Thank You

Btrcup
Btrcup Member Posts: 286
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
Hi all my ACS friends. Thank you for all your kind words. It has been a hell of a week. We had a viewing for Scott here in MD on Tuesday and in NJ on Wed. He had so many friends! People came that we haven't seen in years. Since Scott was a drummer, many of his friends brought drum sticks to put in his casket. He was loved by so many.

I have to wonder, though, what I did wrong. When Scott and I started dating, we worked in a local tavern in NJ, me as a bartender and Scott managed it. The tavern is right down the street from the funeral home. Some of our friends went there to have a drink and asked me to join them. I arrived there at 10pm, had a drink and left at 10:30. When I went outside, my jeep was gone! Someone stole my Jeep!! Can you believe it!! So Thurs. I rode to Hershey, PA with my inlaws (Scott is buried there). My parents came to PA, and then back to MD with me. The police called my Sat. morning and said they found the jeep. I had to drive back with them to NJ and claim it. The damage was minimal, just the door lock and steering column was busted up. Anyway, I had it towed to a body shop where my dad lives. They told me it will take 4 days to a week for the insurance adjusted to come look at it. So I rented a car and drove back to MD. On Wed, I figured I would use Scott's pick up to get the kids to school and me to work. While I was driving to work, the transmission went on the pick up. I'm wondering what I did wrong to make all these bad things happen to me. The only car left is the Miata and it's a 2 seater and a stick. I can't drive a stick and I have nowhere to put the kids even if I could drive it. Since I was planning to sell the pickup, I'm not putting $2,000 into it to fix the transmission. I have to rent a car until my Jeep is done, then drive back up to NJ to get it.

I will be playing the lottery all week long. I figure something good has to happen to me!! Anyway, I needed to vent...again. Thank you all for your support. I wish I can see you all in Vegas. Have a great time.

Linda

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  • tkd3g
    tkd3g Member Posts: 767
    #2
    Hi Linda,

    First, let me offer my condolences again.

    I am sorry sorry for all you are going through. It is hard enough to battle cancer and the loss of your husband. Then, to have all this crap happen to you...

    No one really knows why things happen. Right now things are crappy, but it will get better. Maybe these things with the cars happened for a reason. Maybe it's Scott's way of protecting you from something. We may never know.

    Not much I can offer you. Try to get through these days. When things quite down, you can reflect, think of Scott and be with the children.

    My heart goes out to you, Linda.

    You are a very strong woman. You'll get through this.

    All my love to you,

    Barb
  • tkd3g
    tkd3g Member Posts: 767
    #3
    Hi again, Linda,

    I just ran across this and thought of you. Did I run across it by chance?

    Serenity isn't freedom from the storm, but peace within the storm.

    Barb
  • rthornton
    rthornton Member Posts: 346 Member
    #4
    Linda, I don't think you have done anything wrong, but man, what a run of bad luck. And after all that has already happened ... you must be a very resilient person.

    Huge condolences on all that you have been through. I think Scott was very fortunate to have you around. Now you and he can both rest.

    That's nice that he had so many friends.

    Best wishes for you and the children.

    Rodney
  • Kanort
    Kanort Member Posts: 1,272 Member
    #5
    Hi Linda,

    I have been thinking of you. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope seeing old friends and knowing how much Scott was loved gave you some comfort.

    I can't imagine having to deal with all of these extra stressors during this difficult time. You continue to be in my heart and in my prayers.

    Kay
  • goldfinch
    goldfinch Member Posts: 735
    #6
    Wow! What a little (i guess i would call it big) black cloud you have hanging over you. However, black clouds always give way, eventually. Hoping all these annoying car issues clear up soon for you.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you during this trying time.

    Mary

    P.S. Barb, I love that quote. i may make that my mantra.
  • kangatoo
    kangatoo Member Posts: 2,105 Member
    #7
    goldfinch said:

    Wow! What a little (i guess i would call it big) black cloud you have hanging over you. However, black clouds always give way, eventually. Hoping all these annoying car issues clear up soon for you.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you during this trying time.

    Mary

    P.S. Barb, I love that quote. i may make that my mantra.

    Hi Linda. As I think you know, I often phone others here on CSN and I know that you and Scott come up in conversation often. We are all so sad for you but know that our thoughts are always with you.
    I don't believe in coincidence Linda. I think that our destiny is already written for us and I agree with Barb.However unfortunate things have been for you there is a reason for it. Maybe you will never know that reason.Hopefully your bad luck has passed now.
    All our love and huggs gal, Ross and Jen
  • jana11
    jana11 Member Posts: 705
    #8
    Linda, my goodness. I am so sorry, a million times over. What an awful week. Hang in there. I agree with the lottery idea.

    You and your entire family remain in my thoughts and prayers. I wish I blink my eyes and make it all better.

    Maybe you should learn to drive a stick and take the miata for a long therapeutic drive. hmmm.

    Hope the jeep comes back better than ever.

    Be well. jana
  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
    #9
    Hi Linda,
    (((((((((mate))))))))) When I go thru my bad luck phases ,usually six weeks out of seven, I try to look for some positives , and I don't mean by thinking how bad the guy down the road has it. For you and your family YOU are the positive ,despite everyting that has happened you are going to see your kids thru it , they couldn't have a better ,stronger mum. You are in a time warp now and it will be a while before the future breaks thru ,but it will,till then you can borrow my philosophy " A good day is when nothing really bad goes wrong". My thoughts are with you ,and my wishes for a happier future , Ron.
  • 2bhealed
    2bhealed Member Posts: 2,064 Member
    #10
    ((((((((LINDA))))))))))

    oh man. What a week. How did you not just plop down in the parking lot and boohoo your eyes out?!

    I am so very sorry about all that you are going through. Unbelieveable. But it surely does not reflect ON you!! I often wonder why when it rains it pours.... as you are experiencing. The best I come up with.....$#!T happens.

    But when you come out of this, I hope you will garner some sort of satisfaction that YOU ARE A SURVIVOR who has immeasureable strength. We have all witnessed it in you. You have inspired many of us on these boards; and I hope, selfishly, that you will continue to join us and update us as your life goes on.

    May you find peace in the days that come while you and your family adjusts to life without Scott's earthly presence.

    peace, emily who will be hugging her hubby a little harder tonight.
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  • neeliec
    neeliec Member Posts: 106
    #12
    Dear Linda,
    Soooo very sorry for everything that you are going through. I wish I knew you personally-- Despite all, you do sound incredibly strong and positive!!! Truly inspirational-- yes, you are going through a horrible time, but I too suspect from your letter, that you are not beaten down. You are getting stronger and will completely heal with time. Like Ron said, you must be in a time warp right now- but the fog will lift up some day and you will be just fine. Keep us posted. We are praying for you and the kids. Many, many blessings--- even if they are "in disguise", neelieC

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