I could use some support

Katie, only my opinion, but here goes:
Unfortunately, you can't make his decisions for him, and you need to get used to that. Sounds like he could seriously use some counseling, so ask (or have him ask) where he's getting the treatment if there's a social worker available to talk to him. (Truth be told, it could probably help you as well....you should ask about it too.) You both need to acknowledge that the prognosis for PC is never good, but it can be made better if you don't give up immediately, and only is worse if he alienates his support people....you might need to develop a fairly thick skin, and remember that he's probably not mad at you, he's mad at the disease. You can't take any of this personally. And you might want to tell him that, yes, 2 years isn't spectacular, but it's better than most in his stage. There's a lot that can be accomplished in that time, so if he can find a cause or a reason to occupy and drive him, that's probably a good way to go... you might want to ask yourself if he has a passion in his life, which would be a good target for his emotions. Also tell him to monitor the chemo with his doc....it's not always the first try that works...we're now on our second option, and it's looking to be about as successful as we can expect.
So you know, my wife is now 4 months past PC diagnosis, same as your stepdad: no surgery, no radiation, just chemo. We're dependent on it, and if that's all we've got, then we'll take it. And yes, it's an old saying, but we go one day at a time. Really, it's about all you can do.
Good luck to you guys........

Well first off I do wish you the best and have to say you are a lucky girl that you have more time than I did, so first off look at that... dont dwell on the negative hom and try to live everyday by looking for something possitive, I know easier said than done, but I tell you now I only had 2 mos with my father from his date of diagnoses to the date of his death, we didnt get much time to do things as he was too sick .. try to do things with him, take pictures, go places anything tiny I still tried to frasp to looking for the possitive, good example with us was even though every day was a bad day I would try to think to myself what was GOOD about today and be it he made a dry joke, or just was able to have a few bites of pizza those were the GOOD things, its not much but its something and I know all to well its easier said than done but one has to try

Also don't look at it totally like hes mad at you or anyone else.. my dad had the same reaction hes mad at himself, maybe for not being able to be a father, provider hes mad because he cant be here with you for the future and his bodys giving out on him, yes to be honest my dad was mad at me, but its not intentional, he said he was mad because I was able to do things he couldnt its like a jealousy mad, try to be supportive, try to think of things to do now that you can remember in the future on the possitive side and spend whatever time you can with him, even though you may not be there in person you are there in spirit and a phone call or email is way better than nothing.... I regret not having more time with my dad and had to make some tough decisions such as giving my son up for adoption to give him a better life and care for my dad and mom (had colon cancer) till their demises, now Im the only sole survivor of my family and honestly am a little scared too so your not alone, just a word of advice form personal experience... You cant change him he has to want to change himself and try to find the possitive in everyday, it may not be anything much or anything we would normally notice in everyday life but sometimes it takes a tragedy to make those little things more important if you need to talk IM here... BIG HUGS!! Anna blondebomber54304@yahoo.com