Family thinks I'm cured

annh7
annh7 Member Posts: 4
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Now that I'm finished with Chemo and Radiation, my family thinks I should be cured, and back to normal. But actually, I am more tired than before, I don't want to complain, but, I'm not back to normal, and they don't understand.

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  • sunnyskye
    sunnyskye Member Posts: 31
    #2
    You can complain and you can even cry if you want. I wish I had done that but the same thing was happening around me during the entire ordeal. I had to be strong, for them. It is a mistake to think that way at least that's what I learned. My family was an emotional mess so I took it upon myself to be the strong one. It is really really difficult on you to do that. I was trying to protect them from what I was going thru but was making myself worse. So, you don't have to complain but just let them know it will be a long time before normal reaches you again and they ought to be aware of that....that you cannot do what you use to do yet physically. I didn't cry during the entire thing, from dx to halfway thru my treatment. My mother was a mess already and my 19 year old daughter was too so I figured I needed to shield them from the anxiety I was feeling about it all. Halfway thru my treatment I completely broke down and walked out of the radiation off one day because I just couldn't do it anymore. They put me on a nasty drug called paxil and I finished up the treatment and remained on that for almost a year. I won't ever go on that kind of drug again tho and learned that you cannot hold in your feelings when you are going thru something so traumtic as it makes the things your going thru worse. My email is sunny_skye@hotmail.com ... I hope you decide to right so that you know you have someone you can talk to about it. I wish I had done that back then. I wish you good health and the best of luck, Diana
  • lynne40
    lynne40 Member Posts: 87
    #3
    I'm going through that also right now. People say "you look good" so everythings OK? Right? What are you worried about? Be positive!" I am positive, and little has changed all through treatment. I'm exercising again and I take care of the family like I always did. BUT I'm still frightened and I feel "changed" and I don't like the change! To be fair to others though I knew little about cancer either before I got it and I asssumed when people finished treatment they were cured!I was shocked when docs told me you will always have the cancer label with you. I think it is one of those things that no matter how much you love someone and empathise with them unless it's happened to you, you really can't understand it. I'm trying to remember my own ignorance beforeMY diagnosis when dealing with family. They really can't understand, be supportive of course but like the old saying goes walk a mile in my shoes. Hang in there. It gets easier, some days! Hugs,
    Lynne
  • judiek
    judiek Member Posts: 71
    #4
    That is very unforunate that your family thinks that way. Two weeks after I finished chemo and radiation I nearly collapsed from exhaustion. I felt pretty good going through treatment. But something hit me hard when I finished and I didn't feel like doing anything. It lasted 6 to 8 weeks. But when my energy starting coming back it came back quickly. Take your time with healing, remember you not only killed the bad cells you killed some good. My doctor told me it would take a minimum of 6 months after treatment before you really get your energy back. Don't worry...do what you can and rest if you need to. Make sure your getting good nutrition and excersise...it really does help. Good luck to you

    warm regards,

    Judie
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    #5
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  • Snookums
    Snookums Member Posts: 148
    #6
    sunnyskye said:

    You can complain and you can even cry if you want. I wish I had done that but the same thing was happening around me during the entire ordeal. I had to be strong, for them. It is a mistake to think that way at least that's what I learned. My family was an emotional mess so I took it upon myself to be the strong one. It is really really difficult on you to do that. I was trying to protect them from what I was going thru but was making myself worse. So, you don't have to complain but just let them know it will be a long time before normal reaches you again and they ought to be aware of that....that you cannot do what you use to do yet physically. I didn't cry during the entire thing, from dx to halfway thru my treatment. My mother was a mess already and my 19 year old daughter was too so I figured I needed to shield them from the anxiety I was feeling about it all. Halfway thru my treatment I completely broke down and walked out of the radiation off one day because I just couldn't do it anymore. They put me on a nasty drug called paxil and I finished up the treatment and remained on that for almost a year. I won't ever go on that kind of drug again tho and learned that you cannot hold in your feelings when you are going thru something so traumtic as it makes the things your going thru worse. My email is sunny_skye@hotmail.com ... I hope you decide to right so that you know you have someone you can talk to about it. I wish I had done that back then. I wish you good health and the best of luck, Diana

    sunnyskye is right, talk to them. Just be honest and say what you are feeling. Then, lower your expectations of them. They didn't have cancer and never will really know what you feel. They can adapt and will with your open communication. To let them go on this way isn't fair to you, to them or to the next people they encounter/ share a diagnosis with. It will be a good outcome and it will bring you all closer just take the first step. Prayers and Blessings for you- C

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