Sis hits bump in the road...sigh
This caregiver stuff is HARD!!! Even on the limited basis of just phone conversations...some of my experiences that I had 'silver boxed' are coming back to me...this is so wierd!
I'm looking forward to my escape to Holland on Thursday...although, it seems like every time lately that we go, something terrible happens and I get the news over the phone. My daughter. My mom's diagnosis. I'm trying to keep perspective, but sometimes, especially at 2am, it's hard...
Thanks for letting me vent....
Hugs, Kathi
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I think being a caregiver is harder than having ca. As the patient you are doing something to fight all the time even if it is just trying to eat right. As a caregiver you often have to helplessly stand by and watch your loved one struggle through the battle. I know you want your sister's battle to be easy and smooth but that seldom happens. You have been in the battle so long that it is hard not to be able to "do something" for your sister. Just remember from your own fight how much having that support helped.
I think it normal that you are second guessing her drs. Especially since you are not there to talk to them and get all your questions answered.
Go to Holland and enjoy yourself. Worrying about things won't change them. It just robs you of your enjoyment of life. Most of the stuff we worry about never happens and the stuff that does happen we can't change by worrying about it. If something is going to happen it will happen whether you are at home or in Holland. Go to Holland, enjoy yourself and get recharged.0 -
Right on David!davidsonxx said:I think being a caregiver is harder than having ca. As the patient you are doing something to fight all the time even if it is just trying to eat right. As a caregiver you often have to helplessly stand by and watch your loved one struggle through the battle. I know you want your sister's battle to be easy and smooth but that seldom happens. You have been in the battle so long that it is hard not to be able to "do something" for your sister. Just remember from your own fight how much having that support helped.
I think it normal that you are second guessing her drs. Especially since you are not there to talk to them and get all your questions answered.
Go to Holland and enjoy yourself. Worrying about things won't change them. It just robs you of your enjoyment of life. Most of the stuff we worry about never happens and the stuff that does happen we can't change by worrying about it. If something is going to happen it will happen whether you are at home or in Holland. Go to Holland, enjoy yourself and get recharged.
We have to struggle to live in the "present". Remember that the past is gone, we can only do so much about the future and the present is .. a gift. Enjoy your trip to Holland and if your sister calls then you can deal with it in the present when it happens, not if.0 -
Kathi, Boy can I relate to the "caregiver" worries. Prayers for your sis to get over this hurdle and try to enjoy your trip. God Bless
Hugs, Diane0 -
I'm taking care of my sister and looking for someone to "talk" to. I know your message is old, but I'm hoping for the best for you and her.hopefulone said:Kathi, Boy can I relate to the "caregiver" worries. Prayers for your sis to get over this hurdle and try to enjoy your trip. God Bless
Hugs, Diane0
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