sleeping after the loss of someone

MR_SAD said:

Sleep
Tracy
You definitly need to ask your doctor for something to help you get a good nights sleep.
I went the first week after My wife Passed away without hardly any sleep at all. It does take a toll on you. I talked to my doctor and she gave me something. I have to cut them in half,
because I still need to get up and get my Boys off to school and to Work. They have never been to good at getting up in the morning. I take one about a 1/2 hour before I go to bed and they give me a good nights sleep. With 4 boys I know you have a lot to keep you busy during the day, Its the night time that is the hardest for me also. I know that your are going through a very tough time. Things around here get awlful lonely after the boys leave. I try to stay busy, but it still hurts. Tommorrow will be 2 weeks, and it seems that time has stopped for me. The days go by very slowly, Do you ever feel that way? How old are your Kids?
Hopefully in time the hurt will get easier to handle, Sometimes I just loose it. We both will always have a Hole in our hearts that will never mend.
Your friend
MR_Sad

thanks sleep
I did have some anxiety meds (clonezapam and valium) when mom first got sick and after to calm me down it did work but made me very groggy the whole day there after so i stopped taking. Im not a medicine person at all, hate pills unless its aspirin. It seems sleepy meds or even flu like meds Nyquil (OTC) make me groggy and very tired for like 2 days prob just my body.
My boys age 18, 14, 9, 6 its very lonely once they go off to school. Mine dont like to get up either thats why my day starts at 6am my youngest is in half day kindergarden so i cant get a full time job yet with him home at noon. so i have to work part time nights for now thats another reason why my day is so lonely by myself. It did semm to go by so slow at first for me but its been almost 5 months so its not that bad its just always there the fact i cant see, talk , hear or visit her during my quiet boring times now. grrrrrrr. The hurt is okay i seem to get by just cant find a way to sleep lately without crying for 2 hrs first. It does go away because it was good for a few months just seems past 2 weeks is hard.

In time will get easier for you im sure. Its okay to just loose it. I lost it for like 3 months on differnt days and times I remember just falling to the floor crying one day when the kids all went to school, another time i remember taking a shower and just crying and sobbing histerically just because shes not here. I would give anything to have her back. I miss my best friend to talk with. I feel for you as your used to sharing a house, bed, family with her i dont know what i would do without my hubby i am such a light sleeper when he works late nights or is out with buddies i can feel when hes not in bed and will be up all night till he is in bed its weird. I can feel your sadness and you are in my thoughts. I tried to go to some group counseling through hospice but when i called it was all people who had lost their spouse and the counselor thought it would benefit me, i may just try it to get out of house during day not sure what to do still if it will benefit me as we had a life but its differnt then a spouse. I hope your memories and time spent will bring you happiness as i say we have our children to live for now. I do for them evryday as she would want me to and make sure they are happy and healthy its all about the future and their well being.
God bless you
tracy