Club Membership

jake10
jake10 Member Posts: 202
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
You all know this is a club we never wanted to join, but you meet the nicest people.
I was at a gift store yesterday, oohing and ahhing at the pretty Christmas decorations, I commented to a woman in the store that it was very warm (hot flash, you know). She starting talking to me while we waited in line. Low and behold she is a BC survivor (8 years). We had a wonderful chat that passed the waiting time while they wrapped a gift I purchased.
Then there are all the women at this site. I'm kind of proud to be a member. If I had to get cancer at least I'm in good company. Warm thoughts, Beth

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  • hummingbyrd
    hummingbyrd Member Posts: 950 Member
    #2
    Good point Beth, I really like your perspective.
    Tough club to be in, but non-the-less it does have its benefits. Meeting people like you and the other kind, loving ladies on this site is definately a plus. Oh, and the guys too! (Can't forget the men, now can we?)
    Best wishes for the holidays!
    (((HUGS))) hummb
  • inkblot
    inkblot Member Posts: 698 Member
    #3
    Thanks for posting such an uplifting and sweet message. It's so nice to have those happenstance meetings with wonderful people. I've had many of those little treasures and am grateful for every single one!

    For many of us here, I think everyday is thanksgiving in a sense. We share so much while maintaining hope and finding joy. We try to lift spirits as we have our own spirits lifted. We hurt together, vent together and share much of our deepest selves. We all drink from the same well, while we also try to lift a cup for our sisters who are most thirsty. That's one heck of a lot for which to be thankful.


    Love, light and laughter,
    Ink
  • obliva
    obliva Member Posts: 18
    #4
    When I first was diagnosed in 1997 I decided that what I was experiencing was a detour from the route I had planned for my future years. There were a couple of times I cried (after being told my mammogram was positive), but I tried to think of this as a journey, not one I wanted, but one I could learn from. And, to make it a positive experience for me. This time, I'm not quite so positive. You mentioned ohhing and awwing at Christmas decorations. I don't even want to look for mine. I have no desire to make a big deal (or even a little deal) out of this season. Luckily my husband isn't a big holiday person so I guess I'll just go to my daughter's for Christmas eve. I feel like I just want to get through it without any hassle or guilt for not feeling the holiday spirit.
  • hummingbyrd
    hummingbyrd Member Posts: 950 Member
    #5
    obliva said:

    When I first was diagnosed in 1997 I decided that what I was experiencing was a detour from the route I had planned for my future years. There were a couple of times I cried (after being told my mammogram was positive), but I tried to think of this as a journey, not one I wanted, but one I could learn from. And, to make it a positive experience for me. This time, I'm not quite so positive. You mentioned ohhing and awwing at Christmas decorations. I don't even want to look for mine. I have no desire to make a big deal (or even a little deal) out of this season. Luckily my husband isn't a big holiday person so I guess I'll just go to my daughter's for Christmas eve. I feel like I just want to get through it without any hassle or guilt for not feeling the holiday spirit.

    Hey obliva, don't feel guilty for not feeling 'the holiday spirit'. It's so commercialized I don't think there's much spirit left to feel. The big fat man with the white beard has taken over thanksgiving and he's working on halloween!
    I don't think the oohing and ahhing was the point,
    but instead just a side note.
    The point being, there are a heck of a lot of people out there with cancer! As horrible as the diagnosis may seem, at least we can say we have a great support group here. Lots of loving kind women who care about each other, and like it or not there are a lot of nice people out there with the same common bond as us.
    So BAH-HUM-BUG the commercialization of Christmas!
    I'm right there with you, but I thank God for another year here with my children.
    (((HUGS))) hummer
  • jake10
    jake10 Member Posts: 202
    #6
    inkblot said:

    Thanks for posting such an uplifting and sweet message. It's so nice to have those happenstance meetings with wonderful people. I've had many of those little treasures and am grateful for every single one!

    For many of us here, I think everyday is thanksgiving in a sense. We share so much while maintaining hope and finding joy. We try to lift spirits as we have our own spirits lifted. We hurt together, vent together and share much of our deepest selves. We all drink from the same well, while we also try to lift a cup for our sisters who are most thirsty. That's one heck of a lot for which to be thankful.


    Love, light and laughter,
    Ink

    I find that being gratemful helps me to not be angy, scared or victimized. I am thankful for an early diagnosis, I am thankful for insurance, I am thankful for my children, I am thankful for my granddaughter, ect.........
    Doesn't leave a whole lot of time for the other less productive feelings. Sure they sneak through once in a while. Beth

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