need some venting and support

billswife
billswife Member Posts: 33
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
For the past 3 years we've been fight the good fight with my husband's cancers ( sinus & 2 bouts of lung)Thank the good Lord for him it had gone well; so well in fact that with a "why not"from his team we sold our house and are planning on making our dream move to South Carolina in 6 weeks. This week we found out it looks like it may be "my turn" After an MRI, I'm being sent for a surgery consult and most likely biopsy in 2 weeks-- there is definately something there that will have to come out,and the results of the MRI said " Highly suggestive of magligancy"
I can handle the diagnosis and the treatments, it's the time frame that has me at wits end.
(we've got to get out of this house Sept 29!)
Maybe I'm putting the cart before the horse but I'm really scared.
Thanks for listening

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  • Susan956
    Susan956 Member Posts: 510
    #2
    Sorry you are having to face this at a time when you should be celebrating the ability to move to S.C. By the way I live in S.C. and I too consider it a great place to live. I found that the time prior to getting the final diagnois, I got more things done than normal. I just could not sit still, So you may start trying to pack up some of the things that you won't need everyday. Have you bought your new house? Do you have the ability to move a little earlier. Typically the Biopsy takes a couple of weeks and if you have to do surgery it takes about a month before you have to do Chemo. And if your lucky you may not need it. I found the surgery part to be pretty easy. But Chemo as I am sure you know is tough, having watched your husband go through it.

    Well, obviously can't give you really good advice. But I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Let's hope it turns out not to be cancer at all.. but if it is... you will find the strenght to deal with it.

    God Bless...

    Susan
  • LesleyH
    LesleyH Member Posts: 370
    #3
    I'm so sorry that you are so anxious. But one thing at a time. MRIs have a high false postive rate. Even if it is malignant, chemo does not automatically follow. Try and maintain your normal life as much as possible. Keep doing what you would do. I really think it's pointless to change your plans because of what might be.

    Hugs.

    Lesley
  • prayerangel
    prayerangel Member Posts: 147
    #4
    Try not to worry about something that isn't "black and white" yet. It could be nothing. I have seen it many times before with friends and family. You could spend so much time worrying and in stress.
    I will add you and your husband to my 2 prayer group's lists.
    God bless.
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    #5
    A couple of things....
    1) My breast cancer was found in an 11-year-old lump that had been mammo'd every year "no evidence of cancer"...
    2. 97% of all breast lumps are benign
    3. Breast cancer has an overall survival rate of 95% with treatment
    4. 80% of all the things we worry about never happen, and the 20% that does, we have no control over....
    5. Worrying isn't going to change anything, except maybe ruin your appetite
    6. My treatments couldn't start until 2 months after they 'normally' do....I was hospitalized and had ANOTHER surgery for a small bowel obstruction that wouldn't fix itself....

    The moral of this story? GO, Move, Enjoy....make sure to take ALL records with you....ask for ALL of them BEFORE you leave....keep them close, ask for a referral to another doctor in SC....

    Hugs, Kathi
  • 24242
    24242 Member Posts: 1,398 Member
    #6
    I too am sorry you have to go through and face so much when things seemed to be going the other way and up for a change. Survival is on going and I tell people surviving the the wait of tests and biopsies the worst.
    One can drive themselve's crazy with the what ifs. AFTER my treatments for my stage 3 cancer was when life seemed to get harder to face. Bad things do not stop happening to those of us who have survived some amazing things. Life still goes on and the train of life rolls on with or without us.
    Survival I am beginning to think is a conscious choice we make and to just face whatever it is that we must. Endurance is huge...
    You have gone through so much that nothing can stop you now...
    Be good to yourselves always,
    Tara
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    #7
    24242 said:

    I too am sorry you have to go through and face so much when things seemed to be going the other way and up for a change. Survival is on going and I tell people surviving the the wait of tests and biopsies the worst.
    One can drive themselve's crazy with the what ifs. AFTER my treatments for my stage 3 cancer was when life seemed to get harder to face. Bad things do not stop happening to those of us who have survived some amazing things. Life still goes on and the train of life rolls on with or without us.
    Survival I am beginning to think is a conscious choice we make and to just face whatever it is that we must. Endurance is huge...
    You have gone through so much that nothing can stop you now...
    Be good to yourselves always,
    Tara

    Tara!
    So happy to see you again!
    You were on chat during my first time....took me in PC and explained about 'false' chatters, one of which was online...I had held you in a special place in my heart...

    Hugs, Kathi
  • ireneingeorgia
    ireneingeorgia Member Posts: 73
    #8
    Wherever you are, wherever you'll be living, God will watch out for you. You go ahead with your plans and you'll do fine. Don't be scared, he's always there as are our positive vibes and ((((HUGS)))). Be well, I hope you enjoy your move.
    ireneincordova
  • MaryGail
    MaryGail Member Posts: 10
    #9
    ireneingeorgia said:

    Wherever you are, wherever you'll be living, God will watch out for you. You go ahead with your plans and you'll do fine. Don't be scared, he's always there as are our positive vibes and ((((HUGS)))). Be well, I hope you enjoy your move.
    ireneincordova

    Amen to what the others have written! I'll just add that I had two mastectomies, a year apart. The first was for a malignancy and the second turned out (much to all of our surprise!) to be three benign spots. Anyway, I felt really weak and took a while to recover after the first surgery, but after the second went ahead and left after 2 weeks on a 1500 mile driving trip. Not the smartest thing I ever did, but I was surprised to find that I was not nearly as tired or sore after the second surgery, as compared to the first. I attribute much of that to my head. Knowing I didn't have to do chemo and radiation again enabled me to move on faster I think. My point is that much of how you feel comes from your brain rather than the body part that is affected. So think positive and pray. GEt your doctor to work with you, and if the doctor seems unwilling to do so, find another doctor. While it's important to get it done ASAP, there are options as to whether to have surgery first or chemo first, how long to wait between the two if you need chemo, etc. The waiting to find out is absolutely the hardest part for me. (I'm waiting now to see a cardiologist for possible heart problems caused by the chemo 7 years ago, and it's really driving me to distraction!)

    So, use the anxiety you are feeling to fuel action, and start getting ready for that move. There are good doctors in your new area and you can get treated there just as well.

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