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Sarah711
Sarah711 Member Posts: 5
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
Hey... I just found this website up on my computor when I came to check my email. I'm guessing that my mom accidently left it up. She was recently diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer. She did about 6 weeks of radiation and chemo and will be undergoing surgery by the end of June. My family all depends on me to hold everything together. I'm always the dependable one, and the one for everyone else to lean on. and I'm starting to realize that I have no one to lean on. It's hard to deal with especially because my mom and I don't get along about anything, and I have some serious issues with her to begin with ... I'm not sure how to react to anything, but I still have to be the strong one. I'm not sure what to do or who to turn to...?

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  • ldee
    ldee Member Posts: 1
    #2
    i am in a similar situation, always being the dependable one but we have no one. my mom has cancer back now for the 3rd time , we found out last week....my sister who is younger and has children seems to not understand the implications. and yet i am understanding to her too..but who is there for me? i guess we are strong enough to handle anything. at least thats what i tell myself...w/b
  • Sarah711
    Sarah711 Member Posts: 5
    #3
    ldee said:

    i am in a similar situation, always being the dependable one but we have no one. my mom has cancer back now for the 3rd time , we found out last week....my sister who is younger and has children seems to not understand the implications. and yet i am understanding to her too..but who is there for me? i guess we are strong enough to handle anything. at least thats what i tell myself...w/b

    I've been trying to tell myself that over and over. but its just getting harder and harder to follow through with being the strong one anymore. between work, school, taking care of the younger siblings, and everything else i do... im starting to go crazy. and they dont even appreciate me, thats the icing on the cake right there! barely ever get a thank you or anything. *sighs* i just dont know if i can handle this much longer... oh! and! my mom keeps suggesting i get some anti depressents cuz ive been "acting funny lately"!!!
  • marbuckley
    marbuckley Member Posts: 2
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    sarah ,sorry to here about your mother.if you dont mind me asking how old are you? you reminded me of my daughter,she just turned 19 and shes my shoulder to lean on,she has cancer of the sinus. this fri 8/27 will be her 3 surgery within a year. its tuff. if you have some one to talk with it helps.I wish the best for your mother and you take care of your self to.
  • Sarah711
    Sarah711 Member Posts: 5
    #5
    marbuckley said:

    sarah ,sorry to here about your mother.if you dont mind me asking how old are you? you reminded me of my daughter,she just turned 19 and shes my shoulder to lean on,she has cancer of the sinus. this fri 8/27 will be her 3 surgery within a year. its tuff. if you have some one to talk with it helps.I wish the best for your mother and you take care of your self to.

    hey marbuckley. sorry its taken so long to reply. i havent had a working computor lately. anyways. im about the age of ur daughter. a little older. the problem is i have noone to talk with. it always turns into how they are feeling before i can finish a complete thought *sighs* its just sooooooooooooooooooooooo....*ugh* i dont even know anymore...

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