Dealt another setback

billswife
billswife Member Posts: 33
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
While I am doing fine ( just one chemo treatment to go) we found out yesterday that my husband's cancer has gone to his brain. He was constantly tired and had no appitite but we all thought it was from the chemo he was getting for the lung tumor. Now , within the last month he's just crashed. A transfusion and some PT helped greatly for 24 hours and then we we back to square 1. We meet with the radiologist on Tuesday. Our oncologist says it can't be cured but can be treated. I just don't know how much more I can take, especially after we just moved away from our family only 4 months ago.
While my husband is very happy in our new home and I have to admit getting treatment here is must less stressfull that up north I just feel like I've had my whole life pull out from under me.
Please sombody just tell me I'm going to make it
Kathy

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  • LesleyH
    LesleyH Member Posts: 370
    #2
    Dear Kathy,

    This is so very difficult for you. And your poor dear husband. I do hope you are both seeing a counselor to help you work through this incredibly difficult time. I know it sounds so cliche, but it is really a matter of one day at a time. Of finding the joy in the moments you have left. Make memories to hold onto after he has gone. Do something for him to reassure him that he will remain in your heart and your life and the life of others. It's a very sad time. My heart goes out to you.

    Hugs.

    Lesley
  • OregonSeaStar
    OregonSeaStar Member Posts: 41
    #3
    Oh Kathy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. This is such a tough time for you both. Try not to look into the future as it can become overwhelming, but instead, take each moment as it comes. You and your husband will be in my thoughts and prayers.
    -shelley
  • babs49242
    babs49242 Member Posts: 193
    #4
    Dearest Kathy,
    You will do fine. You are a fighter! Cherish each day as it comes. As it is said.If God brought it to you HE will bring you thru it. I know sometimes it is hard.... prayers and thoughts go to you both.
    bunches of hugs
    Cindie
  • Susan956
    Susan956 Member Posts: 510
    #5
    Kathy,

    You will make it through this.... You are a strong woman.... I was close to where you live today. I had gone to Columbiana Mall and went shopping with my Mom and Dad and had dinner in near the Mall before I left and just got back home.... and read your post.... Sometimes it seems like life just keeps handing us challenges... and all I know is to keep facing them with courage... and humor when possible. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and Bill.

    Take Care... God Bless...

    Susan
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    #6
    Oh, Kathy.....
    I actually now joke that I feel like a female Job with all that has happened in my life. Hey, if I can make it (I am SUCH a baby), you can, too!

    My credo:

    Everyone in life has a list of tasks. None of us know what is on our lists, where we are on the list, or when our list is finished. It is not for us to know. Things on our list may be directly involved with another, or, just being there as an example to others.
    Your hubby being happy in your new home is BIG points in his willingness to fight again. Realize that every day with him is another day won. Cherish the time you two have....obviously, you are a great example to him..."doing fine" during chemo...heavens, I was a MESS!!!!

    Yes, you will make it...if you set your mind to it!

    Know that we all are sending big support vibes and hugs to you!

    Hugs, Kathi
  • RNHF1986
    RNHF1986 Member Posts: 26
    #7
    Dear Kathy,

    I too, know firsthand how life is a struggle when you're away from family. I'm so sorry you and your husband are in turmoil. Spend the moments and days how you truly need to--whatever that may be. Your concern for your husband is affirming and loving at this difficult time for you, too.

    Know you are both in my thoughts.

    You can do it.

    Becky

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