Daughter of Mom with Ovarian Cancer

mymomsdaughter
mymomsdaughter Member Posts: 5
edited March 2014 in Ovarian Cancer #1
Hello all, I am writing to see if there is anyone who needs a friend through all of this. My mother passed away from Ovarian Cancer this past October, and I miss her deeply. She was a stage four by the time she was diagnosed, and she fought hard for a year and a half. Beside my father, I was her primary care giver, and sat with her everyday so that my dad could continue to work. I also have a wonderful husband and four children, and we all miss my mother so very much. The time my mom and I shared during the day, was time that I wouldn't give up for anything. It was so hard holding the bucket while she continuely vomited, or when she became so weak and couldn't even wash herself. I would like to offer my support to someone else. I would like a 'penpal' or someone whom my need a sarogate daughter, I am missing my mother terribly, and think this my help me as much as it may help you. Margie Rife, 31, in Ohio

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  • BonnieR
    BonnieR Member Posts: 1,526 Member
    Hi so sorry for the loss of your mother. I lost my mom November 7, 2003 (not to cancer though) I am a mother of 3 and grandmother of 7 and survivor of stage 3c ovarian cancer. I would love to email or chat with you. Cancer at times is a lonely road for both the survivor and caregiver. Thanks for your posting and sharing with us all. BonnieRose
  • TealRibbon
    TealRibbon Member Posts: 44 Member
    Dear "mymothersdaughter",

    You are so sweet. What a wonderful daughter you must have been to your Mom. I am so sorry about your loss.

    I live in Ohio too, you can post here or email me anytime you need to talk. I think it is sometimes harder on the caregiver than the patient.

    God bless you for being such a sweet daughter and for thinking enough of others to post your offer of support to others fighting this terrible beast.
  • als26
    als26 Member Posts: 46 Member
    Hello-
    My Mom passed away on Jan. 7th of 2004. I miss her every minute of every day. Nothing is the same anymore. I am an only child and I'm 28. Like you, I was my mother's primary caregiver. She also had stage IV OVC. She was diagnosed in Dec. '01. I can without a doubt relate to your story about holding the "bucket" and the bathing issues. The problem that I have is that it came on so fast towards the end. We went in the hospital on Christmas and never left. I truly thought she could handle all of this up until the very end when she was too weak and could no longer speak or eat/drink. I'd love to hear from you and share some of my stories. I'm curious to see how others are dealing with this disease or what they may have experienced.
    Sincerely,
    ALS26
  • mymomsdaughter
    mymomsdaughter Member Posts: 5
    ASL,
    I sent a reply to your posting, it should be in your ACS inbox. You can email at my home email anytime at Mymothersdaughter@columbus.rr.com
  • healthy
    healthy Member Posts: 5
    Hello, I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother was very lucky to have had you at her time of need. Sometimes our children are in denial and don't understand what a person with cancer is going through. What a wonderful daughter you are! I have been cancer free for one year now. I was very lucky my ovarian cancer was found in stage 1a. Because it was the rare ovarian cancer I had to have chemo. I go to the drs every 4 months. I lost my grandmother 5 years ago from lung and brain cancer. We were very close and I still sometimes have the need to pick up the phone and call her. I would love a penpal also. It helps to talk to others.
  • healthy
    healthy Member Posts: 5
    Hello, I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother was very lucky to have had you at her time of need. Sometimes our children are in denial and don't understand what a person with cancer is going through. What a wonderful daughter you are! I have been cancer free for one year now. I was very lucky my ovarian cancer was found in stage 1a. Because it was the rare ovarian cancer I had to have chemo. I go to the drs every 4 months. I lost my grandmother 5 years ago from lung and brain cancer. We were very close and I still sometimes have the need to pick up the phone and call her. I would love a penpal also. It helps to talk to others. Healthy
  • all4mom
    all4mom Member Posts: 8
    I could really use a penpal. my mom has ovarian cancer, 6 months to a year, the doctor told us today. I have so many emotions, i just need to share them.