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You should talk to his doctor (primary care AND oncologist) about the panic attacks. He can be treated for that with anti-depressants/anti-anxiety meds.

If it helps you at all, my Mom was diagnosed with Stage 3B non-small cell lung cancer last 12/7/05, and she's still here fighting 13 months later.

No tumor growth is a good thing-- it means that chemo is keeping him stable. Chemo has not put my Mom into remission, but it has kept her stable for over a year. You learn to be very happy/grateful for stuff like this!

I know what a scary time you're having right now. I was there last year. Does your Dad have access to a computer, and can he come and post on this board?

My best to you.

http://www.blochcancer.org/
They have a cancer support line.

Hi, I, too, am another non small cell survivor. Stage 3-4. Had lobectomy, chemo, radiation. All my scans have been clean. It is now 8 yrs and I am fine. If your dad doesn't have the patience to read now, you can read him the e-mails right here from survivors. It will help him develop a positive attitude, which is very important! Good luck to him and your family. Karen

pahahn said:

thanks for you ideas and encouragement - I wish my dad could get on this website - but he's not computer savy.
he has a cold now - does that mean he'll have to skip this chemo?
he has a supply of Xanax - but I'd rather have him learn to calm himself down then the depend on a med.
how do I go about getting survival stories for people with the same stage as my dad's?

Hi pahahn,

These are scary times indeed. The best medicine for that is to reach out to survivors and current patients battling cancer. For me, just reading the testimonies of survival, particularly that from enrol, plymouthean and most of all, karenlee3sons, provide that spark of hope to fuel that optimism.

Be patient and don't expect any overnight cure. Take each day as it comes and note the little improvements - whether it be his appetite or energy. Those can be boosters to the morale.

Chatting on this site is a good suggestion. Even if your dad isn't computer savvy, can't someone help him? Spend some time to navigate the site and type his messages? Those are the "little" things his loved ones can do to be supportive and active in his road to recovery - mentally and physically.

Undergoing chemo compromises the immune system greatly. It may not bear out with a few sessions, but believe me, after 15 sessions, the blood count will be affected. You just have to be very careful and aware of hygiene. Limit the exposure your dad has with the public or even in the home. Anybody has the potential to carry germs that could make him sick. Measures he and your mother can do is to make sure the hands are always washed, as for anyone who visits. Disinfect surfaces that are touched and handled, such as doorknobs, counters, light switches, remote controls, etc. I wipe down kitchen surfaces with a diluted bleach solution at least every day. And a little less frequently with bathroom surfaces.

To calm him down, I think a good option is to keep his mind occupied with other distractions than focusing on his condition. Have friends and family call him, but keep the conversations to topics of what they would talk about before cancer. I don't believe in avoiding talking about cancer, but I don't think it's always good to restrict discussions about cancer with patients. They need diversions and escapism, too.

Other diversions? DVDs, music CDs, playing cards, board games, whatever he liked to do before cancer, up the ante.

To treat your dad's cold, make home-made chicken soup with lots of onions and garlic. Those two ingredients have lots of anti-viral properties. Plus, the soup will help with any congestion.

Don't bother with the over-the-counter remedy. They mask the symptoms more than anything else.

Good luck to your dad and your family.