Question for you...

mc2001
mc2001 Member Posts: 343
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Hi Ladies and Gents...
Ok, here is my concern: I know a person that is running in the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society, Team in Training marathon to raise money for research and development for new leukemia therapies, in memory of her father. As many of you know, I am a leukemia survivor and suffered (along with SO MANY others here at this wonderful website) through treatment and hope that there will be new and improved leukemia therapies very soon! However... I believe the ethical decision for me to make, is to NOT invite my friend to this site because, while I feel you all have generous hearts and would love to help anyone in any way you can, this is not the venue for fund raising. I believe this is a support group for us to find support, friendship, peer guidance, etc, and not a place to provide solicited financial resources. My question to you is... Did I make the right decision?
Thanks a bunch! By the way.. I know this is the breast section and not the leukemia section. However, this section recieves more visits than any other section.

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  • sassysally
    sassysally Member Posts: 150
    #2
    Hey MC .... I believe it is up to the individual. All of these dieases need help there is no doubt about it. I am going to be trying to raise funds soon for my son to get an assistance dog, and who ask, but my friends. Granted I am a breast cancer survivor three times over and who ask, but all of the friends that I have made here, you included. Your friend can ask, it is up to the individual to donate or support his or my cause. Your decision is your own personal one. And I respect that. I can sympathize with your friend tho. I want this assistance dog for my son , and will do all that is necessary and ask who ever to help me. I love you MC you know that.....We all need help, financial or otherwise. The worst people can say when you ask is no, but you dont know that till you ask. Support your friend in any venue that they need to ease their grief and the path that they are on. Love ya..

    Sassy
  • epgnyc
    epgnyc Member Posts: 137
    #3
    I happen to agree with you. This is an incredibly wonderful site and it's purpose, while multi-faceted, is basically for support and sharing of information - not for fund-raising. I give generously to many worthy causes and research efforts and also do fund-raising for breast cancer. But not here. Just my opinion!
  • seeknpeace
    seeknpeace Member Posts: 259
    #4
    epgnyc said:

    I happen to agree with you. This is an incredibly wonderful site and it's purpose, while multi-faceted, is basically for support and sharing of information - not for fund-raising. I give generously to many worthy causes and research efforts and also do fund-raising for breast cancer. But not here. Just my opinion!

    I think that you made the right decision. We are here to find out if what we are experiencing is ok, what we may experience, to gather strength from one another in the process. When ppl come to this board and solicit for a cancer cause, it is difficult because ppl here are suffering physically and financially. JMO.
  • roxanne53
    roxanne53 Member Posts: 154
    #5
    seeknpeace said:

    I think that you made the right decision. We are here to find out if what we are experiencing is ok, what we may experience, to gather strength from one another in the process. When ppl come to this board and solicit for a cancer cause, it is difficult because ppl here are suffering physically and financially. JMO.

    I agree
    Roxanne
  • inkblot
    inkblot Member Posts: 698 Member
    #6
    Hi mc:

    Yes, you made the right decision. I also think you probably answered your own question.
    In all honesty, your friend doesn't need your permission or objection to come to this site on a financial solicitation mission.

    If you're feeling us out in order to advise her, that's kind of you as her friend, but you can see from the replies that the majority of us (thus far anyway) would prefer not to see ANY solicitations in our community here.

    It just isn't the appropriate place. Such things are presumptive, intrusive and not welcomed. I agree with seeknpeace, epygnc and roxanne53.

    Wishing you good health and
    Love, light and laughter,
    Ink
  • KarenKL
    KarenKL Member Posts: 42
    #7
    I remember the outcome you got the last time you mentioned financial help on this website. You should have known better than to ask that again. I am fairly new here, but I have recieved alot of support here and I tell everyone I know who says you need to talk to someone that I do. If your friends needs support tell her, but to solicit funds then no. I agree with the others and am very thankful for them all. You should look for help at a nearby United Way, Salvation Army or a Church. Good Luck to you and your friend.

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