Does any one find out when they have an anniversary comming up of the cancer date that they have f

hounddog
hounddog Member Posts: 115
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Hello my anniversary date is comming up of a new breastcancer in February of last year and in the back of my mind I still have fears is that normal or what. I'm Glad that I'm still alive because I have alot to live for . It still seems like I snap at people and I don't mean to . Also does any one find out that they are still sore after a year.I do go for walks when my dad takes his dog and I take my little dog for a walk .I walk about a mile one way and back to the house. I find out I have to go at my own pace though . My mind ,body and spirit did go through alot but we all did and I think that is what drains us emotionally when we have a part of us removed.
We are supposed to take one day at a time but at times that is hard to do especially when we are tired like I stay.
Marilyn

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  • DeeNY711
    DeeNY711 Member Posts: 476 Member
    #2
    My bilateral mastectomies were done February 20, 2003 and yes, it is perfectly normal to have fears of what the future holds. Within the next few weeks you will probably discover your strength and stamina returning in measureable amounts. I returned to work on February 17th, and it was one of the hardest things I have ever attempted. However, not even a week later, I look at the phenomenal difference between the first evening back at work and this evening, and it is incredible. I've been trying to push just a little harder every day. Maybe you need to force yourself to move on.
    Love,
    Denise
  • inkblot
    inkblot Member Posts: 698 Member
    #3
    Hi Marilyn:

    I don't celebrate my dx date at all. In my mind, it isn't something deserving of a celebration. Some women mark their dx date as their "survival anniversary date", so it just depends upon how you feel about it. I do specially acknowledge my completion of treatments date, as that, for me, was the best day of the whole ugly trip. When I walked out of the rad room from that last tx, I felt wonderful, free and DONE! You'll find your perspective with time and know which date(s) feel right for you. Or you can choose to celebrate no dates at all. In reality, every day is cause for celebration, after where we've been.

    It's great that you're out walking every day! What else are you doing to help regain your stamina/strength? Careful diet, supplements, stress reduction, etc.?

    Also, are you still taking any meds? Some meds can certainly effect how you feel. I'd advise talking with your doctor about it and if your systems, including blood work, counts, heart and lungs are fine, then maybe it's time to begin a daily gentle exercise regimen for muscle strengthening and cardio/vascular as well, which would include some aerobics. Get your docs ok before starting exercising and you'll want to move into it slowly and build up from there. If you're healthy, you'll be amazed at how quickly
    your body can begin to benefit from, as well as handle, more strenuous workouts.

    As Denise said, sometimes we need to push ourselves a bit. When our bodies have physically had the equivalent of a long winter's nap, it naturally tires easily and we have to wake it up again.

    Good luck and keep us posted.

    Love, light and laughter,
    Ink
  • Leenie
    Leenie Member Posts: 33
    #4
    Hi Marilyn,
    I to was diagnoised in Feb of last year, I also in the back of my mind think what if? I then tell myself take it easy you have been through alot this past year. How old are You? I am 40 (39) when I found out. It took awhile but I am back to running every morning and in fact running the Mini marathon here in Indianapolis in May.. Don't worry keep it one day at a time and the energy will come back.. Only happy thoughts..

    Leenie
  • tlmac
    tlmac Member Posts: 272 Member
    #5
    Hi Marilyn, I found my mass in the shower January 19, 2003 and had cancer confirmed a week later. My surgery, a bilateral mastectomy, was on February 6 of last year and I finished AC May 8th. I find that, even a year later, I can easily slip into panic mode. It's that mind set that weakens me more than my treatments. Physically I'm back to as near 100% as I'll ever be but worry can have a debilitating effect. When I'm at the gym, laughing and joking with 2 or 3 other overweight middle-aged women, I forget for a while about the battle I fought and won, I feel great and full of energy. It helps me to get my mind off it completely, for even brief periods of time and by whatever means. There was a time when I thought I'd never be able to think about anything else but it is getting easier.
  • sunnyskye
    sunnyskye Member Posts: 31
    #6
    I was told it takes up to two years (if you've had radiation) for things to stop hurting. It has been a year and a half and I still get pains...not horribly bad pains but annoying little nagging pains at times and my oncologist says it is normal. I know where you are coming from and so do the people around you. When you are worried about it, it's normal to be snappy at people and when you are still having pain, it still worries you. I try very hard to forget about it and get on with life. I don't think tho that a breast cancer survivor ever really forgets, it just is placed somewhere in your mind until maybe it hurts again. It's very hard to live with the up and down emotions and takes a long time to get adjusted after cancer surgery. Don't beat yourself up because your snappy. It's common for any of us. The pain will go away eventually. It's important to tell yourself that. And yes, as far as I go, about two weeks before the visit to the doctor I begin to worry about it. I am only assuming that's a normal part of the process. Good luck with your one year visit. I go back in April for my 1 and a half year visit. At my one year visit I had to have another biopsy done which totally flipped me out and sent me down that road of worry again but it turned out to be fat necrosis and nothing more. I truly wish ya luck at your visit. Feel free to email me if you'd like. sunny_skye@hotmail.com
  • ceezhar
    ceezhar Member Posts: 12
    #7
    inkblot said:

    Hi Marilyn:

    I don't celebrate my dx date at all. In my mind, it isn't something deserving of a celebration. Some women mark their dx date as their "survival anniversary date", so it just depends upon how you feel about it. I do specially acknowledge my completion of treatments date, as that, for me, was the best day of the whole ugly trip. When I walked out of the rad room from that last tx, I felt wonderful, free and DONE! You'll find your perspective with time and know which date(s) feel right for you. Or you can choose to celebrate no dates at all. In reality, every day is cause for celebration, after where we've been.

    It's great that you're out walking every day! What else are you doing to help regain your stamina/strength? Careful diet, supplements, stress reduction, etc.?

    Also, are you still taking any meds? Some meds can certainly effect how you feel. I'd advise talking with your doctor about it and if your systems, including blood work, counts, heart and lungs are fine, then maybe it's time to begin a daily gentle exercise regimen for muscle strengthening and cardio/vascular as well, which would include some aerobics. Get your docs ok before starting exercising and you'll want to move into it slowly and build up from there. If you're healthy, you'll be amazed at how quickly
    your body can begin to benefit from, as well as handle, more strenuous workouts.

    As Denise said, sometimes we need to push ourselves a bit. When our bodies have physically had the equivalent of a long winter's nap, it naturally tires easily and we have to wake it up again.

    Good luck and keep us posted.

    Love, light and laughter,
    Ink

    Today is my one year "cancer-free" anniversary! I finished radiation and was given the word then, so...that is what I look to, not the diagnosis date (although I remember it). Of course, we all have doubts and concerns at times. I had my every 3 mo. all-clear last Friday, and I still have a nagging in my brain--I probably always will on occasion. Hang in there and keep talking to people like us and asking questions. Go to the Emotional Support board and view what "ceezhar" and "truejoy8" had to say. Very encouraging. Prayers for you!

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