Herceptin...

Hello. I spoke to all of you a few months ago when my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. It has been a loooooooong road to here since November 07, of 2008. My post was what to say to my mom. She is taking only the Herceptin treatment. Her cancer doctor has been very rude and I am not sure what to do at this point. But, he told my mom there is no cancer left in her whole body and that he wouldn't want to put her on chemo because "she is so against it anyway and it will probably make her very ill" I am glad for no chemo as she is 84. However, her first does of herceptin made her eyes turn bright red. her first treatment was Jan 29. now almost 2 months later we have noticed a huge rise in her blood pressures 189/82; 176/80; 172/66 and her vision has become blurred. She will have her eyes looked at but she had caterak surgery on both eyes in September of 2008. Her vision was perfect. The cancer nurse (a man) who worked at our local hospital who neglegently took care of my dad during his many stays at the hospital as well during his dialysis treatments is the main boss at the cancer center here. He was upset that my mom didn't want him to use her port to take blood draws. My mom is in excellent condition, and has veins to spare she is that healthy. He had to poke her several times and brused her all up. He never took her labs before, he was the only one there that day. I didn't go with my mother as my son was ill at home. The one time I didn't go and this happened to her. I called to the cancer center and told the person in charge how nasty this man was to my mom. I had called my mom's cancer Doctor as I was instructed by my mom's family doctor (he was basically unavailable and still is as far as being able to see her in his office becuase he had back surgery but he instructed me to tell her cancer doctor about these reactions she has been having with her BP and blurred vision. I did that. When my mom had her follow up appt with the cancer doctor he came in and got upset with me for calling him because the office telephone rolls over to his cell phone and his girlfriend got mad at him and thinks he is having an affair and that his girlfriend wanted to know if I was pretty and he said he told her yeah she is she's got all these rings and has been married at least 8 times and then went on to be rude to my mom and told her well you don't want to take treatment so that's up to you so just don't. If you don't want to you don't have to. My mom never said anything about not taking treatment, she wants to continue with it. And then he goes on to make comments like "what is with all your rings the both of you?" and then went on to tell me he liked my shoes and what kind were they and if I thought they would fit him? I was so embarassed plus he didn't even examine my mom take her bp or her vitals....just told us by and lets keep on the treatments. I wasn't able to speak with our family doctor as he was sick but his wife is a nurse and I did tell her. She was appalled by what he said, but to just think of my mom's best interest and try to ignore him as he is one of the best doctors here. My mom is doing well except for these things but there are those side effects like heart damage, and hypertension those are 2 of the side effects listed. I'm so worried. You see, my dad was a very sick man. He had heart disease, Parkinson's disease and kidney failure. I oversaw his condition for 8 years of his dialysis plus 5 years prior to that for a quadruple bypass. I was always cautious with his condition and I kept a close eye on the doctors. Even when he was being kept alive on machines and meds, I needed his doctors to tell me to be sure even when there really was no hope that his brain was not working anymore, I asked for brain scan. The person right now in charge of the cancer center is the same man who denied me and my father that brain scan. I went to the CEO of the hospital when that happened and she had the scan done within 15 minutes. How can I trust this person with my mother now? I don't know what to do. I don't want them to treat her badly and they already are, including her own cancer doctor. You see, we have a brand new cancer center that just opened here in our town about 1 1/2 years ago. If I say too much or keep my eyes on them too much I'm afraid they will not treat her and the next cancer place is 132 miles away. I can't drive that far once a week by myself with my 8 year old son and him miss school. I am at my wits end. I am grateful for your help before and I don't mean to bother you all as you all have been through so much as well. I'm stumped with this. I've never had anyone treat me this way and I don't know what to do about this. God Bless and thank you all