dont kno how to help him...

hi. im new to this site but ive been lookin for someone to help me. im 19 and my boyfriend(who's 22) was diagnosed with lung cancer back in february. hes been goin thru chemo and radiation since feb 28. well, not chemo the last few weeks because the doc wont give it to him unless he gets back over 120 lbs. i dont kno how to help him. i try to b optimistic and tell him it will all work itself out but he usually snaps at me and says im ignoring how bad it is.

its gettin so hard. he told me today that there are signs the cancer is spreading to his other lung and the doc isnt optimistic about it not speadin to other organs and into his bones, especially his back. i dont kno wat to do. to make things even more complicated its a long distance relationship...im in ND and he lives in NYC. i havnt had to deal with anything like this before in my family.

My boyfried has been living, and continues to, with his gandfather and takin care of him for the last 3 years, ever since his parents moved to florida. so he doesnt hav much support, if any, especially since his grandfather's health has been declining recently. my boy friend has always been an independant person and had planned on startin law school this fall. now he cant even work because of the pain and fatigue.

if someone could give me ideas i would greatly appreciate it. thanks