too much stress lately!

peggy65
peggy65 Member Posts: 100
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
we have been going through this for three months. YUK! my husband finally got a second opinion at lahey clinic about his high psa (prostate), after his local doc told him it had gone to 18, normal is 2-5, and that he probably had prostate cancer.so he did a biopsy which he said came back negative but would not do a repeat psa to double check everything. well the new doc in boston took another test, saying it was standard procedure, and it is back to 3, what it usually is. so we are home free regarding prostate cancer. the problem and why it has been so stressful, should this surprise me, is that when we went to the first doc to get the results of the biopsy all he said to us was that is was negative. he gave us no explanation,statistics or anything. so we were left with his last words to us "see you next year". he gave us no explanation for such a high score on the test and when i asked him about it he said"we don't know why this happens". so there my husband and i sat, really stunned because we had steeled ourselves into thinking that everybody was right and he did have cancer. with me still feeling the effects of chemo and radiation we just thought this can't be; a husband and wife have cancer the same time. i joked with him and said we could go and have our blood tests and then go out for lunch. this whole thing has taken a toll on us. we are just not sure what to do regarding the first doctor. we have never been treated so shabbily and rudely not just by him but his office staff as well. and to think he didn't want any followup is outrageous. i am ranting and raving, i'm sorry. i just had to vent. boy do we have to be mindful what is happening to our bodies and advocate for ourselves and family members. thanks for listening. we're having a big fat pizza tonight in front of the fire with our labs sitting next to us. love, peggy

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  • CR1954
    CR1954 Member Posts: 1,390 Member
    #2
    Hi Peggy....
    I think you have pretty much answered your own question regarding the first doctor...treated shabbily and no follow-up. I personally could not trust my life in the hands of a doctor whom I had little or no trust in, as far as looking out for my well-being. Some doctors I think, simply get so jaded after years of practicing medicine. As far as I'm concerned, they don't have to be charming or even have warm personalities. But they DO have to know what they are doing, treat me with the respect that we all deserve AND answer my questions.
    Is there a chance that your husband could continue with the second doctor in Boston?

    I'm very sorry that you and your husband have had to go through this latest scare. And I can certainly see where all of this would add more stress to your lives. And none of us needs any additional stress!

    Vent anytime!
    CR

    P.S. Pizza sounds sooo good!!
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    #3
    CR1954 said:

    Hi Peggy....
    I think you have pretty much answered your own question regarding the first doctor...treated shabbily and no follow-up. I personally could not trust my life in the hands of a doctor whom I had little or no trust in, as far as looking out for my well-being. Some doctors I think, simply get so jaded after years of practicing medicine. As far as I'm concerned, they don't have to be charming or even have warm personalities. But they DO have to know what they are doing, treat me with the respect that we all deserve AND answer my questions.
    Is there a chance that your husband could continue with the second doctor in Boston?

    I'm very sorry that you and your husband have had to go through this latest scare. And I can certainly see where all of this would add more stress to your lives. And none of us needs any additional stress!

    Vent anytime!
    CR

    P.S. Pizza sounds sooo good!!

    Disgusting!!!!!!!!!
    How do these people get a job (career, occupation) that involves dealing with the public? Just terrible! Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  • seof
    seof Member Posts: 819 Member
    #4
    If you and your Dr. cannot
    If you and your Dr. cannot communicate easily, it certainly sounds to me like it's time to change Drs. Stick with the 2nd one, or find one like him.

    I wish you well, seof
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    #5
    Physician, Heal Thyself!!!!!
    What we need is, a Dr. with the diagnostic genious of Dr House, the loving-care of Marcus Welby, and the looks of either Ben Casey or Dr Kildare! I mean really...is that too much to ask?????? (For those of you who don't know who these men are; well, ask your parents or grandparents!) LOL LOL

    I hope you enjoyed the pizza~ you both deserved to!

    Hugs,
    Claudia
  • mmontero38
    mmontero38 Member Posts: 1,510
    #6
    chenheart said:

    Physician, Heal Thyself!!!!!
    What we need is, a Dr. with the diagnostic genious of Dr House, the loving-care of Marcus Welby, and the looks of either Ben Casey or Dr Kildare! I mean really...is that too much to ask?????? (For those of you who don't know who these men are; well, ask your parents or grandparents!) LOL LOL

    I hope you enjoyed the pizza~ you both deserved to!

    Hugs,
    Claudia

    LOL Claudia, I remember
    LOL Claudia, I remember those doctors! I was a little girl for Dr. Kildare and Ben Casey, but yousa, yousa, were they good looking. There are compassionate doctors out there just a rare breed and hard to find. Hugs, Lili
  • lynn1950
    lynn1950 Member Posts: 2,570
    #7
    Pizza tonight
    Peggy, sorry for the miserable experience, but grateful for your husband's good news. We are having homemade pizza tonight! Lynn
  • peggy65
    peggy65 Member Posts: 100
    #8
    thanks everyone. some times
    thanks everyone. some times you think that you are the only one. rock on. pegy
  • mmontero38
    mmontero38 Member Posts: 1,510
    #9
    Peggy, I would certainly do
    Peggy, I would certainly do some shopping around for a new urologist. Any doctor with that disregard especially knowing you just had diagnosis does not deserve your visit. Find another doctor. Hugs, Lili
  • Christmas Girl
    Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
    #10
    Hello, Peggy!
    Gee, am so sorry about all of the additional stress - while at the same time relieved about your husband, for both of your sakes.

    It is so very important for all of us to have doctors we feel comfortable with and can trust. When family & friends complain about theirs - my simple advice is to find a different one! There are SO MANY OF 'EM - no patient should put up with a disappointing doctor! Glad you found one you can have confidence in.

    Pizza? YUM! Labs - even better! :-)

    From one fellow dog lover to another, and with...

    Kind regards, Susan
  • djteach
    djteach Member Posts: 273
    #11
    Hi Peggy,
    It sounds like you
    Hi Peggy,
    It sounds like you got a dr. that has a god complex. The "I am the dr. and thou shalt not question me!" type. Unfortunately, bedside manner is not a class that all drs. must pass. I am glad that you and your husband got the great news. I hope your tests and his always come back clear from now on.

    I'm about to fire my onc. which I would never have considered doing a year ago, oh well. Some drs. hide their "god complex" better than others.

    Love and Gentle Hugs,
    Donna
  • Noel
    Noel Member Posts: 3,095 Member
    #12
    I am so sorry Peggy
    I know that sometimes it just seems like enough is enough! My husband and I have planned several vacations this year. We normally go on vacation every year, but, this time, we are going on several. I think we deserve it. Maybe you and your hubby and can do that too? Just get away and forget about the big C...that is what I am planning. I hope it works!
  • Aortus
    Aortus Member Posts: 967
    #13
    Noel said:

    I am so sorry Peggy
    I know that sometimes it just seems like enough is enough! My husband and I have planned several vacations this year. We normally go on vacation every year, but, this time, we are going on several. I think we deserve it. Maybe you and your hubby and can do that too? Just get away and forget about the big C...that is what I am planning. I hope it works!

    Good call on the vacations!
    If everything works out right, the Moopster and I will be taking several monthly trips to MD Anderson in Houston for a clinical trial. Our first consultation and screening is in early July, and we are definitely making a vacation out of it. Obviously we're not going to be forgetting about the big C while we're at MD Anderson... but we definitely plan on thumbing our noses at it and mooning it some.

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