See life in a new Light

For me I am a lot less forgiving of BS. I know that sounds just awful! But if someone who has given me a hard time in the past thinks he/she can still do it NOW I just walk away from them and delete them slowly from my life.
It is harsh I know! But one thing this diagnosis taught me is you learn who your REAL friends are real quick! How many of us heard "if there is anything I can do?" and never saw that person again? And yet were surprised when someone we barely knew stepped up to the plate for us and showed us true support?
I suppose since I have no family in the state and had to do everything on my own I got a little hardened- but it was a GOOD thing. I know now that I can do just about anything AND live through it!
Love,
Angela

Hoping that the fact that your husband doesn't understand the "new" you is not a big problem. Sometimes it takes some time for those who love us deeply to accept some of what the "new" us is about.

I think most of us begin to see things in a clearer way following our bc experiences. Our priorities may shift and change while our everyday living becomes more rewarding and fulfilling. I'm happy that you've grown and feel good about yourself.

Most of us find that we have more to give to other's and in different ways than perhaps we were able to before. We come to understand the hazards of poorly managed stress and unhappiness in our lives and take positive actions to limit/correct both. All good for us!!!

Mostly, I think we begin to appreciate life more and that naturally sets all the other "good for us" things in motion, such as improved diets and lifestyles, learning good stress busting methods, becoming more comfortable in speaking up for ourselves and speaking out when we feel compelled. We become more confident in our right to choose who we will and will not share our lives with. We may cultivate our future, post bc friendships/relationships, using a different criteria than before, while valuing even more preciously our old relationships. We find ourselves, as women, and find expression for our inner voices and realize that we have the absolute right to assert ourselves. ALL THAT IS WONDERFULLY EMPOWERING in helping us to recover from our emotional wounds, fears and roadblocks as we continue to grow.

Still other's tend to "get religion" following very painful losses in their lives or following very traumatic, deeply emotional challenges and to those for whom it is effective, I say good. Becoming traditionally religious is also often a lifeline for convicted prisoners, errant husbands and wives who may have fidelity challenges/problems, former drug addicts, alcoholics, etc.. Whatever works, I say is always a good thing, and each of us must find our own paths to our greatest sources of strength. Every stone we turn over on our path toward growth, healing and perspective is an important one.

I, too, continue to grow and learn and sometimes I think just the learning is a rewarding thing, all by itself. If nothing else, we learn what doesn't work for us. The more we value and respect ourselves, the more we naturally value and respect others and in my opinion, the world is never going to have too much of that! LOL

Continued good health and happiness!

Love, light and laughter,
Ink