Lost a 'chemo buddy' this week, a sad reminder of what can happen.

green50 said:

sounds good LOL
Thanks Slick for keeping us smiling. Your stories help the day. Tom and I would of been married 32 years this year. He use to make me laugh about every day. I miss that. You and your wife sound like us. We were in a mobile home that Tom said he wouldnt live in because he built them but it was an old one and what we could afford in the beginning. Floor unlevel. It was "home". Again thanks for the laughs. Chemo brain here better stop while I'm ahead LOL
Prayers and Hugs
Sandy

Life is so fagile
Thanks for all the kind words. It was such a shock to find out about my daughter's father's death. He was only 49. I hadn't seen him in 13 years. I spoke to him on the phone maybe 4 years ago. I sent him a Christmas card with a picture of my daughter's school picture in it. She was entering high school this last Fall when it was taken. He lived in another state. He went to the hospital with pnemonia and with his heart problems, it did him in. He died on March 13, Friday the 13th, and his funeral was on St. Patrick's Day. Of course my daughter and I were not in attendance because I only got the letter from Social Security last Thursday, 12 days too late. He was cremated. They are planning to do something with his ashes on July 4th. So we will see. I didn't have a long relationship with him--there were too many issues. He was an alcoholic. But I think back to that time period and it's like it was just yesterday when I first met him. I hope that where is he, that he has found the peace he could not find in this life.

when i began my chemo, i sat
when i began my chemo, i sat in my chair not wanting to acknowledge anyone there, probably i didn't want to acknowledge that i was sitting in a chemo therapy chair ready for an infusion. that aside, i soon began to acknowledge my fellow chemo mates and found an extraordinary bond developing with several of them. even their family members. it was such a blessing to meet these people, who like me, had cancer. there was something calming about going to the chemo room after a while. it actually felt like a safe place. i felt almost privileged to be with my new friends, many of them becoming friends after chemo. we immediately shared a common bond. i didn't have to explain or even talk if i didn't want to. so losing a chemo fiend is a big deal. yes, it happens but that doesn't make it any easier to accept. my prayers are with you as you continue to walk without your friend. love, peggy