helping with funeral arrangements

Kat 6678
KAT
I am so sorry to here of your situation. My heart goes out to you. What State do you live in.
I don't know too much about Finicial aid for your situation But I sure could help you do some searching for some help. We just need the state to see what may be available. I know with all That you are going thru, worring about how to pay for funeral expenses should not be in your thoughts. May be The folks here on this site may know of some help that is available. You started in the right place. We are all here to help as much as we can. I have been in your shoes with my wife Cathy, Who also had Terminal lung cancer that went to her Brain and they had to do the surgery to remove the tumor. They gave her the treatments to make what time she had left more comfortable for her. I went through the seizures, the pain, the stress, and the terible loss of losing her. I know some days feel just to much to handle. Just know there has been a lot of great people here on this site that have gone through your journey. We all have had the ups, the downs, the stress, and the Pain. Let me know as soon as you can about your state and I will start looking.
My best hopes and wishes go out to you.
MR_SAD

social security
I Know in mass Social security gives a one time death benefit up to 1500.00 its not much but make sure you contact social security in your area as well. ACS may have funds available, DId u try your local hospice group as well if your husband is in his final stages you should get theri help as well they can help with many issues of comfort, support, for you him and the family,
it surprises me to find out funeral home doesnt do payment arrangements what are you to do keep his body there for years -till you come up with money? geesh not everyone can come up with 5000.00 or more out of the blue.
I knows it alot to do but you can also try to have a benefit.
Its work but alot of people are willing to donate a function hall or club, DJ or band and many stores for your raffles, MAke up a sign or flyer explaining briefly what happened and where all proceeds will go to with his picture go to places you always go to hairdressers, barbers, grocery stores, liquor stores, resteraunts, etcc youll be amazed at how many donate Gift Certificates or small items, , then all you need to do is have everyone make a dish and buy tickets to enter $10-$20 a ticket. At moms i made 3000.00 i HAd a good outcome and was lucky but benefits work if you can do it.
For now just worry about spending time with him, hold, love and support let him know all will be okay he is probably worried about leaving you and what will happen, just let him know there is help you will find it and you will be okay let him go in peace with no worries. My thoughts are with you

hunpot said:

social security
I Know in mass Social security gives a one time death benefit up to 1500.00 its not much but make sure you contact social security in your area as well. ACS may have funds available, DId u try your local hospice group as well if your husband is in his final stages you should get theri help as well they can help with many issues of comfort, support, for you him and the family,
it surprises me to find out funeral home doesnt do payment arrangements what are you to do keep his body there for years -till you come up with money? geesh not everyone can come up with 5000.00 or more out of the blue.
I knows it alot to do but you can also try to have a benefit.
Its work but alot of people are willing to donate a function hall or club, DJ or band and many stores for your raffles, MAke up a sign or flyer explaining briefly what happened and where all proceeds will go to with his picture go to places you always go to hairdressers, barbers, grocery stores, liquor stores, resteraunts, etcc youll be amazed at how many donate Gift Certificates or small items, , then all you need to do is have everyone make a dish and buy tickets to enter $10-$20 a ticket. At moms i made 3000.00 i HAd a good outcome and was lucky but benefits work if you can do it.
For now just worry about spending time with him, hold, love and support let him know all will be okay he is probably worried about leaving you and what will happen, just let him know there is help you will find it and you will be okay let him go in peace with no worries. My thoughts are with you

kat6678
I am so sorry. If your husband ever served in the military I would call 1-800-827-1000 at Veteran Affairs to see if he qualify's for any benefits. If he served during a time of war or after certain dates he may have benefits coming. He didn't have to be in a war zone. Just a thought as I don't know his history. Slickwilly

Funerals
Dear Kat I hate to sound negative but even a Funeral home will try to pressure you into buying the most expensive casket and items. I had no idea how expensive things were. Casket Spray $400,satin lined gold trimmed Caskets as high as $10,000. I am sorry Mr Funeral Director but a beautiful lace cloth brought from home or a beautiful arrangement can be had a lot cheaper. The director will say "Wouldn't you like to say you gave the best for your loved one so they will know how much you cared." I told our funeral director and I really liked him that Momma knew how much I loved her because I was with her most of the time and told her. By the time my Dad died 2 years later-We had a beautiful cheap casket,a flag for the casket,short visitation,and knew we didn't need videos or even the fancy cars to take us to cemetary. They charge for everything so be aware and make it the service you and he planned not what someone else tells you to get so HE WILL KNOW YOU cared. You Care because you are there.Best to you and your husband.You'll be in my prayers.I am not prepared either and my husband was diagnosed 2 1/2 years ago.

Funerals - Burial Expenses - State WV

I have a simaliar question as Kat.

 My mother passed away this past Friday in Greenbrier Valley Medical Center in the state of Wet Virginia. She had been a patient at White Sulphur Springs Nursing Homes for some time before that. She suffered from dementia and died of cancer. She had zero assets and no burial or life insurance. Can you point me in the direction of any other possible resources to help with this outside of social services? It looks like they are out of funds for this year already. 

 

Any help at all is appreciated and thank you in advance for your time.