Should I be offended?

StacyGleaso
StacyGleaso Member Posts: 1,233 Member
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Ok, so I'm not sure if I should be offended or not, but here's the story.....

I went for my usual 6 month check up (recap: stage 4 with liver mets, diagnosed Oct 2001, all clear since my surgery in Jan. 2002) with my oncologist. My original oncologist just retired, and this was my first appt with her replacement. She looked me square in the eye and asked me why I'm still coming to see them. Puzzled, I replied, "Uh, well, I figured that's just the plan and didn't know any different." She then said it won't be necessary to see her every 6 months, that we should decrease it to once a year. She was simply amazed at my progress and said my current status is achieved by 20% of people who were where I was in regards to the stage of cancer I had. (but we all know how I feel about statistics....They're for Vegas!)

What happened next REALLY floored me.....she called me the "C" word................................CURED! (tee hee) Now, honestly, I always felt "cured" but nobody ever said it out loud to me! Strangest feeling there is!

So the moral of the story: It's a good thing when some people don't want to see you that often!

Happy Friday,

Stacy
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  • KFalvey
    KFalvey Member Posts: 118 Member
    Hi Stacy,

    Offended-No, Elated-Yes!!! Boy, to be so Lucky!! I love your interpretation of the "C" word and can only hope to someday experience it. Your response to Ron was wonderful and from reading your post regularly, I'm not surprised since you always are so quick to respond to others problems on this board. Your CURE couldn't have happened to someone more deserving. Happy Friday to you too!!!.
    Kandy
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    I had this happen to me, too. And, when it recently happened to a patient partner, I attempted to explain:

    We 'long-term survivors' are looked at differently. As time passes, we really DO go back to being 'just another face'. And this is a VERY, VERY good thing!!! The medical community knows that we will be our own best advocate, if something changes, we will be on the phone.

    I think the other thing is a bit more important. Remember back when you were first diagnosed. How grateful and relieved you were to be 'taken in' right away...and the intense attention you were paid. Can you imagine being told "We're sorry, but we are booked for 3 months" (?!?!?!). In truth, an oncologist only has so many hours in their day. So, I feel, that unless there IS something to talk about, my appointments, when they happen, are short and sweet. I now, once again, start with my G.P. when I have questions. He knows about my cancers...heck, he FOUND them!!!! So, he is quite up to speed with me. That 'first touch' SHOULD be with a G.P....for me, with an HMO, it has to be...lol!

    So, yes, you should be very, very pleased!!! With each day, you are becoming more and more 'normal'!!!!

    Hugs, Kathi
  • Kanort
    Kanort Member Posts: 1,272 Member
    Hi Stacy,

    Your new oncologist just validated what you already knew.....CURED! Congratulations! Your story and support inspires other!

    Hugs,

    Kay
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  • katienavs
    katienavs Member Posts: 88 Member
    wow, what an amazing thing to hear. i love it! have a great weekend stacy!
    katie
  • nudgie
    nudgie Member Posts: 1,478 Member
    CURE is one four-letter word worth yelling and screaming about and even dancing about.
  • Monicaemilia
    Monicaemilia Member Posts: 455 Member
    This is absolutely wonderful news. And it could not happen to a more deserving person. You have been an inspiration to me since the beginning of my battle. Monica
  • SheilaU
    SheilaU Member Posts: 2
    Congratulations!!
    A stage 4 survivor.
    I am looking for cancer stories if you are interested in sharing let me know
    sheila@sheilaulrich.com
  • claud1951
    claud1951 Member Posts: 424 Member
    How great to hear!
    Claudia
  • pamness
    pamness Member Posts: 524 Member
    What a great way to start the day - wow, I hope I hear those words some day. Horray for you!!!!

    Pam
  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
    ((((((((Stacy,stacie)))))))) Dying is easy , living is hard. love Ron.
  • TY2HC
    TY2HC Member Posts: 46
    Congratulations on that great news!!

    Chris
  • HowardJ
    HowardJ Member Posts: 474
    Stacy,

    Great news--thanks for sharing. You are an inspiration!

    Howard
  • chynabear
    chynabear Member Posts: 481 Member
    I'm kind of in the same boat...

    Just moved to the Houston area... figured MD Anderson would be an awesome place to follow-up. Even got a name from my follow-up oncologist.

    Finally contacted them in June... as my CT and blood should have been done in may... (yeah, I know, busy living)... told, "we only treat those with, "active cancer". I was floored. And then, I realized, I'm lucky that I don't have, "active cancer". Now, I need to find another doc to follow up with.
  • Moesimo
    Moesimo Member Posts: 1,072 Member
    Stacy,

    Congrats!!! what a great word to hear,

    Maureen
  • dn220
    dn220 Member Posts: 79 Member
    FANTASTIC. I am so happy for you. If I felt better I would do a happy dance for you but instead I'll just pretend to do it. That is so great. U have got to celebrate.
    Deb
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
    Wow,wow, wow! What great news!

    Love,
    Gail
  • jenalynet
    jenalynet Member Posts: 361 Member
    This is fantastic..I loved reading your post. Hugs to you, Audrey.
  • impactzone
    impactzone Member Posts: 555 Member

    This is absolutely wonderful news. And it could not happen to a more deserving person. You have been an inspiration to me since the beginning of my battle. Monica

    Just wonderful news! Don't go away from here! We need you
    Impactzone
  • spongebob
    spongebob Member Posts: 2,565 Member
    I'm not sure about "CURED", but I do know I've seen you "PICKLED" once or twice!

    How far we've come since the Sharon Osborne show!

    Maybe we'll see you in Frisco?

    - Bob