Update on Hubby

alihamilton said:

Hi Linda.

I can imagine what you are going through and the frustration. You are right of course that drinking is not going to help your husband but I can see it from his stand point....being one of the guys makes him feel normal and helps him to forget his illness. Not sensible of course but how many people react to life threatening illness. You must look after your self too. Try to get some rest and then try reasoning with him again....I am sure you let him know how it makes you so anxious to see him doing stuff that may impair his treatment. Good luck!

Hiya Linda---mere male speaking here gal-- the thought of mixing alcohol and meds. sends shivers up me! I agree with Ali, it is not the most sensible thing to do and lets hope the "hangover" from the session with the boys is his last. The problem with us males is we tend to want to retain that "macho, I can take it image!" The boys night out is probably Scott's way of dealing with --why me?
There are lots of things I did to forget--for a while anyway--my illness and Jen coulda beat the hell outa me. I really pissed her off sometimes and that was pretty selfish Don't be too hard on him Lisa---I am hoping, as you are, that this episode will be a one off event. Probably the worst thing could do is nag him about it. I would suggest that you could have a quiet talk with one of his close mates--someone you trust about looking out for him. Guys are funny creatures maybe they need to be better informed about Scott's illness and that Scott needs his mates for support but also to keep him being sensible about about drinking. Maybe they are unaware of the seriousness of his illness? I am sure they would look out for him if they did know--if not--then they are really not doing him any favours. For his sake Linda I hope this there will not be a repeat.
lotsa luv n huggs, kanga n Jen

Hi Linda,

I think my wise chemo friends said it all. Just remember to take care of yourself!

Thinking of you,

Kay