Positive Attitude and Faith in God Survives

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  • TammyLouBob
    TammyLouBob Member Posts: 16
    #42
    High Cost of Doing Business...for our nurses
    Yup.

    I know I love my chemo nurse.

    Cries with me.

    No doubt, it is a tough job.

    Thank you.

    Tammy Lou
  • ohilly
    ohilly Member Posts: 441
    #43
    TammyLouBob said:

    High Cost of Doing Business...for our nurses
    Yup.

    I know I love my chemo nurse.

    Cries with me.

    No doubt, it is a tough job.

    Thank you.

    Tammy Lou

    positive attitude
    I can't keep track of who said what, there were so many posts! But I agree 50% with the person who said that it doesn't matter if you have a positive attitude or not: many people with a positive attitude died, and others with a 'negative' one lived. There is a lot that is out of our control: we control what we can by trusting medical science to help us and the rest is up to God. However, why I said I agree 50%: because attitude may have an impact in the sense that some people are more proactive than others, willing to take risks, and more aggressive in finding out new information about clinical trials, etc., whereas others are more passive. In other words, I do believe personality has some impact, not sure how much.

    These are just my two cents. Ohilly
  • TammyLouBob
    TammyLouBob Member Posts: 16
    #44
    The farmer
    A farmer is in Mississippi during a flood. The river is overflowing, with water surrounding the farmer's home up to his front porch. As he is standing there, a boat comes up, The man in the boat says "Jump in, I'll take you to safety."

    The farmer crosses his arms and says stubbornly, "Nope, I put my trust in God."

    The boat goes away. The water rises to the second floor. Another boat comes up, the man says to the farmer who is now in the second story window, "Jump in, I'll save you."

    The farmer again says, "Nope, I put my trust in God."

    The boat goes away. Now the water is up to the roof. As The farmer stands on the roof, a helicopter comes over, and drops a ladder. The pilot yells down to the farmer "I'll save you, climb the ladder."

    The farmer says "Nope, I put my trust in God."

    The helicopter goes away. The water comtinues to rise and sweeps the farmer off the roof. He drowns.

    The farmer goes to heaven. God sees him and says "What are you doing here?"

    The farmer says "I put my trust in you and you let me down."

    God says, "What do you mean, let you down? I sent you two boats and a helicopter!!!"
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    #45
    young_one said:

    Holy crap...
    I can't believe that of all the posts on this thread the one I chose to respond to was yours, Susan. What a coincidence. I had no idea that was you. I just gravitated to your post more naturally than any of the others. That speaks of something. And I am not talking about like-mindedness of this subject.

    I have been thinking about this thread for a few days. I think I need to clarify something. I can't tell you how many times I have heard how strong I am, how people can't believe what a good attitude I have, and that they could never be so positive. So, I too, am a very happy person. I am happier than most. I love living. I even love the worst parts of living. But I am still very saddened by my situation. Not even for me. I am not afraid of death (and that has nothing to do with having faith or not) but more of the impact that it will have on my loved ones. My biggest fear is NEVER death, it's the pain that will ensue for my husband and children following it. It breaks MY heart that I will break theirs if I die. All the platitudes in the world about how they would be OK does not make me feel any better. Call it a bad attitude if you like or even lack of faith but I have never heard anyone say, "My [loved one] died of a bad outlook on life and no faith in God. Oh, and he/she had cancer too but that didn't have anything to do with it." My husband and children will never utter those words. He sees me smile and laugh every day and knows that I am a very happy woman. But I still feel what I feel and there is no "off" switch to them. I don't think anyone has a feelings switch whether they have had cancer or not.

    And to respond about the post about not being able to ask because "they're not here"... I can't believe someone typed that. That was cruel. What if a former caregiver or child saw those words? Would anyone say, "Well, they just didn't have the right attitude. Let that be a lesson to you." I don't think so. There is nothing to gain by stating something like that even if the person that had passed was not what anyone would call "upbeat". Now, where's that damn feelings switch when I need it? After reading a post like that, I want to hit that lovely "off" button.

    Positive attitude/ religion?
    I was diagnosed 1 year ago, I have been through hell, as have all of you here. The thing that really Irked me was these God Squad people always ramming it down my throat that the same God who allowed me to suffer this would "Save Me". Sorry It just don't help.... And everyone banging on about a positive attitude, like.....hey it's in your hands. It was never in my hands. My mother in law (who was a saint) Went to church every day, was devout in her prayers AND her actions had the attitude that she would be "Saved"...Multiple Myeloma did her in within 4 months and the poor lady suffered horribly. So much for spending half your life on your knees to the Lord.
  • mmontero38
    mmontero38 Member Posts: 1,510
    #46
    young_one said:

    Holy crap...
    I can't believe that of all the posts on this thread the one I chose to respond to was yours, Susan. What a coincidence. I had no idea that was you. I just gravitated to your post more naturally than any of the others. That speaks of something. And I am not talking about like-mindedness of this subject.

    I have been thinking about this thread for a few days. I think I need to clarify something. I can't tell you how many times I have heard how strong I am, how people can't believe what a good attitude I have, and that they could never be so positive. So, I too, am a very happy person. I am happier than most. I love living. I even love the worst parts of living. But I am still very saddened by my situation. Not even for me. I am not afraid of death (and that has nothing to do with having faith or not) but more of the impact that it will have on my loved ones. My biggest fear is NEVER death, it's the pain that will ensue for my husband and children following it. It breaks MY heart that I will break theirs if I die. All the platitudes in the world about how they would be OK does not make me feel any better. Call it a bad attitude if you like or even lack of faith but I have never heard anyone say, "My [loved one] died of a bad outlook on life and no faith in God. Oh, and he/she had cancer too but that didn't have anything to do with it." My husband and children will never utter those words. He sees me smile and laugh every day and knows that I am a very happy woman. But I still feel what I feel and there is no "off" switch to them. I don't think anyone has a feelings switch whether they have had cancer or not.

    And to respond about the post about not being able to ask because "they're not here"... I can't believe someone typed that. That was cruel. What if a former caregiver or child saw those words? Would anyone say, "Well, they just didn't have the right attitude. Let that be a lesson to you." I don't think so. There is nothing to gain by stating something like that even if the person that had passed was not what anyone would call "upbeat". Now, where's that damn feelings switch when I need it? After reading a post like that, I want to hit that lovely "off" button.

    Young One
    OMG, you hit the nail on the head. I can't believe in reading your post that you were expressing exactly how I felt. Thanks for saying it so eloquently. Hugs, Lili

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