 Member Posts: 100
    #4
    i cry all the time. it is
    i cry all the time. it is good for us. i always feel better after i am finished. i have a "breakdown" usually every week. it is good for the soul. love, peggy
  • RE
    RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
    #5
    Soggy sobbing
    Oh dear Lisa if you think your crying jags are over, sorry but they are not. I still have weepy days for little or no reason at all, just cause I am a girl. I think no matter what it is in our chemical make up, we are a sensitive group. Let the tears fall when you feel like it, it can be cleansing.

    Hugs,

    RE
  • mmontero38
    mmontero38 Member Posts: 1,510
    #6
    Hey Lisa, I think it's part
    Hey Lisa, I think it's part of our new life. But, it's ok to cry every now and then as long as you can snap yourself out of it and not sit too long on the pitty potty. Hugs, Lili
  • Christmas Girl
    Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
    #7
    Crying is GOOD for the body!
    AND the mind & spirit. You say you've cried at "nothing" - and, I know exactly what you mean and how that feels. However, I don't believe it's REALLY "nothing" - there's a reason, and sometimes we just can't identify it.

    You're a breast cancer survivor, Lisa - you have darned good reason to cry any darned time you feel like it! It's not a sign of weakness, it's simply a release...

    I once read that our tear ducts create two distinctly different types of fluids, for three different functions:
    (1) The tears that keep our eyes moist all the time. Every time we blink, these tears are released to freshly wet the eyes.
    (2) The tears that "flood" our eyes in order to help dislodge a foreign object. For example, a grain of sand on a windy day at the beach.
    Note: (1) & (2) are the exact same tear fluid, just released in different amounts.
    (3) The tears we cry. A different fluid because these tears contain stress-related toxins. So, when we cry - we're actually doing something healthy for our bodies! I now look at crying THIS way: it's a SURVIVAL mechanism!!!

    And lord knows - we here know how to survive!

    Hope this helps, even if just a little bit.

    Kind regards, Susan
  • crazylady55
    crazylady55 Member Posts: 92
    #8
    Christmas Girl said:

    Crying is GOOD for the body!
    AND the mind & spirit. You say you've cried at "nothing" - and, I know exactly what you mean and how that feels. However, I don't believe it's REALLY "nothing" - there's a reason, and sometimes we just can't identify it.

    You're a breast cancer survivor, Lisa - you have darned good reason to cry any darned time you feel like it! It's not a sign of weakness, it's simply a release...

    I once read that our tear ducts create two distinctly different types of fluids, for three different functions:
    (1) The tears that keep our eyes moist all the time. Every time we blink, these tears are released to freshly wet the eyes.
    (2) The tears that "flood" our eyes in order to help dislodge a foreign object. For example, a grain of sand on a windy day at the beach.
    Note: (1) & (2) are the exact same tear fluid, just released in different amounts.
    (3) The tears we cry. A different fluid because these tears contain stress-related toxins. So, when we cry - we're actually doing something healthy for our bodies! I now look at crying THIS way: it's a SURVIVAL mechanism!!!

    And lord knows - we here know how to survive!

    Hope this helps, even if just a little bit.

    Kind regards, Susan

    I sure hope crying is
    I sure hope crying is healthy. I have never been a crier but since my diagnosis anything may bring on the tears and for at least 2 months, I cried every day. It seemed to make me even more sad, so my new philosophy is to replace the tears with a laugh. A good joke everyday or some silly comedy on TV, I am trying to reserve the tears for those really down days(like 4 different doctors appt. this week).

    so instead of the hormonal cry look for a laugh to replace the tears. I have some good friends who send me email jokes or silly cards on a regular basis.
  • djteach
    djteach Member Posts: 273
    #9
    Hi Lisa,
    I could cry at the
    Hi Lisa,
    I could cry at the drop of a hat. I have happy crying, sad crying, and the one that I hate is anger crying-unless I'm by myself. This was before b/c. Now we don't have to blame it on anything or explain it period. It's just the way we are. I always feel so much better after a good cry and it's one of the most intelligent ways to express feelings! Hang in there.

    Love and Gentle Hugs,
    Donna
  • jojo elizapest
    jojo elizapest Member Posts: 122
    #10
    No blame no shame
    when I first was diagnosed and found these boards I read one that for me coined the phrase "chemo-sobby"...I am not sure who posted it...but I have latched onto it and blame my crying jags on it. You know when you are crying and your significant other asks "whats wrong" blurting out chemosobby is so much easier than trying to figure it all out and put it into a nice verbal package...also seems to take the pressure off of me to figure out why...and just go with it. In the spirit of chemo sobby I have also taken to sending Lone Ranger Reports out on email to family and friends, my husband recieved a set of masks from a well meaning friend, and when I am overtaken wtih tears on the phone several of my sisters will just wait it out by humming the lone ranger theme song to me...that cracks the gloom!

    I am also on the oral hormone therapy...and my crying jags will be a part of me...whether I can blame them on anything or justify them in any way...
  • Noel
    Noel Member Posts: 3,095 Member
    #11
    jojo elizapest said:

    No blame no shame
    when I first was diagnosed and found these boards I read one that for me coined the phrase "chemo-sobby"...I am not sure who posted it...but I have latched onto it and blame my crying jags on it. You know when you are crying and your significant other asks "whats wrong" blurting out chemosobby is so much easier than trying to figure it all out and put it into a nice verbal package...also seems to take the pressure off of me to figure out why...and just go with it. In the spirit of chemo sobby I have also taken to sending Lone Ranger Reports out on email to family and friends, my husband recieved a set of masks from a well meaning friend, and when I am overtaken wtih tears on the phone several of my sisters will just wait it out by humming the lone ranger theme song to me...that cracks the gloom!

    I am also on the oral hormone therapy...and my crying jags will be a part of me...whether I can blame them on anything or justify them in any way...

    I think it is perfectly
    I think it is perfectly normal for us to cry anytime for whatever or for no reason. Just think what we have been thru!

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