Lost husband 2 months ago

goodspirits
goodspirits Member Posts: 4
edited March 2014 in Surviving Caregivers #1
I lost my husband who turned 33 years old on April 1st. He passed away on April 6th and our 5th year ann. was suppose to be on May 15th. I miss him so much and feel so alone. everyone was here during the first two weeks now everyone has gone back to their families and loved ones and i cant. I am looking to talk to other young widows to know i'm not alone in this at 30 years old. The wound is so fresh and hurts so much. I feel very lost and all my dreams feel crushed. He was a believer in Christ and i still am because it seems to be the only thing that keeps me going. Would love to talk to others.

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  • msh442
    msh442 Member Posts: 3
    #2
    dear goodspirits, Though I am not as young as you, I too lost my husband of nearly 34 years in April 2004. He was buried the day before our 34th anniversary and this was hard. He was 54 years old and I will be 53 this summer. I am fortunate in that I have 2 grown children who live close and also 2 granddaughters 2 1/2 and 3 months who keep me entertained. The biggest thing I miss is that after all these years, I don't have my best friend here to tell the funny things that happened, or to gossip with. We had the same sense of humor and could laugh about anything. My kids have been great but it is not the same. Keep your chin up, try to keep busy, and most of all treasure your memories. I have started doing a little bit of journaling and that has helped me just to know that I have my memories wrote down and am not worried that they will slip away too. Also my daughter is a scrapbooker and she is working on a book for me of our life together and that has been a help to go through old pictures and see the layouts that she creates. I have no talent in that area so it is great that she does. Hope this helps you. I know how hard it is but you can't let it get you down. You are way too young to do that. Let me hear from you if you would like. Maybe we can keep each other sane. LOL.
  • sandshoke
    sandshoke Member Posts: 2
    #3
    I can sympathize with you 100%. I am only 31 years old and lost my husband right before what would have been our 3rd anniversary he was only 34. I would like to tell you it will get easier but that is not the case for me. I seem to be hitting what I would consider rock bottom right now just from missing him so much. I was better right after he passed away maybe I was in denial who knows. I do know that this silent killer is a horrible thing for anyone to encounter and the one thing that somewhat helps is knowing that he is not suffering anymore. If there is anything I can do to help you please feel free to e-mail me @ sandshoke@aol.com. My heart goes out to you. Sincerely,
    Sheri
  • ll7114
    ll7114 Member Posts: 3
    #4
    I also lost my husband to brain cancer 3 months ago. He was only 44 years old. I know the pain and the deep empty feeling of losing the love of your life to this horrible disease. I have gone through so much in the 2 years that he struggled with his tumor and now I feel like my life has no meaning without him. Please know that our husbands would want us to go on with our lives but we need to find a way to do this. The pain is almost too much to bear at times. I have 4 wonderful children to help me go on, but noone really understands how we feel unless you have gone through this. I dont know if the pain or emptiness will ever get better, but I know that my husband would want me to live. I know that someday we will be together again. My sincere and deepest condolences for your loss. Please know that there are others who understand.

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