We have lost Duey's mom

does time really heal
I have just been reading Pepperdogs post. It is heartwrenching. I have survived cancer for nearly nine years now. During that time I have had several medical problems all believed to be as a result of chemo. I've tried to deal with them as they arose and to the best of my ability maitain a normal lifestyle and keep on paying the bills. It is impossible to tell how your loved ones are really dealing with all of this crap and I guess that some are like my wife. I had to promise her that I would survive. As to how I did it ,she didn't want to know. She could not stand to go to chemo with me as it just freaked her out ,as did the scans and waiting for results. It has not gotten any easier for her with time and when I look at l/t survivors that were on the same regime as me ,one has had a liver transplant,one at age 45 has to have a double hip replacement,Foxy over in New Zealand has had run of poor health all suspected to be chem related. I guess I should not be surprised that my wife told me last weekend that she is leaving me. There is no fun left in our life or our marriage is how she put it even though she thinks of me as her best friend. I don't know what more cancer can do to me or take from me. It has taken ten years of my life, more than a few of my good friends and now my wife.I find it hard to even imagine happiness anymore.
Ron.

I am so sorry to hear about Duey's mom. I hope Duey can channel his energy into maintaining his own health, and taking each precious day as it comes. Time will ease the pain, I promise.

Take care of yourself too....the survivor is only as good as his/her support group!

Stacy

Hi,

I'm so sorry to see this post. Know that you, Duey and his mom have been in my thoughts. Tell Duey that I understand his pain. My dad went very quickly too. I'm still in shock. I try to think of him still watching over me and everyone here. Mentally I know he (and Duey's mom) are in a better place but it is hard for those left behind to emotionally take loosing a parent. HUGS to you and Duey and family.

Lisa F.

Duey my thoughts are with you.

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.

Blessings to you,
Jean