TRYING TO BE HELPFUL

SMILES1001
SMILES1001 Member Posts: 23
edited March 2014 in Ovarian Cancer #1
HELLO, LADIES AGAIN I WANTED TO THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR KINDNESS AND YOUR POST TO ALL MY QUESTONS. bUT TODAY I COME TO YOU GUYS JUST TO RELEASE SOME STEAM OFF MY MIND.

i VISITED SISTER YESTERDAY AND HELPED HER AROUND THE HOUSE WITH DAILY CHORES. ALL WAS WELL UNTIL I LEFT I GET A PHONE CALL AT 2:52AM AND ITS HER CRYING SAYING SHE KNOWS SHE GONNA DIE AND SHE WANTS TO JUST DIE NOW AND NOT WAIT! I CRAWL OUT OF MY BED AND RUN OVER TO HER HOUSE THINKING OH MY GOD IS SHE ON THE VERGE OF SUICIDE WELL I GET TO HER HOUSE TO FIND HER SLEEPING LIKE BABY IN BED. i WAKE HER UP AND SHE SAYS SHE JUST HAD A BAD DREAM BUT SHE IS OKAY!

i FEEL SO OVERWHELMED I FEEL LIKE A NERVOUS WRECK THINKING EVERYDAY WITH MY SISTER IS HER LAST. i READ SEVERAL POST AND I SEE ALOT 3C CANCER SURVIOURS BUT THAN I SEE PEOPLE WHO PAST ONLY MONTHS WITHIN BEING DIAGNOSED. IM SO NERVOUS ITS BEGINING TO EFFECT MY DAILY LIFE I WAKE UP IN THE MORNING WORRIED, I GO TO WORK AND WORRY I EVEN BE IN THE COMFORTS OF MY BOYFRIENDS ARMS AND I STILL WORRY.

YOU LADYS ARE SO STRONG I LOVE YOU GUYS AND I DONT EVEN KNOW YOU. HERE I AM HEALTHY AND I THINK ABOUT MY SISTERS LAST DAYS EVRYDAY AND HERE YOU GUYS R SICK AND ENJOYING LIFE..

JUST PASS SOME STRENGTH TO ME. i FEEL LIKE IM MY SISTER KEEPER SHE LOST THE WILL 2 LIVE!

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  • kris43
    kris43 Member Posts: 275
    #2
    HI
    Smiles - what is your name? You don't have to say - I just wonder every time I see you post. It would seem to me that your sister cannot possibly get past her shock & trauma of being diagnosed until she is able to admit she has cancer. SHE HAS CANCER. The statistics for ovarian cancer aren't great - but there are things to do, treatments to try, options to let you live. What won't work is doing nothing.

    I am not a twin - but I have a younger sister who has stood right by me through all of this - and it affects every one in your family. The diagnosis itself is life changing. If your sister will not get help for herself then I think that you could at least educate yourself about the disease, maybe seek out a support group for caretakers, get some anti-anxiety meds for yourself - at least talk to your family physician about your concern. You need to take care of yourself to be able to take care of her.

    I am a 14 month stage IIIC survivor and I have a hard time worrying about everything - and I've been done with treatment now for 8 months - but my anxiety remains high. If I never knew I had cancer how do I know that every ache, pain, whatever doesn't mean I am having a recurrence? This support site is so helpful and I've learned so much and the women are so amazing. Do you think your sister would at least look at some of the posts on here? There is hope - but you have to take action and get your treatment and let people assist you. You just do.

    I hope you continue to find comfort here and I look forward to hearing how things are going. You are close in my thoughts. Hang in there!! Kris
  • SMILES1001
    SMILES1001 Member Posts: 23
    #3
    kris43 said:

    HI
    Smiles - what is your name? You don't have to say - I just wonder every time I see you post. It would seem to me that your sister cannot possibly get past her shock & trauma of being diagnosed until she is able to admit she has cancer. SHE HAS CANCER. The statistics for ovarian cancer aren't great - but there are things to do, treatments to try, options to let you live. What won't work is doing nothing.

    I am not a twin - but I have a younger sister who has stood right by me through all of this - and it affects every one in your family. The diagnosis itself is life changing. If your sister will not get help for herself then I think that you could at least educate yourself about the disease, maybe seek out a support group for caretakers, get some anti-anxiety meds for yourself - at least talk to your family physician about your concern. You need to take care of yourself to be able to take care of her.

    I am a 14 month stage IIIC survivor and I have a hard time worrying about everything - and I've been done with treatment now for 8 months - but my anxiety remains high. If I never knew I had cancer how do I know that every ache, pain, whatever doesn't mean I am having a recurrence? This support site is so helpful and I've learned so much and the women are so amazing. Do you think your sister would at least look at some of the posts on here? There is hope - but you have to take action and get your treatment and let people assist you. You just do.

    I hope you continue to find comfort here and I look forward to hearing how things are going. You are close in my thoughts. Hang in there!! Kris

    °\(ッ)/° another good moment turned bad
    Hey, by the way our names is Raven and Robin I'm raven and sis is robin when we were younger they would call us batman Me(raven the bird) and her robin lol nice childhood memory thanks...

    But onto the daily today every other sat is beauty parlor day we go to salon and were getting our hair done sister runs out parlor crying now my hair is wet but I run after her and she says she won't have hair.. How sad was that this is breaking my heart but batman patched her and she got her hair done nice by the way she was prescribed zoloft but she's not taking it hell if she won't I will this is pretty depressing
  • Shelley Hawk
    Shelley Hawk Member Posts: 15
    #4
    Be sure you have support
    You need to have some support for yourself.
    I know you said your parents don't know but, could they help? Maybe help you and her?
    You may need to do an intervention of sorts. She sounds like she is still in shock.
    I know she is scared. For most of us, me included the thought of dying scares the hell out of us. And now it is knocking on our door! It's not her time yet unless she wants it to be or does nothing and lets it be. Unfortunately you cannot control her. So make sure that you take care of and have support for yourself.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you both...

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